friendship issue- have we been unreasonable to them? sorry its long

Dave_liverpool

think you should go and see if more people have grown up than you obviously have, see how people can be and start to have grown up conversations that don't start 'she said.....'

I think if theres any more to the story I'd stay at home and play with my toys.

mountainofdebt

Toothfairy4 wrote: »

I thought he was annoyed because they are on the furthest table away?

That's what I mean...........talk about throwing your toys out of the pram

Toothfairy4

Ok, disregarding the table plan, do you actually like these people? Never mind who's said what to whom etc etc. I get the impression as mountainofdebt said it sounds like it has run its course - you were once good friends but no longer really like eachother?

Toothfairy4

mountainofdebt wrote: »

That's what I mean...........talk about throwing your toys out of the pram

Apologies, totally picked you up wrongly. Out of interest OP, what age are you all?

McKneff

Give over, it really doesnt matter where you sit at a wedding.

To be honest, you sound like a 14 year old girlie, who even at 14 is behaving like a 5 year old.

To be honest, you ALL sound the same.

Cut your losses, man up and get on with your life.

Sambucus_Nigra

Ok - what's the issue exactly?

Teenie_D

gary_d_a wrote: »

I hope I have got the wrong end of the stick, I didnt understand seating plans when our venue told us about their suggested ones, when Lisa offered to show me her completed one I thought no harm in it, Cheryl was working a late and I was given owed time so I thought I would go over.

Top table the usual, bride, groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents of each.

next tables down- close family that arent on top table.

next few tables- her friends, bunch of people we have never heard of

our table- me, Cheryl, James and would you believe Mick's parents neighbours.

Your table layout seems a lot better than theirs, but hey maybe I am looking into it too deeply, after telling Cheryl and James where we were they both joked we are virtually sat in the car park :rotfl:

Eh??? I don't see what the problem is personally, especially if you are sitting next to 'James' who is your friend anyway! 'Lisa' obviously didn't want you sitting next to 'Zoe' due to the past so i can see she has actually done you a favour. I think you should do them a favour and not go, I would hate someone to be sharing my special day when they didn't want to be there!

gary_d_a

Toothfairy4 wrote: »

Ok, disregarding the table plan, do you actually like these people? Never mind who's said what to whom etc etc. I get the impression as mountainofdebt said it sounds like it has run its course - you were once good friends but no longer really like eachother?

As people they are nice- its they have an immense rivalry that tears any friendship to pieces. We always had banter but what got aimed at us in the last 18 months has gone way beyond that.

The day we got engaged was the happiest day of our lives but still there were nasty jealous remarks from them, they come round with wedding invites, I would like to congratulate my friend in person on setting a date, shake his hand and wish him well, obviously not what he wants when he sits in the car.

74jax

gary_d_a wrote: »

Hi all, hoping you can help with an issue that has been brewing for a while.

As a bit of background my name is Gary and my fiancee is Cheryl.

I met my friend James in 2004 and became friend with Mick shortly after.

Mick gets married next week to a girl called Lisa.

Due to illness etc we haven't kept in touch. Since last Summer I
have seen Mick once

While we were on holiday James was invited round to see Lisa and Mick, wedding talk came up and Lisa said that ''we really want Gary to come and we are invited Cheryl so he comes''

I went to visit them and it was at that point we are on the bottom table of all of the day guests, along with Mick's parent's neighbours

what do you lot all think?

I've kinda shortened it so I hope that's ok.

So am I right in thinking this wedding is NEXT week? You agreed to go at a considerable cost to the bride and groom and now don't want to go as you are sitting far away from the bride and groom (who you don't see anymore?). Couldn't you have said no to the invite?

They have probably paid £40 per person, and around £20-£25 per person for the night do and you leave it to the last minute to cancel- I have no idea why you seem to think you should be invited just because 130 day guests are going!

Most people don't find out which table they are on until they turn up.

The tables closest tot hem are probably friends and family they see all the time and are close too.

gary_d_a

Toothfairy4 wrote: »

Apologies, totally picked you up wrongly. Out of interest OP, what age are you all?

ages vary

youngest is 23 oldest erm....cant remember