Any brides changing their name going to miss their Maiden name?

Dan:_4

daisiegg wrote: »

Before, you said: "For those that have asked if I would not marry my fiancee if she wanted to keep her own name, the answer is yes - what would be the point? We had might as well stay as we are!"

Sort of explicitly stating that there is no point in getting married if not for her to take your name!

There is no point - the end result of a wedding is to share the shame surname - if that's not going to happen then you might has not bothered. I want my post addressed to Mr and Mrs Dan.

mildred1978

Dan: wrote: »

There is no point - the end result of a wedding is to share the shame surname - if that's not going to happen then you might has not bothered. I want my post addressed to Mr and Mrs Dan.

Please provide a link to substantiate this.

If you can drag your knuckles off the floor for long enough.

I've been married almost 8 years. I've never once used my husband's surname. Legally, we are linked. Financially we are linked. We share our lives with each other. But you think we aren't actually married??? :rotfl:

Torry_Quine

Dan: wrote: »

There is no point - the end result of a wedding is to share the shame surname - if that's not going to happen then you might has not bothered. I want my post addressed to Mr and Mrs Dan.

The end result is to share a life together, good times and bad. The name is a very minor part of that.

Dan:_4

Torry_Quine wrote: »

The end result is to share a life together, good times and bad. The name is a very minor part of that.

People share a life together all the time without getting married.

Dan:_4

mildred1978 wrote: »

Please provide a link to substantiate this.

If you can drag your knuckles off the floor for long enough.

I've been married almost 8 years. I've never once used my husband's surname. Legally, we are linked. Financially we are linked. We share our lives with each other. But you think we aren't actually married??? :rotfl:

I never said I think your not married, what are you banging on about?

Em88

I cannot believe there are people who are as young as you with this ridiculous opinion that women must take their husband's surname and then stay at home to look after the children!!! It makes me really angry.

If it was still the assumed 'norm' for society then why have I had so many people ask me IF I am going to take my OH's surname when we get married?? I am going to but he wouldn't care in the slightest if I choose not to. He understands it would not mean I loved him or respected him any less. I am very near the beginning of my career so have not yet established a reputation but if I had then I would have strongly considered keeping my maiden name.

I truly hope you do not have any daughters if you are going to teach them that they must take their husband's name and stay at home to raise the children rather than consider having a career!

Torry_Quine

Dan: wrote: »

People share a life together all the time without getting married.

If you really think that changing her name is the reason women get married you really need to think again. It's about showing commitment and legality amongst other things. If it were only the name there are cheaper and easier ways to do that.

johannalf88

Em88 wrote: »

I truly hope you do not have any daughters if you are going to teach them that they must take their husband's name and stay at home to raise the children rather than consider having a career!

Or that there is only daughters so the name that is soo important dies out! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Dan:_4

Em88 wrote: »

I cannot believe there are people who are as young as you with this ridiculous opinion that women must take their husband's surname and then stay at home to look after the children!!! It makes me really angry.

If it was still the assumed 'norm' for society then why have I had so many people ask me IF I am going to take my OH's surname when we get married?? I am going to but he wouldn't care in the slightest if I choose not to. He understands it would not mean I loved him or respected him any less. I am very near the beginning of my career so have not yet established a reputation but if I had then I would have strongly considered keeping my maiden name.

I truly hope you do not have any daughters if you are going to teach them that they must take their husband's name and stay at home to raise the children rather than consider having a career!

My wife will be staying at home to raise the kids, because that is what she wants to do - if she wants to go out to work then I will not have any objections to this, as long as it fits around the kids schooling etc.

As the man, I pay the mortgage and the bills - my wife will never have to worry about this - any money she earns she can spend on herself.

As for a daughter, I would let them make up their own mind on how live life.

If I ever have a son that gives up his surname to take on his wife's I will disown him.

Dan:_4

johannalf88 wrote: »

Or that there is only daughters so the name that is soo important dies out! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

It's okay, my brother already has a son so the name will live on!