REALLY cheap hol wanted HELP!

sloppychops

missk_ensington wrote:

I have to be a good Mum - I don't have to enjoy doing it.

There really are no words to describe some peoples attitudes,well there are but think i am going to have to keep quiet on this.
Why dont you try to do something together that you both will enjoy?

Eagle_1

missk_ensington wrote:

I'm not a baby/toddler person at all, a couple of hours with babies leaves me with a migraine and high blood pressure.

I do, when he's quiet and well behaved, its not my fault I dont like kids under 4. Unfortunately they dont pop out aged 4 and above!! I'm okay for a bit but by this time on a Sunday I'm certainly ready for getting back to the office for intelligent adult conversation.

I just wondered wether your son was actually planned :eek:

This has got to be a wind up :rolleyes:

Eagle_1

oh and another thing, id love for this thread to be moved to debate......what a brilliant topic :j :j :j :j

Rachie_B

Eagle_1 wrote:

I just wondered wether your son was actually planned :eek:

This has got to be a wind up :rolleyes:

no unfortunately not.......

see the au pair thread on families :rolleyes:

icklejulez

To be honest I do have sympathy for Mrs Kensington as I too am not a baby person, dont get me wrong I love my kids(3 & 1) like mad but the more independant they become the more excited I get about what I can do with them and teach them. My children were planned but the sudden shock with my first and the realisation of life brought on PND and IBS for the first year. I still find it hard and do enjoy escaping to work 2 evenings per week(fortunatly I have my OH with me) so I can enjoy adult conversation. When you go to these toddler groups etc all you get is women discussing their stretch marks and when their having there next baby. I too look forward to them starting school as it will give me time for myself and to finally get some decent housework done. Is this immoral? Schooling is one of the best things that children can have, they make friendships, learn boundaries and of course get an education. It does not mean I love my children less than anyone else on this website.

anonymousie

missk_ensington wrote:

I do, when he's quiet and well behaved, its not my fault I dont like kids under 4. Unfortunately they dont pop out aged 4 and above!! I'm okay for a bit but by this time on a Sunday I'm certainly ready for getting back to the office for intelligent adult conversation. It's just the way I am it isn't a choice, my AUnty was the same, she has 2 lads (now grown up) but as they were growing up she worked 40 hours a week in a high flying role and her husband did the womans role.

Thousands of men work 60 hours a week and barely see their kids, I dont doubt because it drives them insane, so why is it so bad for me because I'm a woman??

Beg borrow or buy a tent. Joint the camping and caravanning club and stay on one of the club sites-heated clean lovely shower blocks etc. Family friendly timings- no bars or rowdy/late night stuff.
get takeaway pizza/fish and chips or eat out. Cook as little as possible. Chill, walk in the countryside, splash in puddles, yes even kick a ball about and as they say "take time to smell the flowers". Don't worry about getting muddy.

You never know 3 or 4 nights of getting into the camping mood and you might find you enjoy spending tme with your wee man- or possibly on a club site he will be off playing cricket with the other kids :rotfl:

I have 3 kids and have camped since the youngest was 3. If only the weather was always lovely it would be idillic, but we have had good holidays every time.

Get a decent tent (not argos or ebay IMHO) and it will ebay fine if you really can't hack it.

Rachie_B

icklejulez wrote:

To be honest I do have sympathy for Mrs Kensington as I too am not a baby person, dont get me wrong I love my kids(3 & 1) like mad but the more independant they become the more excited I get about what I can do with them and teach them. My children were planned but the sudden shock with my first and the realisation of life brought on PND and IBS for the first year. I still find it hard and do enjoy escaping to work 2 evenings per week(fortunatly I have my OH with me) so I can enjoy adult conversation. When you go to these toddler groups etc all you get is women discussing their stretch marks and when their having there next baby. I too look forward to them starting school as it will give me time for myself and to finally get some decent housework done. Is this immoral? Schooling is one of the best things that children can have, they make friendships, learn boundaries and of course get an education. It does not mean I love my children less than anyone else on this website.

niiiiiiiiiiiice,thankfully never had that experience @ toddler groups lol

IMO its one thing not "being a baby person" but quite another to speak about her son in the way she does

it makes for quite disturbing reading

icklejulez

Im not sure if its just the way she comes across, I wonder if Mrs Kensington could help us out here? When I had PND I sometimes said things that sounded a bit harsh, luckily it only lasted 18 months but it can last a lot longer. My mum claims I shouldnt be a mum as I work PT(in those days mums stayed at home) but I give my children everything in the world and go without sleep to be with them. Im not saying its easy I was so different with my first when she was a baby compared to the way I am with my second but it was the illness and not the fact I didnt love her. Remember young children are really hard work and when your trying to study and work at the same time it leaves you exhausted(I should know Ive just been signed off work 4 a fortnight)!

missk_ensington

icklejulez wrote:

Im not sure if its just the way she comes across, I wonder if Mrs Kensington could help us out here? When I had PND I sometimes said things that sounded a bit harsh, luckily it only lasted 18 months but it can last a lot longer. My mum claims I shouldnt be a mum as I work PT(in those days mums stayed at home) but I give my children everything in the world and go without sleep to be with them. Im not saying its easy I was so different with my first when she was a baby compared to the way I am with my second but it was the illness and not the fact I didnt love her. Remember young children are really hard work and when your trying to study and work at the same time it leaves you exhausted(I should know Ive just been signed off work 4 a fortnight)!

Thanks, let me clarify. I love my son, and obviously he wasn;t planned (dont think anyone would plan that one at 17!) I do all the things as good mum does, he has home cooked healthy dinner, I talk, I read, swing from tree to tree in the park like a twit, I sing, I dance, I stimulate him, I tend to his material needs, I show him love and support, I regularly tell him I love him......

.....I can help though, that when I'm out in the park kicking a ball, or painting, or building with bricks, that I'm watching the clock because I'm bored doing it. The prospect of spending 3 hours on a nature hunt with a 3 years old invokes the same feeling get at the prospect of tacking 2 weeks worth of ironing - It's mundane, repetitive and laborious and not particularly exciting.

Friends children are 5,6,7+ and I like them. I take them to the park and they run off and I barely see them. I;ve been on holiday with friends 8 year old - she'd made a heap of friends within 20 minutes and we barely saw her except mealtimes! She could come out with us in the evenings because she was capable of sitting and drinking a coke and having some crisps, or doing playing table tennis with her new friends whilst we watch the cabaret.

Not with my 3 year old. He can't sit more than through one song, and wants to run around ramming his pushchair into the backs of people's legs, which obviously I dont allow him to do. It's hard work, you canty take your eyes off the ball for a split second because he's be floating in the pool or pestering a table of people, or spilling his drink, or climbing on his chair......it's constant, never ending hard work. How's that a holiday??

Doesn;t make me a bad mother, or that my son is a burden, although for many things my son is a burden as are all kids - they burden your social life, love life, even going to the shop for a pint of milk is an almighty task. How is something NOT a burden when it requires military operation to post a letter?

Rachie_B

missk_ensington wrote:

Friends children are 5,6,7+ and I like them. I take them to the park and they run off and I barely see them. I;ve been on holiday with friends 8 year old - she'd made a heap of friends within 20 minutes and we barely saw her except mealtimes! She could come out with us in the evenings because she was capable of sitting and drinking a coke and having some crisps, or doing playing table tennis with her new friends whilst we watch the cabaret.

:eek: f@@king unbelievable :rolleyes:

sooooooooo now we get down to it,its not the fact that in your opinion older children are better behaved / more interesting...........

its the fact they are more independent and so you will have to spend EVEN LESS time with him than you already do !!!

As for the "never ending hard work" its called parenthood :rolleyes: BUT most parents would admit it is worth it !