Cheap/free ways to meet people and make friends!

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I hope you have a lovely time I decided I needed to meet some new people...so I took up pole fitness and hula hooping classes and they're full of nice but mad people like me haha!

HBS x

Millie2008_2

That sounds fab, Katie

I am taking my ponycarer out for the day tomorrow, just for lunch and a mooch around the shops, but it should be nice

Wellyboots6

The meetup social was good, there were at least 40 people there!

I made sure I spoke to as many people as I could. It was fun, but I ended up leaving early as I wasn't drinking due to driving. Felt a little out of place at times as most people were drinking.

I met someone who lives near me and she seemed nice.

I have put my name down for a couple of events this week, so now hopefully I will recognise quite a few people there. I think I won't be so nervous now going to these events.

I have been considering dating again, but I think it may just be loneliness driving that idea. I am not sure I am ready yet for another relationship. It terrifies me the idea of having to trust someone again.

I contacted some old friends as people suggested, and have a meal planned with one in a couple of weeks. It wasn't as awkward as I thought it would be to get back in touch

I was seeing it from my side, that I hadn't made the effort. I had forgotten though that it takes effort from both sides to stay in touch, and so it wasn't totally my fault and so the other person was not upset with me.

Sorry for the ramble, just hoping my experiences might help someone else in a similar situation

adelight

I think I need to go through this thread for ideas. I've just moved to a new town where I don't know anyone and it's a two hour journey to friends and family
I sort of feel like it's going to be more difficult than normal because I don't work locally, I don't drive, I'm young, I don't have a dog(I'd love one but live in a flat, though my LL lived here with a dog so I might have to ask how that went) or kids those common ground type things. My OH isn't very sociable but I love people, I've only spoken to him and little conversations in shops for the last week and feel miserable.

So far my only plan is Zumba as the club here looks like good fun

Wellyboots6

Zumba is a good start

Try https://www.meetup.com too that saverholic suggested. I have found that to be brilliant.

Meeting people isn't as easy as it sounds.

I do wonder if it is harder for women? Most of the men I know have a lot of friends, whereas women seem to have less. Not entirely sure why?

Wellyboots6

This is so hard!

eternal_sunshine

Awww what's up Katy?? You've really inspired me to try and get out there, really tempted by meet up, seen a few things of interest but taking that big step is harder than it seems!

Wellyboots6

I am just finding being alone difficult. I have been out today with my friends and really enjoyed it. I find the evenings lonely though.

Stupidly started dating again, and then got stood up, which has knocked my confidence again.

I have really been enjoying being single, so no idea why I decided to try dating again. Wish I hadn't as now I feel like I have taken a step backwards.

I have found meetup really good, but have lost my motivation to go to things. I am booked on one Friday next week, so really need to make myself go.

You should really try it eternal_sunshine! The ones I have been to, the people are lovely. Everyone is there to meet new people, so if you turn up for the first time, you get such a lovely welcome

Anarchist

Hey Katy, sounds like you've had a rough time!

You should definitely chill with the dating thing. You sound like such a lovely person that you aren't going to struggle to find somebody when the times right!

I used to love quiet nights when I was single, me time was great! Getting used to being with yourself is always difficult. But sounds like you're getting there!

Are you anywhere near chesterfield? I have a friend who moved down there from lancashire not so long ago, who sounds very similar to you! He's been really unlucky in life but is always happy and positive. Probably one of the nicest guys I've known, plus he's really good with money! I'm sure he would love another friend! PM me if you want his details!

Wellyboots6

I haven't really had a rough time compared to the rough times other people write about on here!! I guess its easy to get stuck in your own little world though and forget that worse things happen to other people.

I need to keep a bit of perspective.

I do like my quiet nights in, just sometimes it does get a bit monotonous.

I think you would have to check with your friend that he wanted his details passing around! Nice offer though