Son embarressed by me?

mandragora_2

Just do as you normally would. He'll live. I saw a fabulous example a couple of weeks ago, when a small car pulled up at the front of the local secondary school, with 'Mamma Mia' playing pretty loudly out of the system. As it pulled up to the front door, the 15 yr old son in the front clearly told his mum that she was embarrassing him with her unhip taste in music, at which she promptly turned it up even louder. Cue stormy exit from car, slamming door and much foot stomping. He was the only unhappy person around, the rest of us enjoyed it all immensly. Beat them at their own game, I say, and never make the mistake of taking it too seriously.

puppypants

Definitely get the baby pictures out. I have a wonderful one of my youngest son having his first bath after discharge from hospital. Now that one IS embarrassing!!

jellyhead

Mine is 15 and I was hurt a few weeks ago when he said Dad's cool but I'm just embarrassing. His dad had won 2 tickets to a gig and was going to take him, and said to me 'unless you want to take him on the train?' to which my son expressed horror.

He did apologise afterwards when he realised I was upset (and in the end he went with me on the train, because his dad was ill and he couldn't find anyone else who wanted to go).

He says it's a 'mum' thing. As others have said, teenage boys try to distance themselves from their mums, and at the moment with my son and his friends it seems that they are finding common ground with their fathers just at the time they don't want to be seen talking to their mum. Mums have different taste in music, whereas Dad probably listened to the stuff they think is cool nowadays. Dad probably played guitar and had a vintage games console. Dad will tell anecdotes about parties, getting drunk etc. whereas mum will be anxious to tell them about the dangers.

If he knows that you are genuinely hurt will he apologise? My son wants to spend time with me when his mates aren't around - but he does find me embarrassing when they are here. They just disappear into his room though. I think if they wanted to shoo me away from the only room/TV in the house they'd have to use some manners!

Cat501

jellyhead wrote: »

Mums have different taste in music, whereas Dad probably listened to the stuff they think is cool nowadays. Dad probably played guitar and had a vintage games console. Dad will tell anecdotes about parties, getting drunk etc. whereas mum will be anxious to tell them about the dangers.

Cripes! I think I'm a Dad!!! :shocked::shocked::shocked:

But my son is embarrassed by me regardless - I can barely talk to him in public, let alone his friends. I think it's definitely a mum/son thing and would try not to worry too much OP xx

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

All you have to do to embarrass some teenagers is to breathe.

I'd suggest he made alternative arrangements for his social life from now on, at his own cost, as it's so tough for the poor love.


After making sure there was a teddy bear on his bed, smiley faces on cupcakes offered to everyone and a gushy note on his pillow saying 'night night baby'.

Tina20

19??? I would have told him to get the heck outta my house if he wanted to be laying down rules.

Let me guess, you do his washing, you cook his tea? He needs a kick up the butt and realise he isn't a child. He's a lodger living in your house now, and he needs to play by your rules.

Gingham_R

Tina20 wrote: »

He's a lodger living in your house now,

When exactly does this happen to our offspring? How does it go from being their home to our home and they're just lodgers?

Tina20

When they become adults and need to learn to support themselves in the real world

DylanO

Tina20 wrote: »

When they become adults and need to learn to support themselves in the real world

And presumably spend time wondering when they can get their grasping little mitts on their parents' money.;)

jellyhead

Gingham_R wrote: »

When exactly does this happen to our offspring? How does it go from being their home to our home and they're just lodgers?

I can't see it happening any time soon for my 15 year old. My parents made it clear that their home is still our home whenever we need it, and any of us are free to move back in if the need arises. I moved back in when I was 19, and stayed for 2 years. I'm glad I was able to.