Weepy member of staff

dacouch

lynzpower wrote: »

maybe thats why shes so tearful

fact......

desert_rose

She's very likely highly sensitive. Many people are and if she's helpful, kind to others (winning employee of the month award indicates that she's tuned in to customer service standards) then just maybe she's a caring soul with a lot of empathy.

The down side of this personality type is that they wear their emotions on the outside rather than the inside. There's nothing wrong with that in the grander scheme of things yet in the world of work its seen as a weakness rather than a strength.

No one's perfect. We all make mistakes. Highly strung people though have huge difficulty in dealing with perceived inadequacy in any shape or form - probably due to issues stemming from childhood.

She's very likely terrified of making a mistake and that can become a sort of self fulfilling prophecy when you think about it too much and so the pattern repeats itself.

What she needs is an opportunity to excel without fear of failure. The boost that will give to her confidence should balance the highly strung nature of her personality and give her some space to accept her strengths and her weaknesses in a more objective way.

elsien

Ignore it - I've teared up on the odd occasion at work (generally when I'm furious with someone, which is a bit odd) and people being nice to me made it worse.
I'd much rather people didn't comment, other than to ask if I need a couple of minutes, then I can get my act together without it all getting a bit silly. I am furious with myself for getting upset unneccessarily and I would hate attention being drawn to it.

wik

Hi... I have just read this thread, and made me think of myself a 3and half years ago... My mother was diagnosed with a terminal illness and i had just started a new job - literally a week before she was first taken ill!!

I would cry at drop of a hat, but luckily the team i worked with took me under their wings, i had some in house councilling, which did help, I was then a year later diagnosed with depression and anxiety and was off sick for 13 weeks... I cant say how much the support I have had from work - including one person who at first I didnt get on with - and found his way of talking to me very stressy... we have now become the best of friends..

a year ago in a few weeks my mum lost her battle, but I coped - yes with some tears... I do still cry at work sometimes... But... have come to realise is part of grief...

I am about to go on a assertiveness course.. and my boss today said had i been on it already...lol ( i was being bossy )

maybe something like an assertivness course or an confidence building course is what the lady you work with needs ...
wik x

zaffi

wik wrote: »

maybe something like an assertivness course or an confidence building course is what the lady you work with needs ...
wik x

in a sea of craziness, this is by far the most sensible approach

the way threads like these develop happens all over these boards. The more people speculate, the wilder the speculation becomes.

Nothing in the OP suggested any of the vast array of personal problems posters on here are too quick (and IMHO, all too happy) to label a complete stranger with.

Judith_W

I'm another weeper though better than I was. I would be really aware of crying in the office, usually because I have mucked up. I'm a bit of a perfectionist and sometimes I couldn't deliver and hate myself for doing it, wishing I could be stronger and not so impacted. I would just want someone to ignore me. I would seek out my boss to talk to if I had an issue I wanted to raise.

Nine_Lives

McKneff wrote: »

Telling someone to 'get a grip' is just so stupid, it's like telling a person who is really depressed to 'cheer up'

Agreed.

Too many people are quick to judge. You get the classic line "i'm not judging, but....". "I'm not being funny, but....".

It's been 6 months it's been said - but so what. What if this is the persons personality?

When i get angry/frustrated, i can tear up too. Not cry, but tear up. Even if i'm just frustrated at myself.
6 months? I've been this way for 20 odd years. Should i get a grip? No, it's just me, the way i am.

We've all got things that makes us who we are. If someone is wanting everyone to act like XYZ then lets do away with the human race & replace us with robots.


ATEOTD the way i see it - is she doing her job well enough? If yes then no problem. If no then deal with it. She makes mistakes? Well back to the human/robot line then. We all make mistakes at some point. Are there too many mistakes making her no good at her job? Why are the mistakes being made?

heretolearn_2

nah I dance a lot better than David Brent :j

It's not been a problem from our point of view, I was just wondering if people who get like that prefer to have others ignore it or talk about it, that's all. I know when I was a terminal blusher in my younger days the worst possible thing for anyone to do was to draw any attention to it.

Thanks all, food for thought,

yeahyeahyeah

I cry a lot at work. I make a joke out of it but if I heard anyone talking about it 'behind my back' so to speak I'd be gutted.


I try SO hard not to because I have a reputation for it, but I'm just an over-emotional person. I'm quick to anger, easily upset, easily stressed, easily insulted etc.

I'd ignore it, if she's emotional she's probably easily embarrassed too.

CoffeeCup

lynzpower

Exactly my situation:-

"Just as an example over the last year I have been increasingly weepy, going bright red when spoken to, struggling to have conversations with people, tearful at the very slightest suggestion I had cocked up ( even if it was small mistakes) This was not like me at all , I just presumed life was getting on top of me.

I have been diagnosed with hyperactive thyroid that seems to be the reason for this ( i didnt go to the drs about this, but what I thought was an unrelated health problem) since i have been on medication my mood has improved quite a bit although i am experiencing other side effects."

Life eh?