Son embarressed by me?

determined_new_ms

my dd is 18 she thinks I am the most embarrassing person alive! But so what sometimes I find her behaviour unpalatable as well! He'l get over it or he can hang out somewhere else to watch footbal x

annie_d

I smiled when i read your post. I have had that directed at me too! I carry on being me and his friends still kept coming over. Boys will be boys, not to worry. I would let it go.

Blackpool_Saver

All quite normal, it's the I still need mum but want to act like I don't thing.......

Auntie-Dolly

I think embarassing you kids is one of the perks of the job, but at 19 I'd expect him to have got over it a bit by now.

no-oneknowsme

Dandy Candy , I could have written your post word for word!

My Daughter is 15 years old and when she brings friends to the house I am instructed that I am not to speak to them as it is embarressing!

Kaelea

I think thats normal 19 year old behaviour, my son will say the same thing about me, even if I wasn't there, at 19 they have to be sooo 'grown up and macho' in front of their mates, try not to take it to heart *hugs*

My daughter is 20 this month, last week she swore, I heard her and grounded her oh her mates laughed :rotfl:

Gingham_R

Apparently I'm embarrassing too and will probably be so for at least the next 10 years or so.

I think you deserve to know what he's embarrassed by and I was ask in a non confrontational way for him to explain further, otherwise you're sure to continue to do whatever it is that bothered him.

I also disagree wholeheartedly with the comments about it being 'your home'. It's HIS home too and he is entitled to have friends over. However, that doesn't mean he can make comments that you find hurtful without explaining himself further.

Dunroamin

Embarrassing your children is one of the perks of parenthood!

However, I certainly think that your son was very rude to say this to you and it should have some repercussions for him.

Gingham_R

I think punishing a 19 year old for speaking his mind is just asking for him to shut down and not bother telling his mum anything in future.

Repercussions are a bad idea in my opinion.

thorsoak

dandy-candy wrote: »

I'm pretty taken aback right now. Yesterday my DS1 (19) asked to have some mates over to watch the footie. I said fine, and then he turned around and said "Don't embarress me in front of my friends" I said ofc not and he said "You always do"
I didn't really know what he meant so I asked and he said "When you talk to them"?! I literally say "Hi, how you doing?" to them so I said to DS1 "Ok fine, I haven't heard you giving this speech to dad btw" and he replied "No, dads really cool, it's just you"
I was so hurt I didn't know what to say. Then after a bit he came back and said "It's really only when you talk to the girls" Well he has only ONCE ever had girls here which was at his 18th birthday party we hosted, and then other than saying "Hi" at the door the only other thing was one girl I have know since small came up to me and chatted a bit in the kitchen - about what I can't even remember but nothing other than pleasantries.
He was having a girl I know he likes over last night (not sure if she came to his 18th) but I think it was a pretty horrid thing to say to me - esp as it was just direced at me and not a general "parents" thing.

Helloo!!! - whose house is it? Yours? Yes, I thought so - and therefore you are entitled to embarrass ANYONE in your own home :D:D In fact, it is the bounden duty of every mother to embarrass her teenage/older offspring - at every possible opportunity!!!

What a cheeky git you have raised - next time he asks - demand that he funds an evening out for you and OH ...thus ensuring that you cannot embarrass him :D