Real life MMD: My ex paid for the hol, should I keep the refund?

Hutchy5

How would you feel if he hadn't cancelled and left you as lead passenger to pay the balance??
Give the money back it was a kind gesture that he was willing to pay in the first place.

drjustice

Anther blood sucking mother ,when will you lot take responsibility for yourselves ,why should he support you and your sporn he has had a lucky escape from you lot .

It would be theft and you would find yourself in a small claims court .

tenuissent

Just ask him what he wants you to do - maybe by email so that you don't have to talk to him if you don't want to. He might say you can keep it - he might say to send him the cheque. It's definitely his decision about what to do with the money, so simply give him the chance.

gazmoore77

Don't know if anyone's raised this point but here goes:
Bank the cheque IMMEDIATELY - the holiday company may go bust and then there may then be no refund if the holiday wasn't bought on a credit card / visa debit or if the company wasn't ABTA/ATOL bonded.

Then tell the ex and ask how he would like the money transferring as it is his and only a quirk in the booking system has ended up with you getting the refund. What happens then is his choice, he may let you keep half of it or even all of it but as others have said that is his decision to make and I struggle to see the dilemma.

Mother1goose

The cheque is in your name so ...................
:rotfl:

drsquirrel

haggisneepsandtatties wrote: »

No! Absolutley not! Thats theft at the end of the day.

It's potentionally theft, as theft is "with the intent to permanently deprive the other of it".

So if you cash it, and they don't ask for it - its not theft. The basis of cashing the cheque should be because its in your name, so the intent here isn't to keep it for themselves.

Then ask the ex- for their account no. etc.

Fitzmichael

bionda wrote: »

Of course you must pay the refund back. It seems you were lucky to have this person so generous with his time and his money. Even if you are in a really tight financial position you should contact him which ever way is the best for both of you. Let him know that the refund is coming to you and ask him how you can get the money back to him. You never know he may well say, " you need the money, keep it ". On the other hand if you say nothing and pocket the money, you will ( or should) feel bad. I'm not one for good karma bad karma, but I would say if you sneekingly kept the money you may have to wait a long time to attract something good into your life....and at any time you may get a call from him or someone acting on his behalf to return his money......

Of course you have to pay him back, but what was so wrong with such a generous person that you broke up after 8 weeks - or was it he who broke off, because he found something wrong about you? Hmmmm?

hannerrbabes

No way, it was never your money, so taking it from him would be stealing.
Imagine if it was you that had paid for the holiday, the cheque goes to your ex's house and he decides to keep it? You would be so angry and absolutely devastated.
The fact your unemployed with 2 young children doesn't come into it at all. It was your choice to have children and your choice not to work. If you took the money the police could get involved and that would affect your whole future - and your children's lives!:mad:

tallgirld

So you're considering nicking your exes money? I would give him his money back. How much he earns, you being unemployed with children has absolutely nothing to do with it.

His money. His refund. Simple.

beaniemolly

Having read the dilema like most people I agree it is theft to keep the money.