Who Gets The Ring?

Gavin83

Sorry, I'm getting my words mixed up. English isn't my strongest subject.

I do mean that it is given with the expectation of a wedding happening in the future though.

BugglyB

Person_one wrote: »

What if he also paid for an Xbox or a blender or a designer handbag, does she need to give those back too?

Should she get back from him everything he has that she paid for?

No, I'd do it item by item, I dont think theres any 'should' or 'needs to', just what I think I would do.

Mara69

Person_one wrote: »

Why is she making herself look 'cheap' and not him?

If its petty, why is the answer 'give it back', not 'its so petty, he should just drop it'?

If he posted on an internet forum with the same problem I'd call him cheap. But he hasn't has he? The OP is the one talking about going to the CAB, for heaven's sake! Someone needs to be the bigger person here. That person should be her as she didn't pay for the ring. As I have said, I certainly wouldn't lower myself to arguing over it - 'you want, here, take it. Give it to the next poor b1tch you manage to snare'.

Bangton

I'd be interested to know your original intention for keeping the ring? Your ex partner had mentioned to you that he would like to use the funds for your son but you only seem to echo that sentiment following advice on the forum (though I may completely have read it wrong).
Unless you were waxing lyrical to him that the money should be reserved for your son or something equally as beneficial I see no reason why you would want to keep it

fluffnutter

Bangton wrote: »

I'd be interested to know your original intention for keeping the ring? Your ex partner had mentioned to you that he would like to use the funds for your son but you only seem to echo that sentiment following advice on the forum (though I may completely have read it wrong).
Unless you were waxing lyrical to him that the money should be reserved for your son or something equally as beneficial I see no reason why you would want to keep it

TBH, if they both took their obligations as parents seriously, either one could use the money for their son. It wouldn't matter who kept the pesky thing.

This squabbling's about who gets to keep the pretty sparkler, not who's trying to do the best by their child.

paddy's_mum

If my relationship broke down, I'd rather let him keep the valuables while I keep the only real asset..my child.

Person_one

paddy's_mum wrote: »

If my relationship broke down, I'd rather let him keep the valuables while I keep the only real asset..my child.

I'm pretty sure children still 'belong' to both parents, even if they're not together.

anon123456

As someone who spent 2k plus on an engagement ring i would want it back!! The only exception was if i was the one solely ending the relationship. If it was mutual and especially if her choice i would want her to do the morally right thing and return it.

For once American law is better than us on this in it's a contractual gift over there.

lyniced

Keep the ring!

Gra76

If it was me, I'd give it back. At worst you could sell it and give him the money from the sale....maybe keeping a small percentage of it as 'administration costs'...