Am I wrong? *Rant*

74jax

jamespir wrote: »

we dont know the full story he could have asked each person to bring some food or drink it could have just been a social get together (just because people come over dont mean you have to feed them ) but its another thread where bitter women have jumped on a man because he made a mistake

I'm a woman and im not jumping:rotfl:.

Yes they don't have much money but I agree with Jamespir we have no idea what he's planned.

I bet this thread would be different if the day after a post appeared saying how op thought she was having a small meal but oh invited 20 more friends and family, each turned up with a bottle and she had a fab night.

It's pure speculation, we have no idea what he has arranged.

jetplane

The posters who say that you should go out and leave him to it are correct. The others are either not reading your post or are just being contrary.

If your OH thinks

• arranging a surprise party and inviting people to sleep over
• including people you don't like
• when your skinter than skint
• gatecrashing your plans for a nice evening

is a good idea then he is either insensitive or stupid, let him face the fall out when you disagree. And don't let him try to deflect the blame by shouting at you for looking at your phone.

aliasojo

74jax wrote: »

I wouldn't mind this. If my OH wanted to arrange something like this is have just let him. Maybe he wanted to surprise you. He invited them, he can sort food etc out, I'd just enjoy the party.

I often invite friends over as does oh, if I invite I do all the plans and vice versa.

I would be inclined to just enjoy the evening with good company.

You are looking at this from your persepective, not the OP's.

Are you financially comfortable enough so this would not affect you negatively?

jamespir wrote: »

but its another thread where bitter women have jumped on a man because he made a mistake

You are completely unable to be anything other than predicatable and very boring james. How about you just don't bother replying to me or quoting me particularly and I wont have to put you on ignore again?

Cue lots of ....'this is a public forum, don't read it if you don't like it, yadda, yadda'.

Yawn.

wild_rose

Thank you everyone.

No it wasn't a surprise party and no he hadn't asked anyone to contribute to the food/drinks.

Considering that we have approx £30 to last us next week (minus £15 to buy food for the original 4 guests) I don't know how he was expecting to pay for it all.

It seems like he got carried away and thought it would be good to get as many people round as possible.

That's fine with me, BUT we don't have money to pay for it and he knows that.

Why he would think that I would want his ex-girlfriend's mum in my house is beyond me.

Also, he knows that I would be extremely unhappy to have one of my brothers who snubbed both of us and our children at Christmas and birthdays last year (he held a birthday party for his son last month and didn't invite my sons, one of which is in the same school class but he invited other children from school!).

We've just had another arguement over me looking at his phone, and I replied that he needs to stop trying to defer the issue of him not consulting me by ranting about his ruddy phone.

Teenie_D

jamespir wrote: »

we dont know the full story he could have asked each person to bring some food or drink it could have just been a social get together (just because people come over dont mean you have to feed them ) but its another thread where bitter women have jumped on a man because he made a mistake

Well surely if that was the case he would have told the OP that other people were bringing food and drink but then that's not all though, the fact he has invited people to stay over has also annoyed the OP and quite rightly so!

As for your last comment LOL.......grow up!!

VfM4meplse

Your OH isn't on a different page, he's on another planet!

aliasojo

wild_rose wrote: »

We've just had another arguement over me looking at his phone, and I replied that he needs to stop trying to defer the issue of him not consulting me by ranting about his ruddy phone.

That is exactly why he's in a knot about it.

ItchyFeet

jetplane wrote: »

The posters who say that you should go out and leave him to it are correct. The others are either not reading your post or are just being contrary.

If your OH thinks

• arranging a surprise party and inviting people to sleep over
• including people you don't like
• when your skinter than skint
• gatecrashing your plans for a nice evening

is a good idea then he is either insensitive or stupid, let him face the fall out when you disagree. And don't let him try to deflect the blame by shouting at you for looking at your phone.

My thoughts exactly!

duchy

Wow

Have you asked him how he thought it would work-that having invited friends over for a MEAL -and then inviting others over -had he invited them for after the meal or was he planning on feeding them loaves and fishes ?

Frankly all this fuss about a phone-You're a couple-What's the issue with looking at his phone anyway ? If he seriously thinks thats a bigger issue than him hijacking your plans (and hiding it from you -what's all that about anyway? Does he not like the people YOU'VE invited ??) then he has a problem.

EDIT The only rational explanation I can think of to do this is if he's fed up with you not getting on with people he likes (ex's mother, your brother etc) and this was some misguided attempt to get everyone to get along (not saying his logic is correct -but it sort of explains why he didn't tell you he'd invited them)

aneres

If you can't uninvite them I would do a big pan of chilli then everyone can just help themselves.