Son embarressed by me?

osian

I think it's fairly normal. I remember being the same from about the age of 12 to 15/16 ish. I remember walking about 3m behind my mum as it was embarassing to be seen out with my parents. By 18/19 though, I'd definitely grown out of it though, but perhaps that's because I'm female and perhaps matured earlier than boys of the same age.

Don't take it personally, I wasn't really embarassed by my mum/dad (they didn't really do anything bad to shame me), but it just wasn't cool to be with your parents.

Pollycat

I can appreciate it being normal for kids to feel embarrassed about their parents but this was a personal dig at the OP (rather than both of his parents), made worse imho, by the fact that he went on to say that his Dad didn't embarrass him, he was really cool.

And then, he couldn't come up with an example of when his Mum had embarrassed him.

I think the OP deserves an apology.

Bennifred

Embarrassing your children is definitely one of the perks!:D If any of my boys are foolish enough to say anything about embarrassment they get a double dose of whatever it was the next time - hahaha! I tell them it's payback for the umpteen times they've embarrassed me over the years.

Actually it is all done with good humour on both sides (I think!) - it's never anything too awful.

liney

He obviously realised he'd upset you so reverted to the line about girls, and he probably didn't mean to upset you hence the rapid backtrack.

However, you may not speak much to his friends, but do you find yourself hovering, randomly tidying, standing in doorways?

Sambucus_Nigra

He can't be THAT embarrassed or he wouldn't have his mates round in the first place.

barbiedoll

I've been told that I'm not allowed to go to the cinema with DS and DH because I "laugh too loud and it's embarrassing". Or else I "cry for no reason and it's embarrassing" (because I got a bit tearful at "Toy Story 3")

When we were watching "Million Pound Drop" and I made a comment about applying to go on the show, DS said "Oh you can't go on there, you'd be all loud and embarrassing"

So basically, I'm not allowed to laugh, cry or speak at all.

I just get my own back when I drop him at school. I tell him that when he gets out of the car, I shall shout out of the window "Mummy loves you baby" He's a nervous wreck all the way there!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I read somewhere, that teenage boys have to learn to detach themselves from their mum as their surging hormones mean that they cannot allow themselves to form emotional (i.e. sexual) attachements to the person that they love the most. That's why they often make hurtful comments, it's their way of pushing us aside. It's perfectly normal and you shouldn't take it personally, it's a sign of their growing maturity.

Dunno why girls are so horrid to their mums though!

hardpressed

I should hope by now his dad has had a few choice words with him and told him how much he's upset you and that you deserve an apologie

pinkclouds

dandy-candy wrote: »

I think it was a pretty horrid thing to say to me

Personally, I think it's par for the course. It's only "horrid" if he was your friend instead of your child. Kids always think their parents are embarrassing at some points in their lives and the favoured parent changes from time to time. It's no worse than when he was a toddler and (probably) told daddy "I don't want you, I only want mommy" while shoving him away!

By the time you become star parent again (because it's all swings and roundabouts) I hope you'll remember this moment and feel some sympathy for hubby when son doesn't want to hang out with him. lol

flowertotmum

O thats so mean of him to say that..you do know payback is so gratifying..
I totally embarrassed my teenage dd's..who were 19,17,15 at the time by finding out i was expecting at the age of 37..they were mortified and outraged lol...i was told in no uncertain terms that i was an embarrassment to them..as 1,i was obviuosly having s*x at my age,2,it was gross and finally i wasn't allowed to go anywhere with them whilst i was pregnant..so i would go to every single parent meeting and PTA i could with my big baby bump..walk to meet them from college etc...o the look on their faces was priceless...it worked out just fine and they adore their baby sister...however they were very careful to not say a word when i had another baby girl at 40...
On the other hand my son never said a thing and was so lovely to me during it all...
I would embarrass him on purpose if i was you OP..make him see how he has hurt you..
ftm

Alias_Omega

Parents aint Kool, when friends are new. They want to talk about women/condoms/bird & the bee's.

I however had a friend who i had known for over 20yrs. His parents knew my parents and so so. Many a time my parents would come downstairs and find him asleep on the sofa after a night out. My parents would wash his clothes etc. He probably wanted my mum to be his mum, more than his own mum.

As the friends come around more & more, you will revert to being "mum" again, and you will become Cool.

Your son seems to have the problem, not you..