How many chances do you give someone?

euronorris

What Caroline said!

Oh, and pack his bags for him. The quicker he's out the better.

cottonhead

I would say if you have given him a few chances and he can see how it not only upsets you but your children , its time to leave. Also if he finds it attractive to be with a woman of such low morals based on the things you say she does, that doenst say much abiut his moral standing either. Im sorry to put it bluntly but I guess you are looking for outside opinions - its not right that you should be used in this way. Why does he not leave you ? Because of what family would say ? for financial reasons ? or something else ? try and find out why he hasnt left. Probably deep down he can see this woman is a looser and wouldnt actually want to be with her properly but like the thrill of doing something he shoudlnt be. mental health problems can mean the thrill and the fact that someone finds him attractive is probably quite a kick.
Giev him an ultimatum and stick to it. After forgiving him so many times he is showing a lot of disrespect by carrying on and in a way you are showing that you accept it.

BLUEBIE

Sorry, you misunderstand me when I said keep the text to the minimum, I meant the texts he sends to me, not to her, that was the point, i insisted on zero contact.

Thanks for all replies, will catch up on them during the morning

x

harrys_nan

All I'm going to say is, I was in the same position and I tried for 3 years to save my marriage but he wouldn't stop contact with the other woman and what made it worse was we all worked at the same place, me on days them on nights and it got to the stage that they were the "couple", I then lost my mum and i thought I deserve better,if I can live without my mum I can live without him, yes I loved him and it really hurt me to do it, but I did and survived.
You can do it and you will survive as well and in time you will be glad you did make that move