Is there a set time to meet an internet love intreast?

zoesmummy_2006

i think it depends on you and how comfortable you feel. i signed up to a dating site just over a week ago within a day of being on there i got a message from someone a couple towns away on the thurs night. we got chatting, swapped numbers that night and continued texting rest of night, and the following 2 days. I would have met him that sat night for a drink but already had plans with mates (first time i get a guy interested in meeting me and its the one weekend i got plans!!!).

we've been chatting all week again and would have met up last night but he had his daughter overnight, which he'd told me earlier in the week. last night we agreed next saturday night we'll meet up and go for a couple of drinks. I have an open mind about it, he's meeting me in my town so saftey wise im covered as everyone knows me lol. Obviously i want to think he's genuine and nice, he sure seems to be, but until actually meeting him i cant be 100% certain on that. All I know is that from talking online and on phone etc we seem to get on and I'd like to meet him and get to know him better maybe, and he said the same, so why waste time.

cloverfan

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

i think it depends on you and how comfortable you feel. i signed up to a dating site just over a week ago within a day of being on there i got a message from someone a couple towns away on the thurs night. we got chatting, swapped numbers that night and continued texting rest of night, and the following 2 days. I would have met him that sat night for a drink but already had plans with mates (first time i get a guy interested in meeting me and its the one weekend i got plans!!!).

we've been chatting all week again and would have met up last night but he had his daughter overnight, which he'd told me earlier in the week. last night we agreed next saturday night we'll meet up and go for a couple of drinks. I have an open mind about it, he's meeting me in my town so saftey wise im covered as everyone knows me lol. Obviously i want to think he's genuine and nice, he sure seems to be, but until actually meeting him i cant be 100% certain on that. All I know is that from talking online and on phone etc we seem to get on and I'd like to meet him and get to know him better maybe, and he said the same, so why waste time.

Good luck Zoesmummy...........I too have signed up within the last week! Can be a bit daunting tho cant it? lol

yvonne13_2

angelil wrote: »

I agree that you need to limit your search, which the OP did. And we now know that she was deceived by this man on this front. But that's not what you said before (which was tantamount to "LDRs are stupid and people who get involved in them are too"), so I'm sure you can understand why I took offence to your sweeping generalisation.

Thank you angelil, yes I did set my criteria for someone that lives within 18 miles of me, the problem is people can see the area where you live hence giving them a chance to amend where they live so I will accept there request to speak to me.

I sat back last night and looked at everything from all angles and this man appears to be tricky, how do I know where he really lives? How do I know it's not really a woman with a fake photo? When I asked to exchange numbers so we can have a chat he couldn't remember what his number is :eek:

Like I said something was not sitting right with me and I'm glad I posted the question on here as sometimes you can't see what's right under your nose.

zoesmummy_2006

its definately a bit daunting lol, im still a bit overwhelmed with it all, Ive literally just had another guy ive been chatting with give me his number!!! That makes me laugh, cos its been 15 months since i had a date, ive been out a few times with my mates and got nowhere, yet in 10 days of being on this site ive got a date and 2 guys numbers lol

Dont give up on it, write him off as a bad apple, its his loss hun, and he's freed you up to meet the other guys out there xx

Devi

i consider myself an internet dating veteran - because i've been on these sites for a while but still haven't met anyone i would consider beyond a first date.

its best to meet someone fairly quickly once you have exchanged numbers otherwise its easy to develop "feelings" for someone but there's no real chemistry when you meet and it feels like you've wasted your time.

Sounds callous but that's the world of internet dating and you have to approach it with an open mind.

Seanymph

ahem.

especially don't book three days to go to Malaga to meet with the man who you've only talked to on the phone.

When you get there you could find out he is not the person in the picture he showed you, he is holidaying with his awfully behaved five year old son and you are sharing a room with both of them. On a campbed at the bottom of their bed.

No, don't do that.

candygirl

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

I was wondering the same.
I'm new too all of this but have been stung all my life by blokes and wonder if I'm being to cynical!

Just take your time hun, and you will deffo meet someone as spesh as you are;):D

zoesmummy_2006

Seanymph wrote: »

ahem.

especially don't book three days to go to Malaga to meet with the man who you've only talked to on the phone.

When you get there you could find out he is not the person in the picture he showed you, he is holidaying with his awfully behaved five year old son and you are sharing a room with both of them. On a campbed at the bottom of their bed.

No, don't do that.

OMG seanymph did you do that??????? I hope you gave him a piece of your mind, then avoided like the plague unless you had to and enjoyed your 3 days in the sun

zzzLazyDaisy

Seanymph wrote: »

ahem.

especially don't book three days to go to Malaga to meet with the man who you've only talked to on the phone.

When you get there you could find out he is not the person in the picture he showed you, he is holidaying with his awfully behaved five year old son and you are sharing a room with both of them. On a campbed at the bottom of their bed.

No, don't do that.

You didn't? Please tell me you didn't!

Having said that, I knew someone who arranged to meet a man off the internet for the first time - at his time-share in Tenerife. She was supposed to be there for a week, but two days later she texted me from the airport, hoping to get a standby flight out of there. I never got the full story about what happened....

Another friend met a waiter when she was on holiday in Turkey, and on the basis of a few hours' beach walks when he wasn't working, went back to a remote village in Northern Turkey to meet his parents, who were devout Muslims and didn't speak any English. She took them some wine from the duty free as a gift! She lasted a few days and then phoned her brother and got him to book her a flight home (that was the first that her family knew that she was out of the country).

These women were grown ups!

angelil

^^ Or, on the positive side of such stories, I flew out to Paris to meet my now-husband for the first time, staying at his student apartment. Was this mad and dangerous? Possibly But as it happened it all worked out perfectly - everything went without a hitch. These things *can* work out occasionally, so I would never say someone shouldn't do it, although I would probably still argue that people need to have more of an exit strategy in place than I did (anything's better than none ).