Going Out for a Meal - The Awkward Moment When Someone Says...

Alias_Omega

If you know that your not going to be drinking/eating with the pack, then you need to ask the "group" how the bill is going to be split.

If your not drinking/eating alot/getting off early then ask for your "own bill" and you probably wont be on your own.

Many times ive been out and had a 1ltr of bottle of water, and paid over £10 more than the total cost of my meal, but if you dont say something its just tough.

On the other hand, you could be the couple that is ordering expensive deserts, irish coffee's etc.

Swings & Roundabouts..

Marvel1

The more somebody has, the less they end up paying when it's an equal split.

I prefer the meals whre you note the table number and order at the bar - paying for your own meal then.

From experience I worked out I was paying more than I had, so if it's a restaurant and I guess who would split the bill I order one of the expensive main's.

Mistral001

cjdavies wrote: »

From experience I worked out I was paying more than I had, so if it's a restaurant and I guess who would split the bill I order one of the expensive main's.

If you know there will be people in the group who will abuse the system before agreeing to go why go? You are just colluding with them to the detriment of the rest.

onlyroz

cjdavies wrote: »

From experience I worked out I was paying more than I had, so if it's a restaurant and I guess who would split the bill I order one of the expensive main's.

Isn't this exactly the problem we're talking about? People think "oh we'll be splitting the bill so I'll order the lobster starter, the steak main, the fancy pudding and three bottles of wine - and those saddos on the diet pepsi can help me pay for it".

Sezzler

Most of the time I dont like just splitting the bill...ill just come out at the end and say.

If ive been out with work colleagues and they all assume we are going to split they will always seem to order the rib eye steaks and expensive drinks..

So if I get grumbles and so be it...By the time 8 or 9 people have all had 2 -3 pints and added this onto the tab compared to my lemonade my share soon adds up :mad:

Acc72

Newly_retired wrote: »

I regularly go out for a meal with a group of friends. Inevitably the bill is split. It is never fair

I used to resent splitting equally, as I rarely drink alcohol and normally avoid puddings, but have now decided to eat and drink whatever I want, more rather than less, if I fancy it.

That way, I feel I am getting more of a fair share, rather than subsidising those who consume the most.

It is noticeable that it is always the same people who consume the most.

So you don't like subsidising your friends, but you have no problem with them subsidising you ! (oh, and you also fall into the category of "always the same people who consume the most" !! ....).

This thread has taken an interesting tangent - although most agree that somebody somewhere has to pay, it seems that there are quite a few people who are not happy with this but instead of saying something they just order more food/drinks to ensure that they do not "lose out" (with I guess little thought for the others).

DylanO

Acc72 wrote: »

So you don't like subsidising your friends, but you have no problem with them subsidising you ! (oh, and you also fall into the category of "always the same people who consume the most" !! ....).

This thread has taken an interesting tangent - although most agree that somebody somewhere has to pay, it seems that there are quite a few people who are not happy with this but instead of saying something they just order more food/drinks to ensure that they do not "lose out" (with I guess little thought for the others).

You seem to be suggesting that those who would usually stick to their own budget should continue to eat as if they were on that budget, so the others can get a cheaper meal at their expense?

That seems very strange to me.

DebtFreein5Months

I must admit I am a fan of the bill splitting

I went out on a works do recently where 15 people could claim £25 a night for dinner and me and another colleague couldn't. We only had a dish that cost £7 and I ordered water on purpose cos of my skintness, the bill came and they decided to split it - £22 each!!!

I said I was sorry to be a pain but I didn't want to pay for the blokes who were necking 4 pints each! So I was the socially awkward one!! lol

Thumper7

Surely, if you are unhappy at bill splitting the first thing before you actually sit down at the table, or when you are ordering you say that you are only gonna pay for what you ordered.

why should you put yourself in an awkward situation, you have a tongue in your head, use it. If i'm on a limited budget I would make sure that everyone knew before hand. Common sense.

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