Weepy member of staff

Blackpool_Saver

Googlewhacker wrote: »

Exactly it could be anything, anything that is trivial as well.

You specifically said it 'sounds like which indicates you believed that was what it was.'

Hi. just read my initial response and can't see anywhere where I said sounds like, please can you show me

Bennifred

heretolearn wrote: »

Thanks to all the weepy drawers out there for your perspective. It sounds as if just quietly ignoring it and carrying on is the best thing to do then.

I think this is the way to go - she's probably mortified with her own reaction and drawing attention to it could well make it harder for her to control her emotions.

Sambucus_Nigra

What I would do is to arrange a meeting outside the office and discuss it; that you want to support her as her manager, and everyone sometimes makes odd mistakes but you feel that you are not supporting her when you can't mention things that get her teary; so in order for you to do your job, how does she want you to manage this part of the job [that of dealing with these sorts of issues with her]. Then, it puts the onus on her to work with you to manage it positively.

marleyboy

Maybe she just wants a confidence boost. Maybe arrange for her six Month appraisal, with the usual banter of asking her how she feels about the job and if she has any questions etc. I would use the appraisal to give her an ego boost.

Maybe explain how impressed you have been at her work progress, but not to overdo herself and blow a fuse. There is no need to go over the top and letting her think she is the bees knees of the company. She is one of the cogs in the system that allows the machine to run smoothly, an essential part of the team, she probably feels undervalued and worthless, to which she is trying too hard to please everyone in order to be noticed.

You will be amazed at how much a confidence boost can do to to gain maximum performance with a pride that they are not only able to achieve satisfaction, but are recognised for their abilities.

cte1111

I've been a bit like this in the past, e.g. tearing up when criticized. Personally I would prefer it if people ignored it, I'd rather not react like this but it seemed to be a bit of an automatic reaction unfortunately.

penelopedee_2

I could be classed as a weepy person at work because sometimes if all the attention is on me, whether the person is being kind or I'm being told off, my eyes well up. It is embaressing and its not like I'm about to go off and have an emotional outburst or something. It just happens.

My bosses tend to kindly ignore it as they know it is just a physical reaction and not an emotional one. I'm not a shrinking violet and can stand up for myself perfectly well and I have a happy life. Personally, I would be mortified if they asked me what was wrong or pointed out I looked like I'm about to cry

Sooki

heretolearn wrote: »

(we do give credit where it is due, she's won employee of the month once so far for having a pro-active and helpful attitude) .

Seriously! Do you people really still do that, I can't think of anything more likely to cause issues in the office. Actually so many I daren't go on. But if you think this is healthy you are extremely deluded! & I think this may be your problem.

You don't seriously think the others haven't been backbiting her and been immature saying look at her she only just been here 5 mins and thinks she runs the place etc... If they haven't done anything like this or worse they must be the most unusual set of employees on the planet.

Employee of the month is aimed at making employees competitive not to make them feel nice.

She probably thinks your a pile of idiots and probably feels trapped and frustrated, hence the tears.

dandelionclock30

Are you sure shes not depressed?

Charityworker

Do you think she might think she can't do the job but desperately needs to keep it because of money worries?

Blackpool_Saver

I am not a fan of employee of the week/month/shining star all that carp to be honest, I think it's demeaning........