Angry..do you see this as ok?

JimmyTheWig

MeganKate wrote: »

I know I feel a bit sorry for JTW as well

Thanks MK. That actually made me smile.

it must be hard knowing that your partner is probably 'cheating' on you almost 24/7

But this is just confusing me.
24/7 means every hour of the day.
Almost 24/7 must mean at least 12 times a day.

I believe that I have defined "cheating" as deliberately seeking out images/reality without your partner being involved that turn you on in order to masturbate.

I don't believe my wife does that a dozen times a day. For a start, I doubt she'd have the time!

*Louise*

Never mind all your !!!!!! stuff - I'm still waiting to find out if the OP asked her OH to disclose his emails/texts...:D


As for the !!!!!! issue - I believe in each to their own - as long as an arrangement works for a couple, whether they are both ok with it or avoid it out of respect for the other perons feelings, then it's their decision and they shouldn't be questioned or harangued about it.

Okay...OP - are you still out there?

fedupandstuff

I am here. But my thread has turned into one massive !!!!!! debate:eek:

Gave up commenting.

But i will send my thanks to all who gave their opinions on the situation.

JimmyTheWig

*Louise* wrote: »

As for the !!!!!! issue - I believe in each to their own - as long as an arrangement works for a couple, whether they are both ok with it or avoid it out of respect for the other perons feelings, then it's their decision and they shouldn't be questioned or harangued about it.

Blimey, I didn't expect someone to come in to the discussion and start talking sense!

Never mind all your !!!!!! stuff - I'm still waiting to find out if the OP asked her OH to disclose his emails/texts...:D

Okay...OP - are you still out there?

Good plan - get the discussion back on track.

Lotus-eater

*Louise* wrote: »

As for the !!!!!! issue - I believe in each to their own - as long as an arrangement works for a couple, whether they are both ok with it or avoid it out of respect for the other perons feelings, then it's their decision and they shouldn't be questioned or harangued about it.

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Blimey, I didn't expect someone to come in to the discussion and start talking sense!

I think you'll find a couple of us had already said this many pages ago.

Gingham_R

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think you'll find a couple of us had already said this many pages ago.

It's been my stance from the off.

JimmyTheWig

I know (GR, you always come on here and talk sense), but it's still refreshing to hear it again.

spugzbunny

Cripes - I think the OP could really have done with some good advice as I feel that OP is sticking her head in the sand over how bad a text like that actually is.

Instead we all went p0rn0 mad!

Shame.

For the record - I love P0rn and so does my other half but that's our decision and nobody else's business how we manage our relationship.

OP - if you need more advice I'd start a new thread but I'd tell you to really think hard about what that text meant and ask yourself if you really think that's acceptable, innocent behaviour?

fedupandstuff

I have spoken to him and he says he has nothing to hide from me. would never ever cheat on me and sees this woman as one of the lads. The term he had used is a common phrase at work amongst the lads. didnt think twice about saying it to her.

My two pence on !!!!!! is it is great as long as one person doesnt substitute sex with it. we watch it some times, he watches it on his own if he is away and i will watch it if i am on my own and particularly in the mood. I can say for sure neither of us could tell you what they look like once we have been watching. It's about what they do.
We even have one couple who do !!!!!! who we like to watch...we are aware of what they look like, but only because we enjoy what they do and love the fact it is so real and they are doing it for fun as a couple. They are not much to look at but its genuine fun and we like the same stuff they do.
porns great as long as it isn't invasive.

will say though...seeing as i am sat here being offended by something that otherhalf doesn't understand...what ever I think of !!!!!!, if i had an upset about it i would want to be listened to and have the other person have a little understanding of my reasons

determined_new_ms

Hi fedupandstuff. Sounds to me like you are feeling a bit happier than when you started this thread? Hopefully you guys will be able to talk about your feelings and find a place where you are both happy with the resolution.

I am sooooooo very sorry that my comment about "however you feel is ok and its important to be able to talk your feelings through and find a solution you are happy with" and using a personal situation to illustrate i this ended up getting so out of hand.

Hoping you find yourself in a happier place than last week x