Ms, Mrs or Miss?

janninew

After reading some of the comments on this thread I must be very unusual as I couldn't wait to change my name to Mrs Husband's Surname when I got married and I don't care if people know that I'm - shock horror - a married women!! :rotfl:

Gloomendoom

janninew wrote: »

After reading some of the comments on this thread I must be very unusual as I couldn't wait to change my name to Mrs Husband's Surname when I got married and I don't care if people know that I'm - shock horror - a married women!! :rotfl:

Ha ha! That is what Mrs G said when she read this thread. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

janninew

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Ha ha! That is what Mrs G said when she read this thread. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

Certainly isn't something to be ashamed of or kept hidden from the world! I was proud as punch to take my husband's name and I was practising my new signature for months before we got married! (I know I'm a bit sad really!)

I must admit I have been slightly baffled by some of the comments, like not wanting delivery drivers to know if you are married or not - I doubt they give a stuff! Call yourself whatever you like and let others do the same.

Mojisola

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Gender equality only requires that each gender should be given the same opportunities without prejudice. As far as I am aware, at present, ladies can call themselves what they want. Ergo, there is no gender equality issue at all.

There isn't equality, though, because men don't have the option of using honorifics that denote their marital status. I wonder how many would use them if there were some or would most stick with the equivalent of Ms.

Gloomendoom

Mojisola wrote: »

There isn't equality, though, because men don't have the option of using honorifics that denote their marital status. I wonder how many would use them if there were some or would most stick with the equivalent of Ms.

I see what you are saying but who is being disadvantaged? The man or the woman?

killerpeaty

Emmzi wrote: »

we should all get PHDs so we can use Dr. Much less messing about.

I'd like to say that this would work, but it doesn't. There's a boy who has been plaguing my university experience with his incessant "Miss, Miss" to the point that he has been yelled at by the lecturer. A Dr of course. While it doesn't sound like I should write "plaguing" his general disrespectful attitude to everyone (though especially girls) really makes me want to punch him.

On the terms of Ms, Mrs and Miss, my boyfriend genuinely didn't know what these actually meant. He's not stupid (though very selected education- he didn't watch the clangers as a child! o: ) but apparently no one ever told him.

burnoutbabe

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I see what you are saying but who is being disadvantaged? The man or the woman?

the woman who may have to have her single status publicy announced for the whole of her life if she had to use Miss.

lostinrates

burnoutbabe wrote: »

the woman who may have to have her single status publicy announced for the whole of her life if she had to use Miss.

But she doesn 't have to be called miss. We have a choice.

Mrs_Imp

I was proud to be a Miss when I was unmarried, and I'm now proud to be Mrs Imp's-initial Imp. For me, it shows everyone that I'm over the moon to be married to him.

Professionally I'm Mrs Maidenname-Imp. That's mostly because I've worked with a lot of people while unmarried, and most of them know me by that name. It's an unusal name, so easily spotted, and therefore quite useful for people to be able to remember who I am.

I've never figured out how to pronounce Ms. Is it muzz, muss, mess?

Just as people who hate to have Miss and Mrs titles imposed on them use Ms, I would hate to have Ms imposed upon me. Let people use what they like.

OP, I suggest a quiet work with people just to say that you and newpartner are happy for you to continue using Mrs Marriedname. I guess they're feeling a bit unsure what to use, and maybe someone has said to them that they shouldn't be using Mrs. That should hopefully clear it up.

KGuarded

I liked my son being called master up until the age of 18, or I think you can still buy a title for a small fee, such as Lord or lady, to go on your credit cards - clears up all that mess, and presumably gets you a funny look whilst at the tesco checkout.!