Ms, Mrs or Miss?

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I'm divorced and living with my "new" OH and I'm called Mrs Ex-husband.

My OH asked me why I didn't change my name on divorce and I told him that I will change my name when he marries me :rotfl: oddly enough it never occurred to me to revert to my maiden name.

Sometimes OH gets called Mr-Ex-husband too but he does find that funny (usually the school does that)

Doesn't bother me none. I'm usually (first name ex-husband's surname) when I order stuff and don't bother with Miss Ms or Mrs.

l33na

caevans wrote: »

Like others have said, use whatever title you want! I call myself Ms. I am married but did not take my husbands name, therefore I am not mrs, nor am I Miss! My children have my husbands name. Older people tend to hate this!! Especially my parents and husbands parents .....:-)

Same here. I kept my maiden name but was a Ms before I married. ( my feminist views were apparent even in my teens)

Though the only problem I have had is hubby getting funny when he has even addressed as mr maiden name lol.

pinkclouds

sharrison778 wrote: »

My fiance's ex wife still refers to herself as Mrs HisName. When we get married, I intend to take his name, so there will be two Mrs HisNames. I know its none of my business but I'd kinda like her to revert back to Miss or Ms, just to distinguish who is the current wife. Especially since I think it might get confusing in relation to their kids.

*You* will be the only Mrs [hubby's first name] [hubby's surname]. *She* is Mrs [her first name] [your hubby's surname].

In much the same way... there is only one Princess Michael of Kent but there are lots of Mrs Kents out there (who are not the Prince's ex-wives, I hasten to add!!). It's just a surname but you are the only one who can use your husband's "title". Asides from your husband, of course!

Mojisola

pinkclouds wrote: »

*You* will be the only Mrs [hubby's first name] [hubby's surname]. *She* is Mrs [her first name] [your hubby's surname].

In much the same way... there is only one Princess Michael of Kent but there are lots of Mrs Kents out there (who are not the Prince's ex-wives, I hasten to add!!). It's just a surname but you are the only one who can use your husband's "title". Asides from your husband, of course!

That's even more archaic that using the Miss and Mrs options!

Anyone who called me by my husband's name would soon get corrected.

faux_2

pinkclouds wrote: »

*You* will be the only Mrs [hubby's first name] [hubby's surname]. *She* is Mrs [her first name] [your hubby's surname].

In much the same way... there is only one Princess Michael of Kent but there are lots of Mrs Kents out there (who are not the Prince's ex-wives, I hasten to add!!). It's just a surname but you are the only one who can use your husband's "title". Asides from your husband, of course!

That is utter madness.

faux_2

I think it's only gender equality for Females to be referred to only as "Ms" regardless of age or Marital status, just as Men are. If one does wish to get married and take on the others surname then they should both take on each others. It's completely archaic that a Woman should be expected to take on her partners surname (and even fist name as suggested here!).

For me it's always Ms.

janninew

faux wrote: »

I think it's only gender equality for Females to be referred to only as "Ms" regardless of age or Marital status, just as Men are. If one does wish to get married and take on the others surname then they should both take on each others. It's completely archaic that a Woman should be expected to take on her partners surname (and even fist name as suggested here!).

For me it's always Ms.

Why 'should' they do this thought? Why can't they call themselves what they like?! If you want to take your husbands name that's your decision, same as if you want to keep your maiden name and be a Ms!

Gloomendoom

faux wrote: »

I think it's only gender equality for Females to be referred to only as "Ms" regardless of age or Marital status, just as Men are. If one does wish to get married and take on the others surname then they should both take on each others.It's completely archaic that a Woman should be expected to take on her partners surname (and even fist name as suggested here!).

Gender equality only requires that each gender should be given the same opportunities without prejudice. As far as I am aware, at present, ladies can call themselves what they want. Ergo, there is no gender equality issue at all.

It may surprise you but some ladies actually want to take on their husband's surname when they get married.

totallybored

l33na wrote: »

Same here. I kept my maiden name but was a Ms before I married. ( my feminist views were apparent even in my teens)

Though the only problem I have had is hubby getting funny when he has even addressed as mr maiden name lol.

Me too! Hubby is not amused when we get Xmas cards to Mr and Mrs mymaidenname!

I became Ms as a teenager, I decided my maiden name was part of my identity and I wouldn't be changing it. I couldn't be Mrs Maidenname as that was my mum but why would I want to change my surname that I'd grown up with?

And if I became Mrs Hubbysname I'd have the same name as the mil:eek:

I changed a bank account into hubby's surname just in case any cheques were ever sent to me but everything else is just Ms Maidenname as I've always been known since I was about 17. Older family members call me Mrs Hubbysname sometimes but I'm not bothered and see no point in correcting them.

Gloomendoom

totallybored wrote: »

I couldn't be Mrs Maidenname as that was my mum

Oh noes!!!! I've got the same name as my dad, and my granddad, and his dad. Not to mention my uncles and cousins.