Losing the plot with children!!

Knelley

Chewy huns....I have been there!:eek: My 2 boys are now 4 and 6 and BOY do they STILL drive me to distraction. I nicknamed them The Krays:D

They either love each other or hate each other. It was bliss until the little one hit 2 and then OMG:eek: my house has turned into a mad house. It is like when you have a dog and they have that mad half hour where they run mental and you are looking at them in sheer OMGness:rotfl: Well, my boys do that once a day, they don't have a set time for it, it just occurs out the blue, then BANG!! You have 2 wee monsters on your hands.:rotfl: Oh, the joy of being a mother:rolleyes: My answer? I have been working 16 hours since they were both 6 mths old and I wouldn't be without it. Actually, I am starting a new job next week that is 30 hours as I need more and I want my little ones to live longer than their years and if I stay at home any longer well.........;)

chewy62

:rotfl: Very sensible Knelley! i love going to work and always take my time driving home via the shops! Is it just boys or do little girls have mad hours too?;)

loopylass

put it this way id rather look after 10 boys to 1 little girl when my daughter was little she used to drive me mad(i have 4 kids) and i found there was no point in shouting as she used to get worse and i got more stressed ignore a lot of the bad but praise the good, make sure they are occupied and not bored and you will win also have rules and a reward chart might help
As my youngest is 8 i dont need to do the reward chart now but if they get 3 warnings during the course of a day then they get grounded for 24 hours(no going out and no games console) and it works i hardly get stressed because im in control

Children know what buttons to press and the more you shout the more they play up sometimes it was very hard at the beginning but you will see a difference in their behaviour

Good luck

ailuro2

OK, I'm a Mum,so I'm presumably qualified to comment-

where were you when they emptied out the drawers?
If you trust a 2yo and a 4yo not to trash the place while your back is turned,then feel free to turn your back on them,otherwise you have to find them something to do that will keep them occupied while you make lunch/go to the loo/whatever. Mega blocks is great, as are sticklebricks. Keeps them in one place for a little while.
Taking them to a park or out for a walk every day to run off some of their energy helps too.Now the weather is nicer it's great to get out and about,and you wll meet some other Mums at the park too.Try to time it to bump into them and you will end up with some adults to talk to during the day.

fwiw,I think kids crave routine and boundaries,and these boys are crying out for someone to be the boss in the house.
Shouting will get you nowhere. If you shout ,all it means to them is they have managed to get a really excited reaction from you,which is a bonus to kids that age.

Our child is no angel but all sorts of people used to comment on how 'good' she was when she was young. I always told them we let her know who the adults were from a very early age and gave her set boundaries and she was always a very happy child.Yes, she tested the boundaries on occasion, but I'd always expect her to have a go now and then.
When she did I'd simply say 'No' and tell her why she wasn't allowed to,for example,climb out the cat flap.
Have a watch of those Nanny911 and Supernanny programmes, they do offer some good ideas, and at least you'll feel your two aren't the worst boys when you see some of the unruly kids.Must warn you,though,the parents are normally the ones who have to take action first,and look at their own behaviours.;)

chewy62

thanks for the great advice, all common sense isn't it? they usually play quite well on their own while I get on with chores, so I probably take for granted that I need to check on them.Feel much better now, they were both asleep for 8;15 last night which is geat for the 4 YO, he wanted to stay up longer and usually I would giev in but i stood my ground and was pleased with myself. How sad!

loopylass

you done the right thing i have always had a bedroom routine and never gave in because they will think your a push over
Children like security and let them no whose boss
My children got in several situations when they were little but looking back at the situation i know it was when i left them e.g hanging washing out etc so i used to get them to hold the peg basket and another one handing me the clothes lol just so i knew where they were
I used to take them for a nice walk every day feeding ducks,splashing in puddles etc
you will find once you get into a routine and set some rules things will just tick into place

emmaroids

and of course , never forget to praise your kids and make a fuss when they do good things.

looneyleo

I'm sure there are lots of mums (and dads) out there who feel the same as you... I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and work three days per week. My kids week is planned so that we do something everyday:

Monday - local college creche (you don't have to do a course) £3.50 for 2 hours
Tuesday - Playland (local activity centre) - free- parents bought a year long membership for their birthdays (GREAT present!)
Wednesday - shopping in town, visit to library - free
Thursday - Sure Start family fun session - free
Friday - either creche again, or parks, feed the ducks.

Sat/Sun depends if dad is at work but includes lots of time in the garden, bike rides, parks, craft activities, cooking, baking etc.

If we are out, then the kids don't mess the house up so much, I'm not stressed, I'm spending time with them - not trying pointlessly to get jobs done in the house and we have fun! They are then tired in the pm (2 YO goes for a nap), 4 YO has quiet time watching videos etc. And then that just leaves it from 4:00 - 7:00 for dinner, bath and bed routine. It helps each day go faster when you have a plan and you don't get so stressed and lonely. try to enjoy them as much as possible...and it will get easier!

lebly

Sorry but I think you are doing great as for the where were you - mine can cause that much distraction even if i just go for a pee! you cannot have your eyes on them every second of the day - its what children do!

You have to cook pee etc etc etc it will allways happen then!

David_B_2

chewy62 wrote: »

:mad: I have blown a gasket today with my 4YO and 2YO sons, they are driving me mad! They emptied my hubby's drawers and threw clothes everywhere, I shouted and screamed and cried and shut 4YO in his room, but he was still naughty when he came out! 2 YO keeps nipping and biting me and when I shout at him he just laughs!
I work 2 days a week and think I need to work more as I get soooo bored at home and feel as if life is going on without me outside. 4 YO goes to nursery for 3 hours in afternoon and I also mind my 1 YO neice for 2 days a week, and she cries constantly!!! Help!!! Any advice for keeping sane peeps?:o

I am a parent and seeing things like this really upsets me. We all need to make the most of our little treasures because they are not little forever nor do they really understand what they are doing. Life is a game for them and so it should be.

Yes I have my moments and yes they need to be told right from wrong but in the right way. I just thank my lucky stars for what I have got.

Take a look at my post on the charity board called 'The miracle Boy' (sad tail) and this has changed my thinking forever!

After looking at that, are they really that bad?

Big hug time I feel.

I hope things improve soon for you.