Relationship advice please....

Maryland_Cookie

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whitewing

No, your husbamd has had plenty of opportunity to make it work with you. Years and years.

Put your heart and soul into your new relationship.

BitterAndTwisted

I don't think you gave up too easily at all: he told you from the start that he didn't want a family but you married him anyway. That was your first mistake. You got back together and still didn't agree to have a family even though presumably you were clear that you wanted to. That was your second mistake.

Move on with your life and be clear with this new chap that having a family is what you eventually want. he'll either head for the hills or stick around. Either way, it sounds like you don't have all the time in the world. Press forward and get what you want if you want it enough

victory

You certainly did not give up at all easily on your marriage, your OH had chance after chance and now all these years later you are still in the same position as you were, even after talks and promises and hoping and wishing, move on with your lovely new bf, enjoy your life and be happy, no guilt needed

mum2one

from what I see you gave your heart and soul to your husband, now is your time and sounds like a new relationship is happy, going well, and maybe you feel quilty, you have nothing to feel guilty for, hubby had 1001 chances, and now this is your time.

Enjoy your new life xx

Maryland_Cookie

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victory

Maryland_Cookie wrote: »

Thanks for your replies guys - bitter and twisted - I was crystal clear to him the first time we split up that I wanted to get married and have kids, we split up because he didn't - which was fair enough. But he then told me he had changed his mind and WANTED to get married and have kids. It was only after we got married that he told me he had changed his mind.......I feel like I got married under false pretenses.....

How soon after did he tell you he had changed his mind?

Was his upbringing bad? Does he worry he will not be a good father/role model?

How did he tell you? Did you think he was genuine when he said he wanted kids and then stunned when he said no?

flutterby_lil

I think you have already given him one too many chances - he will say he wants one, wine and dine you then slowly slip back to his old habits once he knows he has you wrapped around his little finger and right where he wants you, having split you up with your new love. He is jealous and insecure, sounds pathetic really.

Well done you for moving on, do not feel guilty. Do you think he did while you were at home and he was in the pub with his friends?!?!

nickyhutch

Given up too easily? No way.

Enjoy your new relationship.

meritaten

your ex is playing 'headgames' with you. Do NOT fall for it - all he is trying to do is ruin your new relationship. Ex knows you too well and is pushing the one button which he thinks will send you back to him! It worries me that you refer to him as 'OH' - give him a third chance to deprive of you the family you want? you know the old saying.......
fool me once - shame on you
fool me twice - shame on me
fool me three times - I asked for it. (okay - thats my take on the saying)
I am not saying more - you are an intelligent person - now show yourself some respect and realise that you are being PLAYED.

Maryland_Cookie

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