REALLY cheap hol wanted HELP!

elisebutt65

I've also just read on your other post about au-pairs, that your DS(Is the D for Dreaded, Dratted or just plain Dam*?) also spends the weekends at your inlaws???

How cushty is that????My eldest goes off for a couple of weeks in the holidays but apparently Portsmouth is too far from the Midlands to have any quality time at the weekends and my youngest goes whenever his dad feels like it - usually 1 weekend a month or if his Grandama starts nagging - like Easter or Xmas. My parents will take him if I want a break in the long summer hols or if I have a heavy workload in their holidays - like exams or essays due but apart from that it's a normal single parent household.

Mind you - I wouldn't be without my 2 every weekend - that's the fun time!!! Get to do things like going to the pottery cafe and making stupid useless mugs that chip after a few mugs but at least they have "I love Mum" on them - LOL. Or going to feed the ducks and watch them being chased by geese threatening to bite their bums. Going to the library to pick out some books and visiting the Art gallery whilst we're there and making rude comments about the art. Even going shopping is a fun thing if done right!!!

How can you regard him as a burden??? (You may gather I still haven't calmed down?)

Tell you what - I've had a hankering for another one just lately but didn't eant to go through pregnancy and labour again. Why don't you drop him round here for a few year until he's...say 21, and then you can have him back. I'll do all the sh*tty stuff like bringing him up and loving him then you can have the Kudos of saying you're a single mum and going to uni and working etc etc.....???

missk_ensington

elisebutt65 wrote:

I've also just read on your other post about au-pairs, that your DS(Is the D for Dreaded, Dratted or just plain Dam*?) also spends the weekends at your inlaws???

How cushty is that??????

I dont actually want or like him going to the in-laws, its a total burden I have to drive 70 miles each way to pick him up, I have ton get him at 10am so cant do much Fri night and most of his bad behaviour comes from there cos they spoil him! However, theyve done it since he was born and they love seeing him, it'd be unfair to stop it just because its no longer convenient for me.

I'd be far happier of they turned around and said it was too much for them, its a comnplete pain for me, Id rather be with him myself.

budgetflyer

You will need that holiday, by the time you are finished here missk_ensington. MSE seems to atract its fair share of "stepford wifes."
People- leave her alone- shes a YOUNG single parent, who acknowledges she made a mistake. She works, does her best.

NOW LETS FIND HER A HOLIDAY !

sarahlouise210

budgetflyer wrote:

You will need that holiday, by the time you are finished here missk_ensington. MSE seems to atract its fair share of "stepford wifes."
People- leave her alone- shes a YOUNG single parent, who acknowledges she made a mistake. She works, does her best.

NOW LETS FIND HER A HOLIDAY !

My heart bleeds for her ....perhaps she will get the rest she deserves when she goes to Venice and Rome in March (just with au pair..no child)....or perhaps she will feel better when she had her caribbean cruise (all going...guess who gets to look after the little one:rolleyes: ) ....and how do you think this all paid for ???? Because by her own admissions she has more disability benefits than she can spend...for a condition that is undiagnosed and easily faked. Yes...I have been unusually seethed by her posts....but do not consider myself a Stepford Wife:eek: just concerned she has been able to con so many for so long...concerned she has no interest in her son...but mostly :mad: that she has openly admitted it all..and tried to wiggle out of..but then every time jumps back in showing her true colours.
Yes she works ...not denying it ...but do you know why - because she CAN! Because she CAN get in her car and commute £400 miles a week eyc etc etc...research prevous posts...I have to go to hospital now.
NOW LETS FIND HER (another) HOLIDAY ....:rotfl:

saveapenny

I will help anyone who needs a cheap holiday who really needs one and who as a tight budget.
My heart bleeds for anyone reading this thread who would love to take 3-4 holidays a year with the kids but cant afford it. I know shes young but so was when I had my first (18) but time with him was important and not once did i palm him off so i could have fun. He was 9 before we had our honeymooon..1 week in Kos late October, just me and hubby it was bliss but by day 5 I was pulling my hair out to get back home. What gets my goat is not that fact she want to leave him and have a life at every chance she gets...which is bad enough...but shes getting the state to pay for it. Reading all her other posts it seems to me she just comes on to start a debate (or trouble) DONT answer anymore of her posts and give her a platform to wind people up.

samanthag

i totally agree with what you say saveapenny
i too had my children when i was quite young i was 21 when i had my first child and 24 when i had my second.
my second child unfortunately has severe special needs and times have been hard with him.
it took me 5 years of battling with the dla to get the benefits that he deserves and yet there are so many people who get it just like that.
it makes me so angry.
i have been with my partner for 19 years and have been married for 9 years and have still not had a honeymoon (noone wants to look after a child with special needs) we go on holiday twice a year and my boys come with me
i dont think i would leave them i would worry too much espically about my youngest.
i will wait untill he is older and hopefully we will get a chance to have our honeymoon.

sloppychops

Well as you all know i will also help anyone with holidays but i will be damned if i help her out.
Her attitude is just me me me and its her son i feel for as he is going to grow up and realise exactly what his mum is like and god help her then.
I also had my son young,i was only 16 and a single mum and things were definetly not easy but we managed,i worked all the hours god sent to be able to afford a holiday once a year for us both and we made the most of them and the precious time we spent together having fun and doing thing we enjoyed together.
It sounds like she just comes on here to wind people up with her im better than all of you attitude.One day she will get her comeuppance but until then i would let her get on with it as she is definetly not worth arguing with.

Zara33

Cumbrian_Male wrote:

I have 2 children 17 + 13 and I am only 40 now, but I couldn't stand a baby now.

I like my piece and quiet, glad we had them early.

But surely as any adult knows a child and noise go hand in hand i appreciate at 40 you couldn't stand a baby but at 21.......

Zara33

missk_ensington wrote:

If saying that holidaying abroad with a toddler isn;t my cup of tea is an invitation to be judged, then what a sorry state of affairs this is

Let's be honest here this isn't the only comment you have made is it :rolleyes:

Rachie_B

budgetflyer wrote:

You will need that holiday, by the time you are finished here missk_ensington. MSE seems to atract its fair share of "stepford wifes."
People- leave her alone- shes a YOUNG single parent, who acknowledges she made a mistake. She works, does her best.

NOW LETS FIND HER A HOLIDAY !

You are I presume male ? :rolleyes:

<sigh> so you were sucked in with the ".....fake breasts,tall,slim,great catch,top model .... " comments were you ?

that we all took with a (very) large dose of salt :rotfl:

as for young single parent.........
there are many of them around
whats that got to do with anything ??? her comments are out of order as a parent whether single or not ,young or old !