When I asked for luck I didn't mean the bad variety!!!

mummytogirls

Morning PLMBL,

OMG well done to your DS. How old is he again.
I really dont think my DD1 who is 6 would even know to ring 999, she wouldnt even know our postcode was on a letter.
I feel so proud of him just reading this, hes a little hero Pride of Britain!

Hope your DH is ok too xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Hi mummytogirls!

DS1 turned 8 in September, just after my DH's first lot of seizures. I went through it all with him then and we made a list of important telephone numbers (my mobile, work number, his Gran's numbers, his Grandma's numbers etc. We also put DH's number on there just incase it was me that was poorly because you just never know!). The list was put under the telephone so he knew where to find it.

We also discussed what his Dad might look like, how to protect his head and the recovery position. Thankfully DH had ended up on his side anyway which was 'lucky' as I'm not sure DS1 would have physically been able to manoeuvre him.

The only thing I hadn't really covered was to stay with his brother and look after him too but he did that instinctively. The 999 operator told DS1 to open the front door so that the emergency crew could get straight in when they arrived and apparently he said 'ok but I have a 2 year old brother who might try to escape so I'll have to stay right next to him'! :A Xx

mummytogirls

Oh my word I could actually cry reading your post! Such a clever boy, I cant believe he said ok but ive got a 2 year old brother that might escape haha!!

I think at some point in the near future I need to go through something like this with DD1 cos you just never know do you. She can open the front door so id like to think she might go to one of the neighbours or something.

Well done again DS xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

mummytogirls wrote: »

I think at some point in the near future I need to go through something like this with DD1 cos you just never know do you. She can open the front door so id like to think she might go to one of the neighbours or something xx

I think 6 is a good age to start going through it with them. I run the Beavers club (ages 6-8) and we do a safety badge which covers calling 999. It's amazing how many of them have no clue at all what to do in an emergency (mind you, they all think strangers are only men, wearing black or black and white stripes and a mask too :eek:). It might all be different in a panic but if least if your DD has had a discussion with you she might remember something that helps Xx

mummytogirls

Thanks for your advice, I will definately speak to her about it.
Shes a bright girl so would take it all in and be able to deal with it should it happen xx

*Robin*

Oh, goodness - You-are-Lucky - what a night you've had! (((hugs)))

I can't help wondering if the fact that it was the first time DH had had sole responsibility for the boys while you were at work, wasn't at least in part to blame for his seizure? That's one of those questions that can never be answered, of course, but meanwhile - what a star your DS1 is! That's one little boy who deserves a fantastic Christmas - which he will have because Daddy is still with the family (that's much more important than the size of his pile of gifts beneath the tree!).

It might be a good idea to acknowledge DS1's achievement; isn't there a kind of young-carers club in NewKassel where the kids get together for fun activities every so often?
Or if you and DH don't mind the publicity [which could get you more help and support] tip off the local paper - it's just the kind of story everyone loves, especially at xmas. Would DS1 like to see his picture in the paper? Maybe you and DH hate the idea, in which case forget it - but it might be a huge boost for DS1?

Having looked into Carers Allowance myself when my DH was so ill, I think it could be worth your while applying, Be Lucky, and considering topping up your income with home-based work such as ebaying car-boot bargains or maybe even child-minding, if the wages from your current job are higher than the allowance.

I hope you can be strong for DH now as his feelings and emotions will be all over the place for a while, after yesterday's episode.
And now you know that DS1 can cope in an emergency, you can make it easier for him - or anyone who takes over when you are somewhere else - by putting a card next to the 'phone with relevant details on (full address, DH's hospital number, diagnosis, consultant[?]).

Hmm, in your shoes I'd be thinking about activities for DH that will help him to re-wire his brain; Lego is a personal favourite of mine -that is something he could do with DS1 (though your little one is still so young that caution would be needed because of the small pieces). I think I'd tend to avoid things based on a screen for now, though given the current UK weather that's hard; not the best time of year for getting outside and breathing fresh air (which I believe is very important for brain-health, well the whole body too).

Hope you have a good day today Be Lucky; will be thinking of you. :lovethoug

ETA: Cross-posted - see you already have covered the 'phone details - well done for excellent foresight and planning, my dear!

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thank you Robin for your wonderful-as-usual post.

I agree, it may have been due to pressure of having the boys by himself for such a long period of time. He has had them on his own for an hour or two before but never for my whole shift (or as much of it as he managed anyway).

I definitely want to reward DS1 somehow and I'm sure he'd love to be in the paper, but I'm not so sure DH will like the idea. He is very angry and upset at himself at the moment .

I googled carers allowance at about 3am this morning and it's just over £58 a week. I earn £65 a week but then have travelling expenses too, so we would be the same money wise. The peace of mind it would bring would be invaluable though.

Santa is bringing DS1 some new boxes of lego so that's good timing! We are all very much sticking together today but will go out for a short while. The weather is carp and by his own admission DH feels 'poleaxed', so we won't go far but as they were in all day yesterday, even a car journey will provide a change of scenery Xx

Mint1955

Your DS1 is a hero. Well done him for thinking and acting so well. I loved the two year old comment I am amazed. Well done for you all coping as you do. Get onto that careers allowance and cut yourself some slack you deserve it.
I hope you have a peaceful Christmas.
Sheila xx

grannyx2

Good morning my lovely, so glad Mr Lucky was ok through the night. I am so amazed by the thought of your fantastic DS it actually bought a lump to my throat. To have the foresight to find your postcode and then to concern himself with your other DS is way beyond his years.

Perhaps trying to focus Mr Lucky on DS's achievement rather than his incident, will help him get over his feelings of guilt. At the end of the day it wasn't long ago that you were poorly so it could have been you needing this type of help, maybe point that out to him. It must be so hard for him, poor thing, he can hardly help his health, can he. My heart really does go out to him and you for having to cope with all this.

I hope you all have a nice relaxing day today and a short walk certainly sounds like just what the doctor ordered.

Granny x

This is for DS

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thank you Sheila and Granny!

DS1 has well and truly confirmed his place on Santa's good list! He's so good in fact, that when my sister text asking me to give him £10 from her as his reward for being a hero yesterday, he told his brother he would share it with him as he was so good when it all happened too :A. I'm in bits!

The thought hasn't escaped me either Granny, that it could have been me passing out a couple of weeks ago, will try to get DH to focus on this. Think it's a big thing for him to have not only put the boys through it though, but to have affected his chance of getting his driving licence back again Xx