how did your relationship start?

sunshine2223

Also loving this thread! I met my fiance at secondary school aged 11. Thought he was cute but I fancied other boys more! Aged 14 my parents bought a house which turned out to be across the road from him so we started walking home from school together.

Aged 16 we kissed at a house party that he was throwing because his parents were away and we dated for about 2 weeks. He then dumped me for another girl!

We stayed friends and had the occasional drunken kiss when we were both back in our home town from uni. Then, aged 22, I set him up with my best friend which only lasted a few weeks and I realised that all the reasons she didn't want to be with him were the reasons why I cared for him so much.

A few weeks later we had another one of our drunken kisses and we've been together ever since!

silly_moo

We met at work, he was my boss I started working with him in January and by May decided I fancied him, then it took me a few months to convince him to ask me out. At first it was for fun, I was 23 and he was 39 and I thought it could never work. But it did work. We had to keep it secret at work until I left 6 months later. It was 7 years ago, we've now been married almost three and are awaiting our first baby in July.

daisiegg

I met OH online - a fact that we both hate and that no one actually knows apart from the two of us! Everyone else has been fed a different story of how we met.

Anyway, it was a website for something we're both into, and we got chatting a bit and were texting etc for a couple of weeks. Then he had a work thing in a city not far from me so suggested we met up for a drink after that.

We met up for a drink or 20 and I ended up staying with him in his hotel room that night...it was instant attraction, lots of chemistry but also lots in common and lots to talk about, despite a pretty big age difference. We had a crazy and incredible night together.

We parted at the train station the next morning and OH always talks now about how he thought he'd never see me again as I didn't even look back at him when I walked down the platform to my train, so in his mind I was already moving on and forgetting about him. I always retort that the reason I didn't look back at him was that I had tears running down my face because I thought I'D never see HIM again!

Suffice to say we did see each other again. Three months later he moved to my town, a couple of months after that I moved in with him, two years after that we bought a house together and another 5 months after that, we got engaged

We often marvel at how amazing it is that something we both expected just to be an evening (or night if we were lucky lol!) of passing the time together has ended up with us here, planning a wedding and the rest of our lives together. And we couldn't be happier

kazmc

Well I believe you have to be physically attracted to your OH otherwise it cant really work... but that is just my opinion.
I have met some fantastic guys over the years who were perfect on paper and who I could have settled down with and had a lovely life but physically they just didnt do it for me. I spent 2 years with someone who I didnt find attractive and I was fooling both of us. I so wanted it to work I pushed all the negative feelings to the back of my head. My friends and family have been totally exasperated with me over the years for my failed relationships!!!

Then 6 months ago I went for a drink with a girlfriend and was absolutely not in the least interested in entering into another doomed relationship.... until I clapped eyes on a gorgeous guy across the room and did something I have never done before.... I told my friend I was going to the toilet and she had to go and find out if he was single for me!! Bless her, she did and when I was brave enough to come out of the loo he was standing chatting to her (I was unaware at that point she had uttered the immortal awful words "my friend likes you"!!:o) We started chatting and the attraction was instant. I later found out that he is very shy with women and would never in a million years have approached me, even though he had seen me, so lucky I was brave that evening.
That night my DD had gone on holiday with her dad for a week so the gorgeous man and me spent an amazing week together and the rest as they say is history! I cannot believe my luck that this amazingly handsome man feels the same way about me and I now realise that this is what it should be like. We are already discussing moving in together and marriage, my DD thinks he is wonderful and we have a summer full of plans.
I couldnt be happier and now realise that physical attraction cannot be overlooked........ and I have finally found this out at the ripe old age of 44!!!! :rotfl:

bylromarha

Same course at uni - me and 2 guys ( A+G) were mates, hung around together all the time. Didn't fancy either of them and was going through a few boyfs who had to get A and Gs approval :rotfl:

3 of us were mates for a year, then I started going out with A after a drunken snog. Didn't really work, both quickly came to the conclusion the snog was a mistake.

G and I then had a drunken fumble and had a secret thang for a few months, finally told A (who hadn't a clue) and within a year G and I were engaged. All 3 of us still being good friends.

We married in June 99, A was best man and still is a really good friend. Think As wife still feels a little left out when the 4 of us meet up as there is clearly a closeness between me A and G.

VJsmum

I went out with a friend one night to meet up with her friends. There was a huge group of blokes in the pub and OH was one of them. I don't remember him being there as he wasn't the best looking or the liveliest of the group.

We were friends for a long time - at one point he went out with the friend who had taken me to the pub (she eventually married OH's brother!), I went out with someone else for 2 and a half years. When we broke up - OH and I just sort of got together. Another friend was after him and it made me realise that I wanted him! We have been together 24 years and married for 21 with 2 kids. I still can't imagine being married to anyone else. He is my rock.

There might be a better looking man out there but there isn't a better man.

It is still a joke between us that, although I remember the evening we met, I don't remember meeting him - but he remembers meeting me.

determined_new_ms

I love the story of how I met my oh. I was going through a really rough time in my life and was quite down about everything & my best mate got me to go to a party with her. I wasn't going to go but at the last minute I decided to go and met her in a pub where she was meeting a group of friends I hadn't met. When I got there we were chatting and the others turned up. My oh was in the group and she then nudged me and said she had met him the week before and thought he would be perfect for me (apparently she had spent the evening at a party with him, had been chatting to him for about and hour and said "you would really hit it off with my best friend" - I didn't know about this until the following week). He wasn't really my type and as I say I wasn't in the right place to be meeting guys.

At the party he kept cropping up and chatting to me, so much so that he made a joke about being my "friendly stalker for the evening". I left and that was that. Next time I see my friend I was chatting to her about it and was saying no it wasn't the right time for me and he wasn't my type. She then convinced me that I needed something to be happy about and just to throw caution to the wind and have a fling. So I texted him and said "your stalker skills aren't up to much, I think you should up your game." He came back and said "sorry the night vision goggles are in the post, should be up and running by the weekend" and asked me out.

The date was fine & we had a laugh but then he kissed me at the end of the night and my stomach flipped and that was it. We've just celebrated our 4th anniversary and he changed my life. I love him dearly

Ivrytwr3

picked her up in my police car...........!!

Savvy_Sue

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

picked her up in my police car...........!!

Is that ethical?

cloverfan

ok another question........has anyone had a relationship with someone they actually thought was quite ugly? I do realise how nasty and shallow that makes me sound sorry:o:o