When I asked for luck I didn't mean the bad variety!!!

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thank you Granny :A

The date thing with MIL is a bit of a shocker. She always said she didn't want to be with anyone else after FIL died (4 years ago come August) but she must like this guy Xx

satchmo1

Hi Lucky, so sorry to hear about yesterdays further incidents.

I was concerned when I read that you had to put DH in the recovery position when you got to MIL's (quite a delay from when DH fitted). MIL sounds as if she would benefit from some basic first aid techniques - perhaps including your elder son, too (and anyone else in the wider family who need it).

As for shielding her, I guess now's the time for some honest and comprehensive discussion about DH's reality.

Also, if you can "talk DH down" from a fit, then please share that technique with everyone in the immediate circle, including DHs best friend (who sounds like a true and dear friend to you both).

Poor little boys, that must have been traumatic for them. Love and cuddles for you all.

millionaire_in_training

Aww what a time you have had.Actually had tears thinking about poor DS thinking Daddy was dead. Hopefully increase in meds will help him out xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Hey Satchmo, great post thanks.

I was also worried that MIL didn't have DH in the recovery position. She said he was too heavy for her to move (she's 8 stone and has weak wrists, he's 12 and a half stone) but I think DS1 could've helped her move him and I shall talk to him about that. MIL is very forthright and usually gets things done in a very methodical and sensible way, but she seems to change in a crisis. It's not nice to see a loved one seizure though so I understand her panic. I will definitely talk to her about keeping him calm etc if he feels a seizure coming on though. She said this morning that when DH said he felt weird she tried to get him to move to the lounge (her thinking was the sofa was softer if he seizured) whereas I would have just talked to him about keeping calm and tried to take his mind off it. Apparently the last thing DH said to her was "LEAVE ME" so he was obviously agitated.

I will have the same conversation with DH's friend, that's a good idea thank you. He's worth his weight in gold that bloke!

My lovely neighbour just rang me to tell me that I'm the nicest person she knows! Bless her! She's almost 79 but you'd never think it, she looks about 55 tops and she teaches exercise classes to 'old ladies' who are physically younger than her but mentally older if you get what I mean! She goes to slimming world as a target member and I drive her home after class. This is no hardship as she only lives in the next street, but it means she can get heavy shopping and doesn't have to struggle on the bus. Apparently when I got the call about DH, I asked her if she wanted me to take her shopping with me and she thinks that makes me a fantastic person to think of her at a time like that. Bless, she must know some horrible people if that's what she thinks makes a special person.

please-let-me-be-lucky

Oh my goodness MiT, I didn't mean to make you cry Xx

dorothy52

OMG what a rubbish couple of days you had, Lucky. I bet you didn't even have chance to get weighed did you? I hope DH is better today, and once again I have to say how very much I respect and admire you, my love, you really are one in a million the way you cope with all this.

satchmo1

"My lovely neighbour just rang me to tell me that I'm the nicest person she knows! Bless her"

Your lovely neighbour was right, you are the nicest person!

grannyx2

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

My lovely neighbour just rang me to tell me that I'm the nicest person she knows! Bless her!

Apparently when I got the call about DH, I asked her if she wanted me to take her shopping with me and she thinks that makes me a fantastic person to think of her at a time like that. Bless, she must know some horrible people if that's what she thinks makes a special person.

Bless you I would say. I agree with her that not many people would have even considered anything other than what was going on in their own lives at a time like that. You truly are one extra special lady you know

Granny x

HeadAboveWater

Aw PLMBL! What a lot has happened! Sorry I haven't been here!

Def agree with satchmo1s post yesterday. Hopefully it won't happen again but better to be prepared. I'm sure with it being the first time they seen DH having a seizure there was a lot of panic and fear, regardless of any preparation beforehand! First time will always be the toughest.

And yes - bless you too! It takes a special person to think like you do. One in a million. And don't you forget it!!

Skint_but_Optimistic

You poor love, but a plan of action and knowledge and a bit empowerment for those around you, instead of you being a lynchpin for everything should give you all peace of mind.

And yes it does take someone special to help out regularly, and especially when they are busy with their own lives.

You are a treasure and not the kind people dig up!