Cheap/free ways to meet people and make friends!

Anarchist

Well that may be true, but we all cope with things differently, so shouldn't be compared to other peoples lives!

I'll send him a text, I know he would be cool with it - he is so laid back and I've no idea how he does it sometimes. I'm not sure how old you are (but you come across as fairly young!) but he's about 29 or 30, and gets on with most people, young or old.

Anyway, the sun is shining (up here anyway!) so hopefully you'll be making the most of it! Have a nice weekend!

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hi all, thought I'd join in this thread, hope you don't mind. I'm 28 years old and I have very few real-life friends. I have two friends but one is in hospital and the other lives in Wales. I suffer from depression, anxiety, self-harm and borderline personality disorder. As you can imagine I find it very difficult to make friends. I hope I can chat to some of you on here and get some ideas on making friends.

mumoftwins

:wave: Hi Katy and everyone,

I have just spent the last hour reading this thread and I cannot believe how many of us there are in this situation!

My partner died nearly 2 years ago, I had moved to this area to be closer to my Dad and then met up with T. Things were going so well, we spent all our time together which was lovely, so I didn't really meet any 'girlfriends' - then T died................................

Like so many of you, I lack the confidence to go out and try and meet people, guess I have got into a rut, but so do want to get a good circle of friends again. Where I used to live I had, and still have, some great friends who I miss desperately.

I have joined the Meet Up site as a result of reading this thread and will have a look at evening classes, but I know what I'm like.....it's so easy not to do anything!!

(I'm 54 by the way:))

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hello mumoftwins.

Wellyboots6

I guess people end up in this situation through so many different ways.

You are right mumoftwins, it really is very easy not to do anything!

I am having productive weeks and not so productive weeks at the moment. Some weeks I get out and do lots of things and meet people, but then because I have done well I seem to lose motivation and end up sitting at home on my own again. Then I get lonely and the cycle starts all over again.

I am no good at moderation, it is all or nothing!

I have started to have text conversations with a girl I met on a meetup event, and we have discussed arranging a trip next week. She is somebody I could see becoming a real 'friend' rather than just an acquaintance.

big5

I went along to a Meetup event today and had a really good time - only a small group, but I got on well with all of them and am planning to go to some more events.

Wellyboots6

Yay!

I guess they are so good because everyone is in the same situation. Everyone is there to meet new people, and have been new themselves and so are friendly

Sugar_Coated_Owl

I wish I could find the courage to go out and meet people.

mumoftwins

Been looking for ages to learn to crochet and have found a course that starts tomorrow morning! It is for 2 hours tomorrow and the following Tuesday. So have emailed the course tutor and got myself enrolled:j.

I'm off sick with depression at the moment (work for mental health team for older people, so not the easiest place to be when you're feeling like this), so will enjoy learning and doing something totally different.

HeadAboveWater

katy721 wrote: »

I could make contact with old friends, but is that not a bit cheeky? It is my own fault that I lost touch with people, and I wouldn't know how to go about trying to re-start a friendship without it looking bad (which it is) that I didn't stay in contact

Who didn't stay in contact with who?! Friendship is a two way thing. It's as much their fault as your so don't beat yourself up Just say you fancied a catch up see what they were up to and see how it goes.

I should REALLY be doing the same thing myself....!!