Parents, honestly!

Blue_Elephant

FMOW - I've been saving but also paying off the last of my debt. Where my parents live is also very convenient for work, in that it is walking distance. I want to pay off the last of my debt, then will be looking for a new job that pays more, but will probably be further afield.

The reason I've discounted renting in my immediate area is that they wouldn't like it. That may be a daft reason but I see no point in hurting them, whether they're being silly or not, without good reason. I'm thinking of letting things lie until I get my own house in order so to speak.

Judith, I think you're right. So I'm going to raise the rent as far as my budget is concerned then when they want more, I can help them out with the extra they won't take in the first place. I'm not even sure that makes sense in my own head yet. And I'm going to have to learn to but out.

Margaret - now to find a way to explain that to my parents I love the Mark Twain quote. It reminds me of the best piece of advice I ever got from a teacher. "Make the most of being a teenager while you still know everything". Of course I had no idea what they meant by that at the time!

beth.stephenson2009

I can totally relate.

With the food shopping- they spend ridiculous amounts on it, and think they are saving money by going three times a week, rather than once (twice at a limit for odd bits you run out of like onions, bananas etc) and spend probably close to £200 a week. I go, plan meals for a week get EVERYTHING and it comes to on average £100 a week which I still think is expensive. They do most of their shopping in ALDI. But when I buy the majority of household essentials (shampoo, conditioner, bin bags, soap, shower gel, cat food, washing up liquid, cleaning sprays, toilet roll, kitchen roll) in poundland saving them on average £10, you get the snobbery- despite alot of the things being just as good as you can get in ALDI or Tesco.

If you have really had enough- I would pay your share of the bills and rent, and buy your own food. And leave the rest up to them, it isn't your responsibility.

OR just move. What they going to do? Drag you back kicking and screaming? My parents wouldn't risk the assault charges. They are controlling your life, and you obviously don't like it.
You can obviously afford rent, utilities, you own food etc- so just do it. If I was in a situation were I could (relying on benefits atm!) I would.

mountainofdebt

Well I have to say that if my son started laying down the law about what I could spend my money on he would soon have to speak very nicely to his nan (not that he doesn't anyway) or looking in the rooms to rent pages.

But there again I don't think I would be expecting him to bale me out.

In addition this is not the first time that I have heard that someone with an Indian background was expected to give their parents money and that person was living away from home with a family of their own.

Personally I think the only solution is to move

FATBALLZ

£45/wk seems entirely fair to me, you are 1/3 of the household, and in fact have much less freedom than the other two who have all the power, so I totally diagree with those who say it is 'cheap'. Moving out would be more expensive (not that much though for a house share), but you'd have a lot more freedom for the money you'd pay. Living with parents is crap, I'd never go back to doing that unless it was that or being homeless - so there is no way you should be paying a premium to do so.

Having said that, if they want more you can't really argue, you either have to accept it or move out.