Daily OS 21st February

anniestar

Just a very quick post as things are far from ok at the moment. Just wanted to say a huge thank you to you all. I do keep up with this even though I haven't been about. In paticular thanks to the folk that have sent me PM's I am having hugh problems with them and WILL reply just as soon as I can. Special and gigantic thanks to twink and Cattie1 they know what for.dlb am SO sorry for missing your birthday was thinking about you. Am off now please don't be offended if I haven'n mentioned you you are in my thoughts.No offence meant(sometimes seem to struggle to remember my own name at mo!) We are also a Catholic household but don't know if I will make church today. Aw well.Have a good day and again, Thank you. AnnieXXXX

Bargain_Rzl

catowen - if I am a culprit in making you feel ignored, it was certainly not my intention ((((hugs)))) - I know I posted when you first said about your friend moving back to Oz, as I remember saying that my best friend is also due to go back to Oz in the not too distant future and that I was dreading the day he actually announced a date for leaving. Perhaps I missed your subsequent posts on this - I didn't mean to

Pollybear

When I thank, but don't post, it doesn't mean I don't care about what people have written.

It's more likely to mean that I don't feel I have anything useful to say. I find it hard to give virtual hugs. I'm not a huggy person in real life and it feels artificial to me to give out cyber hugs.

I'm not somebody who gets on with people. I have no actuall friends. I often type out replies and then delete them again.

Maybe I should stop pressing the thanks button?

Valentine_x

Hi catowen,

I am guilty as charged - I did read your posts about your friend emigrating and did really feel for you (but don't think I'd realised it had affected you so deeply and hadn't really stopped to think about how this might affect your daily life), so I apologise sincerely.

I am really sorry - and hope that you are coping okay. I know that you are still recovering from your trip to the U.S., but would it help to start a £2 coin tin or similar and plan a trip there in 2009 or so for you and the children? Or how about getting a webcam so that you can chat and still "see" each other on MSN?

Are you planning a going away party/night for her and her family? If not, could you think about doing something like creating a scrapbook or photo album of your friendship and shared memories or make her a tape/CD/minidisc/playlist for MP3 player for the plane of her/your favourite music for the long plane journey - to show you care?

I hope these suggestions help and apologies again for my oversight.

Love

Valentine xxx

catznine

Catowen so sorry you feel so down. To be honest I felt much the same last month when I posted about my worries over dd's health and not one person replied or sent hugs and I was really very very down about it. I think only Ivyleaf (bless her) noticed and e mailed me with concern.

But lets face it this is a very busy thread these days and I know there is often far too much info to take in (especially for those of us with fatigue problems) I am back because I know I can get advice and help with recipes and almost all things practible. There are so many others with far worse probs than me here.

If I have upset you then I too am so sorry, it wasn't intentional as I am sure the slight I felt last month wasn't either.

chin up, eyes forward you have 2 lovely children in your life and that counts for a lot believe me.

love Catz x

comping_cat

Thanks Rzl, catz and valentine - it definatly wasnt any particular person that upset me, it was just the general fact that no one replyed to my 'distressed' post (it wasnt the original one, when i first heard she was going, it was the morning she heard from the University and they had told her she had to be there by the 22nd Feb, which was less than 2 weeks away, a big shock when we thought she had longer here, she is also leaving her husband and oldest daughter as they cant go out until July, which is when we thought she would be going).
We actually had a leaving do for her last Friday, which was a lovely evening, but very sad - and we are still waiting for her date to go, Australia house are taking their time with her visa, but the university are being very understanding, but she does need to be there for the start of their term on Monday - we still dont know if she will make it yet.

Zed42

I read this thread virtually every day, sometimes (not often) I post, as a lot of the time, my life is pretty mundane, but having just read catowen's post ... I just had to say ((hugs)).

I think we all get tied up in our own little world's at times, and sometimes don't realise how others are feeling (Ok, well, maybe that's just me).

I, personally, find the Winter the hardest time of the year, it's cold / dark and bluntly depressing.

Looking at other people's posts today, I think we'll all be a lot happier when the Spring truly arrives.

Ok, my "exciting" day today consists of:

Sleepless night due to DD in/out of bed all night.
Schlep to the library to pay my fines.
Mooch around the charity shops in the vain hope of finding a decent 2lb loaf tin (not a non-stick one)
Contemplated whether 15 lemons for a quid is a good buy or not (bearing in mind I literally have £2 in my purse and that's it). (See other thread somewhere, low and mainly ignored ).
Hung a load of washing on the airer
Cleaned the bathroom
Cleaned part of the kitchen
Planning my new kitchen and starting to cost it out :eek: :eek: .

B - oatmeal with natural yoghurt and blueberries
L - toast 'n' marmalade
D - maybe shepherd's pie (I made a few t'other week, so just need to haul it out of the freezer).

Weigh-in is tomorrow and I know I'll either be the same or heavier. I keep wanting to get motivated to diet, but can't find that motivation

MATH

Catowen I'm sorry you felt ignored, I'm as guilty as the next person for skim reading the thread and alighting on the dozen or so posters I feel I know well or share some hobby or interest with:o Sometimes I come across a raft of posts offering 'hugs' and I have to read back to see what the fuss is about cos I missed it on the first scan.
I always try to include a universal hi/hug/have a good day, in my post as a 'catch all' but clearly this isn't enough if you have posted your pain.

I think the problem is that the OS board and Daily thread are becoming so big, when it was smaller it was easier to 'get round' eveyone. An idea I have started to introduce into my posts is when I thank someone, refer to another poster or post something I consider important or helpful I use bold.

eg: Here is the recipe for the Shepherd's Pie I made last night

This may help those who skim down or read things very quickly without taking it all in ie ME! LOL

Pollybear Use your thanks button as you see fit, it is YOUR thanks button:D Some people thank every post, some only those that have been of help/interest/ammusement and others not at all, prefering to PM.

Many thanks to all those loverly OS'rs who scan the board for wounded soldiers and send out pm's and hugs. Ivyleaf has sent me comfort and support in the past as have many others and it really does mean a lot.

MATH x

donny-gal

I'm sorry that catowen was upset, but I think you need to read the Thank You's a little differently, in my case if I do not know what to say, then I will use the Thank You to say "Thinking of you".
We all handle things differently, and if it were my Best Friend going to Oz, yes I would be upset at the thought of losing her regular company, but knowing miles cannot break a friendship I would be making plans to find cheap phone calls to Oz, ensuring there was Messenger/web cam so we could talk "free", and saving to go out and see her and the country. The way you felt (or even still feel) this may upset you, and that is not what I would want to do at all, so clicking thanks to say "thinking of you" is my way of not upsetting you and/or anyone.
You may say it is a heartless thought, me being more practical than anything else maybe so, or that I have a few "Good Friends" so do not know how deep your feelings go, whichever way I could not win.
I love the way there is no nastiness on this thread, and would never wish to start some, and being a virtual newbie, who is an eternal optimist, who usually bounces within 24 hours when down, also works in a male dominated environment, I have learnt that "daft comments" made to the male community and accepted and laughed at, can seriously upset female friends. That is one of the reasons I offered to be an ear is anyone needs to explode and don't want to do it publically. I am often "Aunty", "Big Sister", "Mum" at work, as well as a firm boss who makes things happen.
Another problem is that although I do read and take in everything, by the end of the thread I have forgotten who applied to what, so give a general greeting, maybe that is too ambiguous.

catznine

BusyGirl wrote:

catznine
Do you have a link to the recipe please?

Sorry Busygirl I printed recipe up last year and have tried to find it using all the searches with no luck. Hopefully Kaz won't mind if I post up her recipe:-

225g/8oz SR Flour
110g/4 oz butter
85g/3 oz Caster Sugar
Spices (cinnamon, nutmeg and ground cloves)
1 egg
little milk
good handful sultanas
extra butter for greasing griddle

Rub butter into the flour and spices to make fine breadcrumbs. Add sugar and fruit. Add beaten egg and a little milk to combine - should form a ball of dough. If too dry add a little more milk. Roll out on a floured surface until 1/2 cm thick and cut into rounds.

Lightly grease griddle with butter, place on heat and cook welshcakes. They take about 2 - 3 mins each side. Put on a wire rack and sprinkle with sugar.

Yummy!!