Smoking around kids .... how bad??

FATBALLZ

Even living with a smoker is harmful, even if they don't actually smoke around you.

Mupette

I'm a smoker and I would like to point out that it not we all don't give a monkeys some of us bother about others

I don't smoke around children, I keep well away from them,

I have a room in my home that i smoke in, which is always with windows open, furnishings regularly washed, and i don't invite guests to that room, rather we go to the kitchen and sit around the table in there.

Gingham_R

There's no excuse for inflicting that on a child. She should smoke outside when the child is there.

How to make that happen in her own home is a different matter. I suspect you'll have to play it really carefully so she doesn't continue just to avoid perceived loss of face.

Might be worth finding out if your daughter minds and if she does telling her it's okay to mention it to her dad?

djdido2

Lazy, ignorant and disgusting smoking around children!!! (Those that do)

Lotus-eater

I don't think that these days there is an excuse for this sort of behaviour.

I just wouldn't let my kids go to that house, sorry, just not. I would make it clear that I'm not stopping him seeing or having them, but not in a place where people smoke around them.

I smoked for 20 years, never in the house once we had kids and before that only in one (my office) room.

I've also switched to e-cigarettes, so can now do it in the house if I want, but I still don't do it round my kids. I don't want them picking up that it's OK.

moneypuddle

Really surprised your ex doesn't have anything to say about it!!

meritaten

well, you seem to have had the same answer from 'impartial' (non-smokers) and 'partial' (to their ciggies). It is WRONG to smoke around children.
what are you going to do hun? seems to me that you have choices
say nothing - and risk your childs health
speak to ex - who may not be able to do anything about it and will just feel resentful probably
speak directly to the person and ask very very nicely if she could refrain from smoking around your DD or
dont allow her near the house - ex will have to see her elsewhere
Difficult one this - I dont know what I would do myself - its a judgment call on your part as you know the people involved.

lolavix

My partner and I both smoke, but when his son is with us we make sure we're very far away! I would never smoke close to children, it's just not right

Darlyd

We smoke. But we smoke in dining room or kitchen when kids are up/home. When they are out/in bed we relax in living room and smoke. But never around them. They also know not to come in kitchen when we are smoking.

It's wrong. You need to have words with your ex. It's up to you/your ex to protect your baby...

FattyBettyBoo

I don't see her to speak to her directly as he collects and returns DD otherwise I'd speak to her directly. I think I'm going to mention it on Friday and see how he reacts. She is really nice in all other ways but very dominant in the relationship so I don't think he'll challenge her. She has 3 kids at home so she is inflicting her own kids to much worse. She must have been doing it for so long that she's convinced herself its ok