whose money is it?

jamespir

its half hers as her names on the mortgage too

property.advert

If she reckons half is hers, simply give her a print out with all the missed mortgage payments she hasn't made over the years and just net half of this refund off that much larger amount !

She'll sharp shut her cake hole

faerie~spangles

property.advert wrote: »

If she reckons half is hers, simply give her a print out with all the missed mortgage payments she hasn't made over the years and just net half of this refund off that much larger amount !

She'll sharp shut her cake hole

He's fek'd if she gives him the childcare bill:D

Big_Alf

faerie~spangles wrote: »

He's fek'd if she gives him the childcare bill:D

Surely you mean 'half the child care bill'

Personally I think 'her' money and 'my' money in a marriage is a bit strange, but seems to be a recurring theme on these boards.

I think it's impossible to answer this question without further information, though I notice the man hating squad have arrived on the scene early as per!

Does the OH contribute to anything financially? What does she spend 'her' money on? Will she say:

a) I'm taking the kids shopping, give me some money.
b) I'm taking the kids shopping.

For all we know the OH could be a complete sponger - how often do we see threads turned on their head when not being given the full picture by the OP until 6 pages in?

As someone else quoted - many a truth said in jest!

FBaby

Is the cheque on your name only? Whst you should have done is cash the cheque without telling her then, book a lovely week-end away just you and her, treat her like a queen, and when she'd asked how you afforded it, mention very quickly about the refund and how you felt it was right to spend it on a special time away together. She'll be so happy, she won't question the 'surprise'!

Molly41

You are married - an EQUAL partnership!

Threebabes

Wow pleased Im not married to you. I would go half or use it for a family holiday, joint savings.

I am a fulltime SAHM and my husbands splits every thing with me.

Pollycat

I've been flip-flopping between both sides here.

I read this below and agreed with it

krlyr wrote: »

If your mortgage had been £3500 lower over a set period, what would you have done with the spare money? It would have been in your pocket, so that's where the refund should go.

and then I thought:
based on the OP's arrangements, if the mortgage had been underpaid by £3500 - who would have paid it?
And the answer would be the OP - as he pays all the bills.

And he's been very clear that the money his OH earns is hers:

bluebaron wrote: »

I pay all the house bills, childrens bills and holidyas etc. She gets to keep all her money for herself. I have no problem with this arrangement.

zcrat41

It's not half yours, half hers, it's all yours as a couple.

If my OH wanted to split money down the middle I'd be off to find myself a hot shot career paying well straight away and charging him half for childcare plus everything else and also making him to half the chores.

Mojisola

*Louise* wrote: »

I would be really upset if my DH thought all the money was his just because I can't go out and earn as much as him.

bluebaron wrote: »

Now I work full time and earn quite a bit more than the missus who works part time.

I pay all the house bills, childrens bills and holidyas etc. She gets to keep all her money for herself. I have no problem with this arrangement.

I'd be really upset if I paid all the bills and my OH kept all his earnings for himself!