So poor I can't even pay attention

NewLeaf_2

an honest days banana! Piq you do slay me xx

Piquant_2

NewLeaf wrote: »

you know how to make dough! Everything you cook sounds amazing.
What a nice way to spend a Friday, with DS.

How is the captian enjoying the sun?

I use a breadmaker to make the dough and then roll it out very thin for pizza. I use it to do the hard work!

suburbanwifey wrote: »

I didn't used to be able to make either decent pastry or pasta dough until I invested in a Magimix. It makes it in seconds, perfectly. I am now an amazing cook of pastry and dough I can't recommend them enough. No more shop bought pizza for us!

sigh....I so want a KitchenAid mixer....sigh....

I make pastry by hand, I like the feel of the flour running through my fingers I find baking very therapeutic [and fattening] Homemade pizza is amazing, especially when accompanied by wine

Piquant_2

I haven't been around for a few days. I'm not sure why. That's not entirely true, I know why, my daughter flies to Australia on the 28th and I'm very sad. I miss her already.

I don't need hugs, it won't make it any easier. This is something she's wanted to do for a very long time and she feels the time is right for her to do it now. Her long term love has returned to Brazil and she wants to move on.

I've taught all my children to be independent and live a life with no regrets, experience all that life has to offer and try not to hurt anyone on the way. Well, now she's going to experience a new chapter on the other side of the world.

I have no job, no money and no way of being able to visit her in the foreseeable future. I'm crying whilst I write this. I haven't told her this, I've done the cheery mum bit, the 'well done darling' thing.

She's asked me to go out to live there with her when she's settled. But how can I? I have other children here, elderly parents, beloved horse and cat. Not to mention debt and unemployment....

I don't need hugs. I probably won't mention this again, because it hurts.

Perhaps it's better that we all stick to the bananas...

Pippilongstocking

You might not want a hug, but have one from me anyway. Being a truly great parent means we hide this stuff from those we love, and know the reality of decisions. However you'll not always be Unemployed with no cash, that will change in the future and I'm sure you'll find a way to visit her.

Give yourself some space to deal with it when you can. X

Grand_Benders

Piquant wrote: »

I've taught all my children to be independent and live a life with no regrets, experience all that life has to offer and try not to hurt anyone on the way. Well, now she's going to experience a new chapter on the other side of the world. ... I'm crying whilst I write this. I haven't told her this, I've done the cheery mum bit, the 'well done darling' thing.

Perhaps it's better that we all stick to the bananas...

^^THIS^^



I'm not a parent (by choice) and not ever likely to be, but in my experience of life and watching both my sisters bring up their kids in very different ways, and different again to how we were raised, I have to say that ^^THIS^^ is my idea of great parenting.

That you can be cheery for her while your heart is breaking, and be proud of your daughter for living her life to the full as you've taught her... you can be very very proud of yourself as a parent.


...And sometimes bananas are overrated*






*but mostly they're awesome (and on here, they're funny too)

NewLeaf_2

Piq I can't imagine what you are going through. I can offer my listening anytime.

xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

I'm sorry you are sad piq. Will there be any chance of skype or anything like that to keep in touch while your daughter is away?

You never know what's round the corner, you may get there for a holiday yet. And in the meantime, I can only echo Grand Benders wonderful words. You must be a great Mum to have such a brave daughter Xx

Grand_Benders

Piquant wrote: »

I've watched/read several diaries where folk start off thinking it is so simple and then hit a brick wall. It's not actually difficult, it just needs a new mind set and the mantra on the site do I need it? can I afford it? can I get it cheaper elsewhere?


Piq

I meant to quote this when I caught up with your diary at lunchtime, to say thanks for the warning. I've been fairly happy with myself for setting up my DMP and taking control, but I know it can be easy to stray. I'm already behind with paperwork, despite NewLeaf's efforts to gee me up on my diary, and while we're on the subject, I'm REALLY bad at updating my diary (too busy reading everyone else's). I'm now going to have your quoted words of (Martin's) wisdom ringing in my ears whenever I'm tempted to wander from the path of frugality.

And now, I must get back to closing my month-end (yes, still at work) Will I make it a second-in-a-row midnight finish? :eek:

gallygirl

I can empathise Piq as my DD went to Australia for what I thought may be for good, though she actually came back after 5 months. I consoled myself with the thought that as parents we are programmed to worry. Far better to have something positive to worry about, than the fact they are on drugs, in an abusive relationship, drifting along aimlessly etc.

More important, do they have bananas out there ?

Caroline_a

Hugs Piq, even though I know what you mean by not wanting them. My daughter moved out this week, she's not gone far (and is back tonight for pizza), but my other two are opposite ends of the country. We are lucky in that we live in an age where international communication is easy and cheap (skype). We bring up our children so that they can be the best they can be and you seem to have done a great job.

Don't assume you'll never afford to go there, or that she'll stay for good, or that she won't be able to afford to pay you. Be glad for her as I know you are.