Son embarressed by me?

KxMx

x-caitlin-x wrote: »

This is Freudian, and not really supported by any empirical research. I do think it's true that children (both boys and girls) reach an age where they feel the need to detach themselves from their parents, and start to see themselves as independent adults. Of course, they're not necessarily independent adults, but they're in transition and that's a very difficult time!

Add to that all the hormones, new expectations being placed on them, new feelings to deal with etc. and I think it's understandable that teenagers are sometimes hideous to their parents!

And an ever increasing number of parents refuse to stretch, let alone cut, the apron strings, leads to feelings of resentment/confusion/annoyance in teens.

The things I have read here on MSE in relation to parents and adult (20's, working ft but living at home still) offspring have had me alternately :eek: and :rotfl:

:cool:

I mean, my Mum was I think a bit offended when I said the other night I was sick of being stuck at home and couldn't wait to escape. So I said I was sorry if she was hurt by that, but that was the way I felt. I pointed out she got to move out of home at 18 and asked her to consider how much she would have liked still being there at 25.... well judging by the look of sheer horror on her face I think she understood!

FatVonD

barbiedoll wrote: »

I've been told that I'm not allowed to go to the cinema with DS and DH because I "laugh too loud and it's embarrassing". Or else I "cry for no reason and it's embarrassing" (because I got a bit tearful at "Toy Story 3")

When we were watching "Million Pound Drop" and I made a comment about applying to go on the show, DS said "Oh you can't go on there, you'd be all loud and embarrassing"

So basically, I'm not allowed to laugh, cry or speak at all.

I just get my own back when I drop him at school. I tell him that when he gets out of the car, I shall shout out of the window "Mummy loves you baby" He's a nervous wreck all the way there!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I read somewhere, that teenage boys have to learn to detach themselves from their mum as their surging hormones mean that they cannot allow themselves to form emotional (i.e. sexual) attachements to the person that they love the most. That's why they often make hurtful comments, it's their way of pushing us aside. It's perfectly normal and you shouldn't take it personally, it's a sign of their growing maturity.

Dunno why girls are so horrid to their mums though!

Now that's my style of parenting :rotfl: My son's friend's mum threatens to wear her slippers to pick him up from parties.

I agree with the whole Freudian thing and the stronger the attachment to the opposite-sex parent the harder they need to break free. I have offered for my son to have his friends round for a BBQ but, even with the promise of me not coming out of the house I'd still be too close for comfort :rotfl:

Pollycat

I wonder what the OP thinks of the replies she's had - she's not posted on this thread since her first post but she has been posting this morning on the Old Style board.

Mayflower10cat

Actually, I've just been reminded of (the acutely well observed!!) Kevin and Perry from Harry Enfield and chums. When Perry was at Kevin's house, he was 'thank you Mrs Patterson...' to Kevin's Mum, who thought he was lovely and so polite, but vile to his own Mum at home -and Kevin was just the same with Perry's mum!

jellyhead

KxMx wrote: »

And an ever increasing number of parents refuse to stretch, let alone cut, the apron strings, leads to feelings of resentment/confusion/annoyance in teens.

Apparently it's a running joke amongst my son's friends that I will always offer them a drink. They started timing it and taking bets on how long I would leave it before asking :rotfl:

Cat501

jellyhead wrote: »

Apparently it's a running joke amongst my son's friends that I will always offer them a drink. They started timing it and taking bets on how long I would leave it before asking :rotfl:

Love it!:rotfl: I dread to think what the running joke about me might be.....!!

Throbbe

I say go for broke. Wear something revealing and flirt with his mates.

He'll be begging to have the old mum back! :cool:

dandy-candy

Thanks for so many replies - so much truth in a lot of them! We normally get on very well and watch movies etc together and joke about, which is why I was so gobsmacked when he said it.
Just to update you, he came in from college at lunchtime and gave me a hug and said "I love you mum, and you don't embarress me" It was out of the blue so I said "It was really hurtful - I don't understand what you meant?" and he said he had just been worried I might have said stuff in front of his mates about them - apparently they don't think of him as the kind of guy who tells his mum his upsets/girl problems and he was worried I'd let something slip! I reassured him all I ever say is "Hi, how are you" etc.
I wish he had just said that to me on Friday!

jellyhead

Awww, so pleased that it's worked out