In Laws issue.

faerie~spangles

HeatherintheHills wrote: »

Good luck. I sincerely hope you are able to put this behind you.

Errrm, not sure I appreciate the pitchfork comment. We ran with what you gave us. You could have redirected us had you chosen to.

I was about to recommend the op's wife electrified her window ledge or placed a vat of oil above the window;)

pinkclouds

Tyler_Durden_UK wrote: »

My wife is reading this thread, we are dealing with the situation. To those who have offered sincere sensible advise we thank you. Nothing more to be said really.

I hope you are both reading this thread and that you are both taking the comments on board. A marriage is a partnership.

FWIW, my comments were designed to put you in your wife's shoes and enable you to see the situation from her perspective. I believe most of the other posters were doing the same thing.

Newly_retired

I'm just back from a shopping trip wending my way through countless parked cars of parents and grandparents meeting kids from school

I hope that the OP manages to sort something out, as one day, he may very grateful to have his parents close by and available to meet LO out of school- or to drop her off with them till end of the day.
This won't happen unless he listens to his wife and a suitable arrangement is agreed all round.
I hope that in a few months' time this will all seem incredible!
Grandparents can be so valuable.

faerie~spangles

Newly_retired wrote: »

I'm just back from a shopping trip wending my way through countless parked cars of parents and grandparents meeting kids from school

I hope that the OP manages to sort something out, as one day, he may very grateful to have his parents close by and available to meet LO out of school- or to drop her off with them till end of the day.
This won't happen unless he listens to his wife and a suitable arrangement is agreed all round.
I hope that in a few months' time this will all seem incredible!
Grandparents can be so valuable.

I am a granny to two :T. OK, they live abroad but if they were to come back here to live I certainly would not do what the op's parents did!

Mr_Thrifty

Your parents sound like great people.

I'd certainly appreciate living near them.

anguk

londonsurrey wrote: »

Other than telling his wife to play nicely with the in-laws, the husband didn't mention any actions he has taken to facilitate an increase their contact with the baby.

By this I mean inviting them over x times a week in the evening when he's home, or taking the baby over to them in the evening, so allowing his wife her own space, and time to take a bath, etc.

The OP suggested to his wife that his parents take the baby for a walk at the weekend to give them some time with the baby and it would also mean he and his wife had some free time. But the wife wouldn't allow it.

Personally I think that would have been a good compromise, the in-laws would see their grand-daughter, the OP's wife would have had a few hours to herself and her own space.

nickj_2

Mr_Thrifty wrote: »

Your parents sound like great people.

I'd certainly appreciate living near them.

it's one thing living near them and them moving to the same street .
whilst i'm sure they are lovely people they need to let their son and his wife get on with their lives and be on hand to support them when needed , this doesn't give them the right to interfere with their daily lives unless asked or invited

londonsurrey

anguk wrote: »

The OP suggested to his wife that his parents take the baby for a walk at the weekend to give them some time with the baby and it would also mean he and his wife had some free time. But the wife wouldn't allow it.

Personally I think that would have been a good compromise, the in-laws would see their grand-daughter, the OP's wife would have had a few hours to herself and her own space.

Thank you for that. I missed that bit. I agree that it sounds like a good compromise. I wonder why or what reasons the wife gave for turning that option down.

balletshoes

minimacka wrote: »

I think that the 2 different perspectives on here are the people who do not get on with there inlaws and the people who do get on with there inlaws.

If i didnt get on with my inlaws then maybe my opinion would differ from the one i have now, i cannot imagine how horrible it would be to have a m.i.l. from hell and to feel like you cant do anything right.

no I have to disagree with this - its nowhere near that black and white. I said earlier that I'm not keen on anyone turning up at my home completely unnanounced - and that includes my parents, and my siblings, all of whom I am very close to, and love being with.

January20

FatVonD wrote: »

Let's hope you're right!

OP, are you prepared to tell us whether you now understand a little more why your wife might be unhappy with the situation?

Or even better, the OP's wife could register (if she is not yet a member) and update us on the situation, and perhaps put her own point across?