Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)

Nikkster

LydiaJ wrote: »

The problem is that the purpose of words is to communicate, which isn't helped by people using words they way they personally mean them, if other people will understand those words as meaning something quite different. Someone might say "lover" meaning "the person I love and who loves me" but the majority of the population take "lover" to mean "bit on the side". Likewise, "partner" is generally understood as meaning "cohabitee" or "general word covering cohabitee/spouse/civil partner etc". I think you're braver about saying what you want to say and not caring what people think than I am!

It's the same problem that I had when I was separated - just how do you refer to somebody who isn't an ex-husband, because you're not divorced yet, but who isn't living with you any more? Generally it's easier just to refer to them as Fred, or whatever the name is, and then explain who they are if necessary. If this bloke sticks around with Sue, as I suspect all the NP are really hoping he will, then she'll have to decide how to refer to him online as well as IRL, just as all of us regulars know that foundinrates/fir is lir's husband, and LNE is my late-nearly-ex-husband.

I suppose in some ways, 'OH' is quite useful as it doesn't have the usual assumptions of 'lover' or 'partner' etc. Esp as an online alternative to using a name as you might in real life (and being quick to type )

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Its seriously frustrating, especially when they keep telling ME I need to act quickly becuase of the vision issue (if one more person tells me eye sight is precious i might bite them....I KNOW, they are MY eyes :rotfl:) .

Yes, this must be very patience-testing. I hope someone manages to sort themselves out and get you seen soon.

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

Yes, this must be very patience-testing. I hope someone manages to sort themselves out and get you seen soon.

Iam calmer now, i have just had the resultsof thaty ruddy mri. I have an appt the week after next nhs and another one probably the week after that,which may be private. At least the system seems to integrate out here, even if its glacial paced.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

http://thesaurus.com/browse/boyfriend

I like 'honey'. But inamorato sounds suitably grown up and yet undefined, don't you think?

Inamorato is a fabulous word. I'm not sure I've come across the masculine version of it before, and one of my only two encounters with the feminine version is in the Flanders & Swann hippopotamus song... His inamorata adjusted her garter and lifted her voice in duet... (The other instance was in a novel.)

I'm not sure I've got sufficient confidence to use it in casual conversation, though, or "object of affection" either. However, I don't really need to worry about it, do I? Not unless I can find the right bloke to whom to refer by whatever term I eventually pick. Nikkster is right that OH is a great cover-all online.

misskool

i think i am coming down with a cold

mystic_trev

misskool wrote: »

i think i am coming down with a cold

Join the club. I get all through the Winter with nowt, then the first sign of sunshine and I get this. Sore throat, coughing, sneezing and very grumpy :mad:

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

My gp chased the 'urgent' referal today. Two to sox weeks nhs. Not good enough, not good enough at all.

So chasing private again this afternoon.

Awww... at least you're in the system and moving forwards in whichever queue you end up in! That's always a good start... diagnosis and in the system/queue.

I wish I were nearer, then I could have offered daily Hospital visits with goodies and stuff you want/need.

*hugs* in the meantime, while you're waiting.

I was thinking of you today while I was at the beach.... I ended up on one of the parts where dogs are allowed (dogs were too MUCH allowed, but that's another post) ... and I thought how big dog and dog dog would love to be swimming in the sea and catching the ball in the water.

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

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I heard a story many years ago... well, story/joke, I read it and it was probably a joke in Readers' Digest in the Dentist waiting room....

It was a woman saying she always introduces her husband to new people as "This is my first husband..." she said it keeps him on his toes

PasturesNew

Nikkster wrote: »

I suppose in some ways, 'OH' is quite useful as it doesn't have the usual assumptions of 'lover' or 'partner' etc. Esp as an online alternative to using a name as you might in real life (and being quick to type )

When I see OH, I think it's a couple who are living together and haven't married.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

Awww... at least you're in the system and moving forwards in whichever queue you end up in! That's always a good start... diagnosis and in the system/queue.

I wish I were nearer, then I could have offered daily Hospital visits with goodies and stuff you want/need.

*hugs* in the meantime, while you're waiting.

I was thinking of you today while I was at the beach.... I ended up on one of the parts where dogs are allowed (dogs were too MUCH allowed, but that's another post) ... and I thought how big dog and dog dog would love to be swimming in the sea and catching the ball in the water.

Ah, thanks.

O'll be fine. Iget a bit reclusive when inhospital and tend to sleep through almost the entire stay...or was that the coma?:rotfl: no, seriously,i just SLEEP, read a bit and sleep more.