Am I wrong? *Rant*

Bitsy_Beans

Nicki wrote: »

When you say OH and I had arranged for 4 friends to come round, how did that work? Did you suggest it and he agreed, or did you arrange it and he agreed? Was there a discussion about how you would struggle to afford it?

On the face of it, it sounds like a break down in communication to me, and not worth a major marital row about. If you had budgeted £15 for a meal for 4, surely that £15 can be spent instead on some soft drinks and cheap snacks and everyone invited be told to bring a bottle?

As for brother, I assume he wants to build bridges and if he has invited an ex's mother but not the ex, that he had a separate friendship with her? If he isn't allowed contact with anyone who is related to or was friendly with anyone he ever dated before he met you, I can understand why he blew a fuse when you looked at his phone as that would be an unreasonably controlling attitude on your part and one most people would quietly ignore.

I think that's unfair. Her H was lying to her, I don't consider it controlling to chck the phone in this instance to prove he was lying. If she was checking his phone under different circumstances then I would agree with you.

I would be livid too, you BOTH made plans and he's deliberately gone behind your back to change them and then lied about doing so. I am afraid I wouldn't be accommodating his plans as quite frankly I he doesn't deserve that courtesy.

pineapple

wild_rose wrote: »

If it isn't done tonight then I shall be making phone calls...the ex-girlfriend's mum will be the first.

I think most of us here understand perfectly. No need to justify your feelings. Personally if it's not cancelled I would remove myself on the appointed day and let him get on with it. His invites, his responsibility. I would talk to the original four but otherwise leave it up to him if he phones anyone - I wouldn't chivvy him to do it either. Is he quite young? He has to learn to take responsibility for his actions. Call it tough love! But there again I'm a hardened old nut

Dunroamin

How rude to the 4 people who had been invited for dinner to find that it's actually a party with a larger group of guests.

sassyblue

No you're not wrong OP, l'd make him cancel the lot too and if he doesn't ring/text them yourself.

I would still go along with your original plans and tell your OH to man up and stop deferring the blame because you looked at his phone. He shouldn't have lied.

Men just don't have any sense sometimes, l'm sorry but they don't.