My eldest holiday with the lads....

victory

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spadoosh

When ive been on holiday with friends we have taken total cost of holiday and divided it amongst everyone equally. I understand what your saying about the extra room but in the end, if they were that concerned they shouldnt have invited him or should have before they booked.

Im sure he doesnt have to, but bear in mind the other lad will have to pay £150 more than everyone else which isnt really fair on a group holiday. Its easier/fairer for everyone to fork out £20 than one guy £150.

It seems like your son doesnt really count the new person as a friend otherwise he wouldnt really begrudge paying an extra £19 for the company of his friend. <-- this would worry me more

scottishchick27

We had a similar situation when I was his age and one of our friends decided she wanted to come too. No way were we going to pay extra so she just booked her flight only and transfer to our hotel and we snuck her case up to our room. She slept on a lilo. No one from the hotel ever found out.

victory

I asked him if he knew him and he said he did, he did not hang around with him but knew him and he had heard about it and asked to come, I think some of this is a bit of resentment because it happened whilst son was at work and he was being asked and texted about it but never answered so by the time they did get hold of son they had pretty much sorted it and agreed to get him another flat and pay thedifference between them all so son had very little say....

spadoosh

Tell him to just go and enjoy his holiday, and ask the other guy to buy him a couple of drinks, IMO £20 between friends is nothing. £500 between friends is nothing, then again i do choose friends very carefully and only have a couple.

elvis86

Surely if your son is old enough to organise, pay for, and go on a holiday with his friends, he doesn't need his mother interfering in the arrangements?

From your previous posts, there are bigger issues in your family and getting your knickers in a twist over an extra £19 that your son has to pay towards his holiday isn't a great use of your time or energy? Sometimes I think people (espcially people on here) are too quick to get involved and start fretting about stuff that doesn't concern them.

The reality is, it's only £19 (although it may be 4 hours' wages for your son, I hope he's aware and has prepared for spending many times that on food and beer etc on a lads' holiday - so it's negligible really) and whilst he may not agree with the decision, he won't achieve anything by objecting, other than looking mean and p!ssing his mates off.:cool:

FWIW, it sounds like they're a decent bunch of lads looking out for their friend like that and chipping in to ensure he can come. You (and your son) should perhaps be grateful for that?

sassyblue

£19 is nothing TBH, if your son can't afford it can you pay it for him?

SandC

I'd be giving him a few quid for the beer fund anyway if it were my son.

They sound like a decent bunch of lads and in all they must've been thinking was 'the more the merrier'. If your son has moaned about the sitch to you then you should be the one giving him the positives not agreeing and being negative over £20.

Surprise him on leaving day with £50, job done.

balletshoes

To be honest, it sounds to me like your son's friends have made a decent decision in chipping in £19 each - its not a lot of money shared out.

But even if your son isn't happy about it, its a done deal now isn't it? Is he going to let it overshadow his holiday? I wouldn't, I'd just let it go, its not important in the larger scheme of things is it?

Who cares about "why should he?" its £19, its not worth getting involved over. Definitely not worth any indignation, on your part. You can agree with him if he's feeling put out by it, then tell him to put it behind him and enjoy his holiday.

Gopppers

elvis86 wrote: »

FWIW, it sounds like they're a decent bunch of lads looking out for their friend like that and chipping in to ensure he can come. You (and your son) should perhaps be grateful for that?

:T:T Post of the day for me!!

newcook

I think your son is only feeling put out because he wasn’t involved with the decision making as he was working – my guess is that if he was involved then he wouldn’t have a problem with it all.

While it may not seem fair that everyone has to chip in a little extra, it’s a damn sight fairer than who ever he is sharing with as this would have other impacts – the one sharing would expect the original 3 to give back his money so he can put it to the new room meaning that they would then be left paying extra for the missing person etc making the whole situation messy, complicated and causing a row before they have even gone.

This way, they all get to go, no-one has been left out and its only cost them the price of 2 drinks if they are going to Ibiza!