Am I wrong? *Rant*

sooz

He can do chilli. She doesn't like the guests. She should go round to one of the original 4 invited guests houses, & leave him to sort it out.

When was he planning to tell her. Or was she just to open the door to uninvited guests, & say 'hi, i was not expecting you, friends are coming for dinner, please go away!'

Metranil_Vavin

I'd be super annoyed too OP.

I'm sure somewhere there was a good intention on his part, but he has been daft just going ahead and inviting all and sundry without thinking about how you will afford it all.

On the ex gf mother being invited...have you asked him why???

aneres

I'd be annoyed but sometimes you just have to get on with it, and yes I would probably make him do the Chilli.

aliasojo

aneres wrote: »

I'd be annoyed but sometimes you just have to get on with it......

Do you?

You wouldn't like living with me then. :rotfl:

Nicki

When you say OH and I had arranged for 4 friends to come round, how did that work? Did you suggest it and he agreed, or did you arrange it and he agreed? Was there a discussion about how you would struggle to afford it?

On the face of it, it sounds like a break down in communication to me, and not worth a major marital row about. If you had budgeted £15 for a meal for 4, surely that £15 can be spent instead on some soft drinks and cheap snacks and everyone invited be told to bring a bottle?

As for brother, I assume he wants to build bridges and if he has invited an ex's mother but not the ex, that he had a separate friendship with her? If he isn't allowed contact with anyone who is related to or was friendly with anyone he ever dated before he met you, I can understand why he blew a fuse when you looked at his phone as that would be an unreasonably controlling attitude on your part and one most people would quietly ignore.

cutestkids

Your OH sound like a complete idiot why would he think you would want people that you don't even like in your home, I would be having a serious conversation with him about why he felt like it was a good idea

paddy's_mum

If someone - anyone - wished to have people come into my home, at my expense and disrupting my plans on how I choose to spend my time, I'd be ruddy annoyed too that I hadn't even been informed, let alone consulted!

Unless of course, the OP's hubby planned all along to do the whole thing without any input of any kind from her in which case, she is free to go out and please herself for the evening.

He's mad because somewhere down the line, he is going to lose face.

In the OP's shoes, I would apologise for looking at his phone if this so annoyed him but by apologising, I would also absolve myself of any involvement in HIS party. He doesn't seem to grasp the concept of sharing.

paddy's_mum

wild_rose wrote: »

I asked him who else he had invited...he said no-one.

This is the bit that would have me gunning for him! I can't stand lies - they achieve nothing but damage in my opinion. I would be far, far more upset over this than I would be over the rights and wrongs of the original quarrel.

VitaK

I would not be impressed if I expected a 'quiet' evening catching-up with friends to be turned into a major event. An major event where I along with 3 others brough a bottle of wine and everyone else didnt. I would feel taken advantage of.

Sorry, but I think your OH needs to begin phoning guests with an excuse and maby a promise of a meal another day.

I can just imagine you with a meal for 6 and 30 guests. How stupid would you look like.

jamespir

paddy's_mum wrote: »

If someone - anyone - wished to have people come into my home, at my expense and disrupting my plans on how I choose to spend my time, I'd be ruddy annoyed too that I hadn't even been informed, let alone consulted!

Unless of course, the OP's hubby planned all along to do the whole thing without any input of any kind from her in which case, she is free to go out and please herself for the evening.

He's mad because somewhere down the line, he is going to lose face.

In the OP's shoes, I would apologise for looking at his phone if this so annoyed him but by apologising, I would also absolve myself of any involvement in HIS party. He doesn't seem to grasp the concept of sharing.

they are married its both their home and both there income