How many chances do you give someone?

BLUEBIE

Need to go and sort kids out now, will check back in tomorrow

rdchick

Hi Bluebie

Oh bless you, what a situation but seriously sweet you need to get out. I know this isn't what should happen but if he doesn't leave would you be able to take the kids to your parents and stay there for a few days... I know it's a bit like him winning but it will show him you mean business... personally I would have the locks changed and tell him to jog on. I don't know you but just from the posts I can see you definitely don't deserve any of this, especially not his bit on the side texting you. How spiteful is that?!

Please devise a plan to get out with minimal pain to both you and your kids and let him go off with his woman... He doesn't love you hun, he's using you and that's disgusting

Biggest of big hugs as I know how bad you feel and how confused you are, it's all well and good us saying it but it's you that has to do it xxx

elvis86

WestonDave wrote: »

Out of curiosity, what is her current situation - is she still with her husband or has she moved out? I'm just wondering whether the solution to this is to go after the other end - i.e. get her contact details and send her a text basically saying that if you find any evidence of contact between her and your husband you will be straight onto her husband. That isn't to get at her per se, but to raise the stakes for him knowing that not only will he get in trouble but she will as well.

With all due respect, I don't think this is great advice. The OP shouldn't have to warn off the the other woman to get her husband to stop seeing her! This is between the OP and her husband. If he can't or won't stop seeing this woman then he sacrifices his marriage. Simple.

If the other woman was out of the picture there would still be the 3 billion other women on the planet to worry about.

MunniMuncha

BLUEBIE wrote: »

Nah she has left, leaving her kids behind as well, she is a real piece of work, but I won't go into that here, she takes delight in texting me occasionally to let me know they are still seeing each other.

Why doesn't he go and live with this lovely piece of work then?

geminilady

Even if it is only texts he is putting her before you and the kids,and to go to relate and still text her shows how much he wants to save the marriage.I know you are scared OP but you and your children deserve better you will be a lot happier without him don't see how you can stay with someone you can never trust

Bitsy_Beans

Sorry but what your husband is doing isn't love.

Keep texts to a minimum??? Are you having a laugh? He couldn't even stop all contact like you insisted last time what makes you think he'll keep texts to a minimum this time?

Have some self respect and accept that you deserve better, by someone who has more regard for their relationships.

scottishchick27

Keep texts to a minimum? I know where I'd be sticking his phone!! You are a mug if you let him walk all over you again and you're setting a terrible example to your children.

*Louise*

ONE CHANCE

If someone makes the same mistake after being forgiven once, they don't deserve to be forgiven again, or else it becomes a never ending cycle...and they are even more likely to repeat the msitake knowing they can get away with it.

BitterAndTwisted

Let me get this straight: your child had a breakdown because you and your husband were washing your dirty linen in front of them and now you're asking what you should do now that you've discovered that he's betrayed you again and again with the same woman after making empty promises to you that it was over? When you found out he was a bloody liar he cried, claimed it's you he truly loves and manipulated you most ruthlessly.

I'd have kicked his backside into the middle of next week one nanosecond before I changed the locks.

He's an a-hole and you're a fool. Regardless of the inconvenience, give him his marching orders. Now

janninew

I'm afraid its not that easy making him leave if you both own the house together, he has the same rights as the OP. If you changed the locks, he could just get them changed again. If he really cared for you and your children, he would voluntarily leave to give you some space.

Its a terrible situation OP, you know what you have to do, but doing it is going to take courage.

Good luck.