Smoking around kids .... how bad??

Lotus-eater

I was told by the nurse when my DD was born, that after a fag I shouldn't be around her for half an hour, because for that long afterwards I would be breathing toxic fumes on her.

Lotus-eater

FattyBettyBoo wrote: »

I would never ever wish an illlness on my DD, but if she had to get a cough then the one that started last night was timed perfectly. Going to open with this ... something like "DD has a cough, quite chesty, so may need cough syrup .... bit worried about smoke..."

Well you're alot calmer than I would be I'm afraid. A bit worried? I'd be ballistic that he was putting my DD in that situation.
Is he a sandwich short of a picnic type thing?

Lotus-eater

*Beki* wrote: »

Will probably make some people angry by posting this but I strongly believe that people who smoke shouldn't have children. It is, as you say, the same as other addictions, and nobody sane would dream of having a child whilst addicted to cocaine or any other drug.

Are you going to sterilise them before they have kids, or make them abort, or take away their kids? What's the plan.

*Beki*

"Are you going to sterilise them before they have kids, or make them abort, or take away their kids? What's the plan."

Well I certainly think it's tantamount to child abuse, especially if the parent is smoking whilst pregnant. I appreciate it can be hard to give up something you're addicted to but that should be a preparation made before having a child, the same as analysing your financial/relationship stability... (but that's a whole other issue!)

FattyBettyBoo

but that should be a preparation made before having a child, the same as analysing your financial/relationship stability...

I would love it if this happened but I think in reality not that many people even analyse their finances (it will seem higher to people on here as we're all more astute ;-) ) and many people use a baby to try a fix a relationship

Lotus-eater

*Beki* wrote: »

"Are you going to sterilise them before they have kids, or make them abort, or take away their kids? What's the plan."

Well I certainly think it's tantamount to child abuse, especially if the parent is smoking whilst pregnant. I appreciate it can be hard to give up something you're addicted to but that should be a preparation made before having a child, the same as analysing your financial/relationship stability... (but that's a whole other issue!)

But you didn't answer the question....

Svenena

This article explains some of the risks of "third-hand" smoke:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/children_shealth/4126202/Parents-who-smoke-only-in-garden-may-still-harm-children-doctors-warn.html

vicmorrow

How come we can't spank a child yet we are allowed to give them cancer?

FattyBettyBoo

UPDATE ...

I went about it very tactfully and he said .... they've split up and he's staying at his Mum's so it won't be an issue anymore. That he hated her smoking and went on about it all the time to her but it fell on deaf ears. So I gave it the full works and told him just how bad I think it is etc.

They've split up and got back together before, but if they do again this time at least I've said it all now and can stick to it. Also, as DD is staying at his Mum's with him I can't see any reason why this couldn't continue if they do reconcile and won't still insists on smoking in the house.

Thanks to everyone for the help and support!

*Beki*

vicmorrow wrote: »

How come we can't spank a child yet we are allowed to give them cancer?

:T:T

"But you didn't answer the question...." @Lotus-eater... Sadly I don't have the power to do either, but would love to take all kids away that are not being fairly treated! Very idealistic I know...

"I would love it if this happened but I think in reality not that many people even analyse their finances (it will seem higher to people on here as we're all more astute ;-) ) and many people use a baby to try a fix a relationship" @FattyBettyBoo, I totally agree with you and it's very sad, but I do recognise that that's unfortunately the world we live in. Thank goodness for places like this to help people make more informed decisions!!