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Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)
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What about 'lover'? Instead of bf.
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We'd have to be partaking in a particular action for that! At the moment, we both have our children around us so no opportunity.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
We'd have to be partaking in a particular action for that! At the moment, we both have our children around us so no opportunity.
Not really, i mean, love is love, whether it is the emotion or the activity.
Whether the love frows and developes.....who knows.
Personally, for me, witha. Different arritude, to say, lydia's , i would not use bf for for some i would use lover for. To me, despite the semantices bf means something.....more emotionally commited than lover, and i am sure many would put emptional commitment before activities, but for me the two were different.
I do sometimes wonder how i would counsel a younger me given opportunity though....0 -
Sue, that sounds great - really pleased for all of you (incl. the kids)
Personally, I wouldn't worry about the 'label' - so long as both of you are thinking along the same lines and are happy with it then that is the most important thing. Doesn't really matter what labels anyone else would or wouldn't want to give to your relationship.0 -
Thanks guys...
At the moment, I think we are just enjoying going through our old joint memories and taking things slowly...very slowly as we both have children to consider.
Mind you, he has been amazed at the reaction from his youngest son (who is very like my youngest son), who normally takes a while to get used to people....he was quite happily dealing with my parents yesterday as if he had known them for years. I think a huge part of that is because my parents have always been sensitive/intuitive to youngest and his needs, so they just applied the same techniques.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
My gp chased the 'urgent' referal today. Two to sox weeks nhs. Not good enough, not good enough at all.
So chasing private again this afternoon.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »My gp chased the 'urgent' referal today. Two to sox weeks nhs. Not good enough, not good enough at all.
So chasing private again this afternoon.
Oh no!
I thought the 26th had been mentioned - ie Thursday this week. Did I misunderstand?Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Not really, i mean, love is love, whether it is the emotion or the activity.
Whether the love frows and developes.....who knows.
Personally, for me, witha. Different arritude, to say, lydia's , i would not use bf for for some i would use lover for. To me, despite the semantices bf means something.....more emotionally commited than lover, and i am sure many would put emptional commitment before activities, but for me the two were different.
I do sometimes wonder how i would counsel a younger me given opportunity though....
The problem is that the purpose of words is to communicate, which isn't helped by people using words they way they personally mean them, if other people will understand those words as meaning something quite different. Someone might say "lover" meaning "the person I love and who loves me" but the majority of the population take "lover" to mean "bit on the side". Likewise, "partner" is generally understood as meaning "cohabitee" or "general word covering cohabitee/spouse/civil partner etc". I think you're braver about saying what you want to say and not caring what people think than I am!
It's the same problem that I had when I was separated - just how do you refer to somebody who isn't an ex-husband, because you're not divorced yet, but who isn't living with you any more? Generally it's easier just to refer to them as Fred, or whatever the name is, and then explain who they are if necessary. If this bloke sticks around with Sue, as I suspect all the NP are really hoping he will, then she'll have to decide how to refer to him online as well as IRL, just as all of us regulars know that foundinrates/fir is lir's husband, and LNE is my late-nearly-ex-husband.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Oh no!
I thought the 26th had been mentioned - ie Thursday this week. Did I misunderstand?
No. That was when i thought i was going , bia private refereal, to bristol as my 'back upplan' but thats been a !!!! up too.
Today the first (private)consultants secretary said ' i presume so eone has been through the scan rwaults with you?' well, NO! Thats what the consultant is meant to do, or failing that refer me to the neurologist quick smart.
Its seriously frustrating, especially when they keep telling ME I need to act quickly becuase of the vision issue (if one more person tells me eye sight is precious i might bite them....I KNOW, they are MY eyes :rotfl:) . Anyway,i am chasing again,so ....who knows.
I have a bag packed incase they want me to stay in and transport arranged if they do not, i just need to know when and where!0 -
The problem is that the purpose of words is to communicate, which isn't helped by people using words they way they personally mean them, if other people will understand those words as meaning something quite different. Someone might say "lover" meaning "the person I love and who loves me" but the majority of the population take "lover" to mean "bit on the side". Likewise, "partner" is generally understood as meaning "cohabitee" or "general word covering cohabitee/spouse/civil partner etc". I think you're braver about saying what you want to say and not caring what people think than I am!
It's the same problem that I had when I was separated - just how do you refer to somebody who isn't an ex-husband, because you're not divorced yet, but who isn't living with you any more? Generally it's easier just to refer to them as Fred, or whatever the name is, and then explain who they are if necessary. If this bloke sticks around with Sue, as I suspect all the NP are really hoping he will, then she'll have to decide how to refer to him online as well as IRL, just as all of us regulars know that foundinrates/fir is lir's husband, and LNE is my late-nearly-ex-husband.
http://thesaurus.com/browse/boyfriend
I like 'honey'. But inamorato sounds suitably grown up and yet undefined, don't you think?0
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