New Dmp Mutal Support Thread

smilealot

Sea - you are not random waffling, you are chatting with your friends. Please continue if you feel like it...

Can you not cancel the family weekend? Or let him take the children and you stay out of it? You could come down with "Bank Holiday Flu"?

Scottishmummy

Bluediamond wrote: »

Teecee and Scottishmummy Thanks so much for the support when I feel so down..I knew I could log on and come away feeling better !

Take care

Sally x

That's what we are all here for. Glad your mum has been able to help out. :T Enjoy the weekend

Sea78

Hi,

thanks - apparently, just been taking to another 'outsider' in law and he was looking for support from his family last night and they all took my side!! Must mean that I actually have something to compain about and that I'm not just psycho and mad!!

You know I'll be waffling on here for a long time to come:)

I love this thread
Sea xxx

teecee152

Sally - Any time you need to talk you can always come here!!!
That's what we're here for we have all got little or no money just an overwhelming desire to help anyone who needs it and would do the same for us!!:grouphug:

Sea - hugs for you too!!:grouphug: - I felt exactly the same way when an important relationship of mine broke up. I know it's a cliche but time really does heal. It's all very raw at the moment, this has only just happenned you are bound to feel this way. It's almost a grieving process and it will get better with time and support from those around you who care for you. You are a loving, caring person trying to do the best for her family and never forget that. I may take a while to start feeling like "you" again I know it did for me!! But take it from me you will get you back.

Most importantly at the moment is you need to take care of you and your children, you need do nothing else there is nothing wrong with you, imho you are just worn down with having to deal with it all, your OH, children , debt, running the house etc, etc.

I wish you all the best, take no notice of me if you think I'm talking !!!!!! but just remember we are all here for you.

Love you all

teecee xx

teecee152

Hey smiley how you doing???

Scottishmummy

Hi Sea - I agree with smile - can you come up with an excuse. Mind you didn't he just 'come out' with your debt problems to the family. It might happen that way again. hugs.

Hi Smile - Have Barclaycard phoned them because they have been having no joy phoning yourself. If so that is harrassment and they cannot do that. Report them to the ombudsman. Or is it because you have never updated them with new details? If you update them now don't give them a phone number, ask them to contact you by mail only. Hugs to you and your folks

smilealot

Thanks Sea :hello:

I'll do that tomorrow - just another thing to add on to the to-do list! Still not done any school work :rotfl:

Glad to hear other people can see what's been happening. Do you think he just doesn't see it? And you're definitely not pyscho or mad!!! I don't know you very well, but I've met a few of the above type people and you don't resemble them at all!!

Can he not stay somewhere else just now?

Sea78

Nope - he wants to stay here and his mum won't let him stay (surprisingly as he is the 'man' of the house after his dad din't when he was 7).

He's now pretending nothing has happened and tried to be all normal earlier. I just don't understand and feel like I'm going mad!!! I'm feeling like I will just take his card when he;s in bed with a hangover tomorrow morning and get the money I need to cover bills! But then that would be stealing. *sigh*

teecee152

You are not going mad he is trying to backtrack because he has nowhere to go, but thats not your problem. Do not allow him to drive you out of your home,Speak to the CAB or a solicitor asap (bloody bank holiday!!) you have children and so therefore i'm sure he can't make you give up your home.

smilealot

Thanks Scottishmummy, I really appreciate your advice. I'll give them a ring tomorrow. Your walk in St Andrews sounds great! I love it there, haven't been for years. So much of Scotland I don't explore. Making me wonder why I've always wanted to go abroad. Just need to find someone to explore these places with :lovethoug

Hi Teecee :hello: Where is the last third of the unholy trinity?! Did you tire him out earlier?!!? :rotfl:

Sea - how bizarre. Do you think he's starting to panick? Maybe he's realising what he's set to lose? Maybe he needs that? Not to say that you should want things to go back to normal though. I'd really consider ducking out of the family planned thing just now. Use the time for yourself - no children to worry about. Get your head together, sit down with a huge cup of coffee and mull over your options with someone close to you. Then do some more of that fantastic pampering. If you have almost run out of the lotions and potions fill the bottles with waters and squeeze every last drop out! As for the bills thing, it's very tempting as he is still responsible - especially as he's still living there!! Can you confront him about it? Be strong and ask him for it straight out? If he says no, he'll realise he's being unreasonable which can be used against him later down the line if it goes that way.