Real life MMD: My ex paid for the hol, should I keep the refund?

oldnewhand

I do wonder about the human race, just because he's on 2 or 3 times the average income doesn't give anyone the right to fleece him. Just because you're unemployed with 2 children doesn't give you any more justification to take advantage of this man. I know many people are unemployed these days due to the economic climate rather than their lack of motivation or integrity so I won't make a comment about you already scrounging off the state, although this thought came into my mind because you needed to ASK whether you should return the money this man had paid out from his EARNINGS.
I'd like to know what job he does to be so foolish but still earn 60K!
So the answer is no way you should keep it, just think about how you return it, personally, through the post or through the holiday company depending on how amicable the parting was.

Fujiko

The amount of child benefit is not a pittance, sweetiepiedave. Apaart from that, presumably the children have a father or fathers, so why are they not paying their share of the upkeep of this family? I feel sorry for anyone trying to bring up children on their own, but that should not absolve them of all responsibility for their own welfare.

Kavafy

sweetiepiedave wrote: »

What a load of priggish, pious

Shut up, Dave. She's asking if it's OK to keep money that's not hers. It's not OK. Most people learn that as little children.

FrenchDesigner

Yes please take it, then with such high earnings at last your benefits will be cancelled and you'll have to get yourself a job and save us all paying our taxes to keep you! Then you'll have to repay the guy and unable to do so, you'll go to prison and the kids taken off you and at last educated in a morally sound background...
I'm dreaming.
60000 is not that much, our family is close to that. Husband sole earner with stuff you have no idea of we have to pay in full: mortgage, kids travel to school, school lunches, car maintenance, fuel to go to work, private health he is taxed on as well as paying (but lucky enough not to use it), full price everything etc. We chose I'd raise our kids full time, stop my job, and don't get any help for that. Private education for kids is only a dream. :AA good friend had lots of sympathy and offers of babysits all round "cause it's so hard to be a single mum" and got to nice council evening classes at 90% off. Sorry I couldn't afford it and go along! We both had minor post-baby problems. Mine worse (I talked about it she realised she had similar problems SOMETIMES) Her doctor, considering her situation, booked her in straight for full treatment as childcare was so tricky. Me, asked if I had private insurance, then "talk to them they can take part of the cost". :mad:You loose so much money when on 60 000 you are no millionaire believe me or I could have moved to a bigger house now. DD is in the box room instead.
If my hubby met you after I die, he might take you to a nice place after such short time because he would expect you to be like me who would apppreciate the romantic gesture. Sounds like you are a perfect match to sweetiepiedave though! The sort to have 10 kids together and expect others to support "'cause it's our right".
Oh yes I'd love to take that fag off your lips and say it to your face by the way. By being a non-earning mum (like me) on benefits you are already taking his money-where do his taxes go?
I wish all the best by the way to all who deserve their benefits through loss of job, carers, OAP and invalids, who lose out to scroungers.

Talent

I don't believe it!
GIVE IT BACK!
Emtasol....

fatal1955

Send him the cheque and make it his moral dilemma instead.

sillysally00

Absolutely not! He may offer that you keep the money, but deception is not right, regardless of your circumstances.

christine0070

Only if you have no morals whatsoever.

Ker_ching_2

I'd like to think that you are bringing your kids up to know the difference between right and wrong. So set them a great example and pay it back. It's not yours and it makes no difference how you broke up. Where's your self-respect????

lesfw

I can't believe that you would even consider keeping the money, apart from it being totally dishonest, where's your pride, or is it that you want financial recompense for "favours", in which case doesn't that place you in the oldest profession in the world.