more csa woes

gingergee

what does QC mean? lol xxx

his_wife

blackpool saver, firstly i apologise for not being grammatically correct:o and secondly , my husband isnt writing this as he doesnt have an account, so after talking to him, we agreed i would write what he says.

Whether, it is my child or my step child, if they are not living in the family home, why on earth should my husband pay to support his ex.The money he pays is for his daughters upbringing not for his ex partners bills. Hence, why i am having a gripe over it.

I will support all of our children, be it mine or his. We have none of our own, yet all children are seen as our own.

I feel your remark was rather uncalled for and extremely unhelpful, but each to their own and i hope you are never ever in my predicament.

No i cant wait for the payments to stop, that way, my husband, myself, his daughter, the qc and my children will all be better off. We will still support his child, but to her, and not to her mum.

his_wife

gingergee, qc is qualifying child. My step daughters mum has told her, once she no longer generates money into the household, she will have to move out. She is more than welcome to move in with me, however, it means sharing a room with two teenage girls, or sleeping on the sofa.

she is used to her own room, i can not physically give her that. We are more than willing to support her, as all the other children(there are a few) however, we can not and will not support her mum as well as her, we can not give her the money twice, we dont have it, end of.

My son, put hisself through college at 19 , he worked part time, he supported hisself. I gave him a roof, and food etc, he provided all books, equipment and clothed hisself. My step daughter is not much younger than he was, so why can she not do the same??

It all boils down to money!!!! Her mum refuses to give her any money, as that is her entitlement and not the daughters. We can not talk to he mum, she wont acknowledge my husband, i have never spoken to her, never met her. The daughter understands, we have spoken to her, yet she is well open to bribery;), her mum will offer her a holiday etc if she moves back home, minutes before the dead line will end etc, we have been down similar routes before, where the mum has kicked her out, i always take her in, without doubt.

My latest thought is now, do i move on with my children, and try and make a life for us, my children have lost out , mega times over the years, money and emotionally, yet they accept everything without quibble, i am now tired and weary of all this. I knew we both came with children, but never ever knew it could and would be this difficult.

Thank you everyone who has helped me, especially with the helpful comments, and similar stories.

shoe*diva79

his_wife wrote: »

doesnt it just!!! i just hope, we find a solution soon skibadee, no objection to supporting qc, just object to supporting her mum when shes not living there, and not benefitting from the money.

Never mind, i beleive in karma:p

I think its not the CSA to blame here - its the PWC who is defrauding the CB Office. If the QC really does not live at home, is not in college yet the PWC is still claiming CB for the QC then you need to inform the CB of the fraud so it can be looked into. The CSA can only go by what the CB Office tell them! Its clearly the PWC at fault here!

shoe*diva79

Forgot to put as well, if the PWC is found guilty of fraudulently claiming CB then she will have to pay it back and the CSA Assessment can be re-looked at an a refund gained for the NRP. The PWC an end up with a criminal record. Its serious stuff fraud....

his_wife

husband has informed child benefit this morning, basically, they have said,its up to the pwc to inform them, however, they will investigate. They havent given a time scale, but, going by previous experience, her mum will bribe her to come back home.

I agree its the pwc who is to blame, yet, the csa, and cb seem to play their own games too.

We shall see what happens, i am not holding my breath, shall just keep supporting her the best i can till such times.

Thank you for your help though:)

shoe*diva79

Report benefit fraud online?

his_wife

is that different to calling them?

shoe*diva79

Yes. Google 'report benefit fraud' and then just follow the instructions. You dont have to leave your name or anything. Just make sure know are 100% of the facts. If you know where the QC is staying then make sure you tell them the address etc. the more info the better

his_wife

yes we know where she is staying, and yes we are 100 per cent of our facts. We have never ever in our lives reported anyone for benefit fraud, and i am sat here feeling incredibly guilty.

thank you for your help