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Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)
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So, so sorry to hear that, Silver.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0
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Sadly Dad passed away.
Silvercar, I am so sorry to hear that. You are in my thoughts and prayers.PasturesNew wrote: »I wasn't sure I finished/was clear... maybe I was. I meant that instead of getting it all in one, thinking you're saving money/gaining an income to cover some of the extra costs - and ending up with something "better for less" in a way .... the reality is you add in so much to your wish list that you end up over-committed and it's sometimes best to start again and accept a slightly different configuration of solutions that might not all be on the same site.
You often see this on house programmes, where people have convinced themselves they must have a house and room for stables and that's £400k... whereas maybe they could have bought a house for £250k and a paddock with stables 400 yards away for just £50k.
We all do it .... we all want the moon on a stick.
Well, I did actually buy a house that ticked all of my "important" boxes and all but one of my "would be nice" boxes. But now I want the moon on a stick as far as men are concerned, and that's a lot harder to find than a house!Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
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Well, I did actually buy a house that ticked all of my "important" boxes and all but one of my "would be nice" boxes. But now I want the moon on a stick as far as men are concerned, and that's a lot harder to find than a house!
I think that you are wise to be extremely careful about choosing a husband. If you get the house purchase wrong, you can alter it to make it fit for purpose or sell it fairly easily. Husbands cannot be changed and are quite hard and expensive to get rid of.
Hopefully, when you meet the right man, the chemistry will be right for both of you.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
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I think that you are wise to be extremely careful about choosing a husband. If you get the house purchase wrong, you can alter it to make it fit for purpose or sell it fairly easily. Husbands cannot be changed and are quite hard and expensive to get rid of.
Hopefully, when you meet the right man, the chemistry will be right for both of you.
Thanks GDB. I appreciate that.PasturesNew wrote: »Oh dear..... the perfect man .... they're all taken by now. You've missed the boat really. Perfect men are snapped up and kept.
Yeah, I'd noticed.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Sorry to hear your news silver. Been away, didn't read until today.There is no honour to be had in not knowing a thing that can be known - Danny Baker0
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Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
So sorry to hear your news Silvercar. My condolences to you and your family.
Had a busy busy day yesterday, cat needed his jabs and was booked in for first thing yesterday but just before that, James needed a lift to work as his alarm had failed to go off (keep telling him - two alarms! Or is that just me being OCD?)
Anyway, after faffing about for most the morning, me and the remaining two boys met up with my old friend and we spent the whole day in and around the beach. Things seem to be going well and we even discussed what status we are....we both agreed we are too old to be thinking in boyfriend/girlfriend terms and too scared to think of each other as partners as that sounded too serious, so now we are just going to see what happens next and decide on that basis.
Neither of us are inclined to think of something permanent, like moving in together either in the near future or further ahead as we both like our independence and being able to do what we want to do but we also agreed the cuddles are nice.
I know this seems all rather fast going but this is an attraction which goes back almost 30 years when both of us were too embarrassed/scared to say anything to the other and only discovered our true feelings many years later when we were both in other relationships.
But for now, it is nice to feel special, nice to feel attractive to someone.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
Anyway, after faffing about for most the morning, me and the remaining two boys met up with my old friend and we spent the whole day in and around the beach. Things seem to be going well and we even discussed what status we are....we both agreed we are too old to be thinking in boyfriend/girlfriend terms and too scared to think of each other as partners as that sounded too serious, so now we are just going to see what happens next and decide on that basis.
Neither of us are inclined to think of something permanent, like moving in together either in the near future or further ahead as we both like our independence and being able to do what we want to do but we also agreed the cuddles are nice.
I know this seems all rather fast going but this is an attraction which goes back almost 30 years when both of us were too embarrassed/scared to say anything to the other and only discovered our true feelings many years later when we were both in other relationships.
But for now, it is nice to feel special, nice to feel attractive to someone.
All sounds very promising, Sue.
I am soooo pleased for you. How wonderful for you to have a lovely man who sees you as you, and not just as the boys' mum. If you think 30 years is rather fast, I can't think what you would describe as too slow. :rotfl:
I do so know what you mean about terminology. It's something I've wondered about if I ever get to that stage with someone myself. There's something faintly ridiculous about "boyfriend/girlfriend" when used by the over 40s, and as you say, "partner" sounds way too serious for a fledgling relationship. But it doesn't matter what you call it, or how you decide to fit each other into your complicated and demanding lives - the important thing is that you've told each other how you feel and you've come to an understanding.
Enjoy the cuddles - and although I'm with you on the "not in front of my children" thing, you might want to rethink your previous "snogging is for kids" idea.
Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0
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