Revenge tips /tricks

Pollycat

I agree that there are women who go after married men but I'm sure there are those who are duped and really don't know that the guy she's been seeing for a few months is actually married.

And the wife no idea what stories her husband is telling the OW.

"My wife doesn't understand me".
"I'm only staying with her for the sake of the children".
"We have an 'open' marriage".
etc etc

mumto2loves

op, yes you should be the bigger person, and show them both by having lots of fun, and not being angry, and finding yourself a new better man.....

but in the spirit of how I took you're 1st post, lard or cooking oil on a car windscreen is a real !!!!!! to get off properly especially as the 1st thing someone normally does when the windscreen is smeary is put the window wipers on.

cottonhead

I wouldnt waste my time. Its tempting to want revenge but it shows he still has a hold on you and you would be better getting out there and enjoying your life.
She is obviously someone of few morals to do what she did so he doenst have great taste and I would say if a woman feels the need to 'steal' another womans husband its because she has very low self esteem and feels inside that she must be something special after all if he left everything for her. In reality neither of them sound like nice people and I wouldnt waste your time.

marisco_2

The best revenge of all is to move on from your ex and his new partner. Let them see that they are of no importance to you and get on with leading an independant, happy and fulfilling life and forget about them.

Revenge tends to have a horrible way of backfiring and rarely has the desired effect.

thebillet

One form of "revenge" would be to buy a large bunch of flowers, a bottle of nice wine and a big box of chocolates and put them with a tasteful and well written thank you card. Take these along to the other woman in the knowledge that she has done you a favour for which you will be forever grateful. I, for one, could not be more grateful to the current partner of my ex, it is great to know some one else is now "it" or "mug" as I had plenty by the time she went off.

mgdavid

BLUEBIE wrote: »

Christ i was only looking for a few jokey ideas, nothing major!

Probably wouldn't do them anyway, was just chearing myself up by thinking of them :-)

maybe a clue here as to why he's the ex....

ailuro2

Living well is the best revenge.

Pollycat

cottonhead wrote: »

I wouldnt waste my time. Its tempting to want revenge but it shows he still has a hold on you and you would be better getting out there and enjoying your life.
She is obviously someone of few morals to do what she did so he doenst have great taste and I would say if a woman feels the need to 'steal' another womans husband its because she has very low self esteem and feels inside that she must be something special after all if he left everything for her. In reality neither of them sound like nice people and I wouldnt waste your time.

You can't 'steal' someone who doesn't want to be stolen.

And he (as the married person) obviously has fewer morals than the woman he's having an affair with.

I'm not sticking up for the OW here, but to me, the majority of the blame for the OP's current (and hopefully short-lived) unhappiness is her husband.

paddy's_mum

mumto2loves wrote: »

lard or cooking oil on a car windscreen is a real !!!!!! to get off properly especially as the 1st thing someone normally does when the windscreen is smeary is put the window wipers on.

I'll tell you that you're a naughty girl and shouldn't be encouraging Blubie to do wicked things once I've stopped laughing!

heretolearn_2

'It always makes me laugh that people always blame the one their partner is having an affair with – blame your partner!!'

Sometimes you need to focus your feelings on the other person though. My husband and best friend !!!!!!ed off together after years of an affair right under my nose. But I had a child with my husband and was determined he shouldn't suffer being stuck in the middle of warring parents. So I focused all my negative feelings on her and carried on getting along just fine with my husband, and it paid off for my son. We continued to parent together and everything was amicable. Things are still ok between us - although son is now grown up there's not much need for contact - but I haven't said a word to her since it all happened or had any kind of contact and I still feel, let's say, strongly negative towards her. Of course I realise focussing it all on her was unfair, but it made things much better for my son.