No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

Floss

Why not suggest that your sister buys you out now and then tries to sell the house by herself, no matter how long it takes? It may be too much (financially or emotionally) for her to take on, so might just prompt her to see your point of view

fuddle

We can move straight over to auction monna. Im just reading the valuer's email. Says to try it on the open market during the Christmas and New Year period as it's quiet at auction so the EA can target their investor contacts and if no offer by end of January to consider auction. I'm happy with that strategy so will forward that email to her when I get back from the shop tomorrow and hope I can write something that calmly explains my feelings.

Thank you all and Floss? So funny to think my sister would buy me out. That would never happen but made me laugh so thank you.

Monna everything does just work out in the end.

pollyanna_26

Fuds I remember the discussion a while back regarding you needing closure . I think your email tomorrow is an excellent idea and I believe you can write it in a way that shouldn't cause problems . I will send the vibes for a positive outcome and cross my fingers too x

Hoglet I can't believe the bike ride has come so fast . It seems no time since you first mentioned it with quite a long time frame . This may be another year when we're all asking where has the time gone .

Hoping SM AOT and all others are well .

Lainey Gentle hugs and much love to you and yours x
polly x

Floss

Polly yes I have a new job, and I'm loving it! Only 3 days a week which suits me just fine

LaineyT

Fuds, another one here who believes the house would be better sold asap, the longer it stays on the market the more chance there is that it ends up going for much less, hope that you can get all this across to your sister.
Another tough day yesterday, had to have a conversation with the hospice consultant re pain relief for Mum and why it wasn't a good idea to wait until she asks for help! I appreciate that they use a more holistic view and everything is driven by the patients needs etc but with such a stoical lady as my Mum it just means that she waits until she is in agony before asking. Anyways, they have increased the slow release morphine and we have agreed with Mum that they will ask her at least every two hours, in turn she has promised that she will ask more often!!
Tough as well because every day now DM tells me that she has had enough and is ready to go, I feel so helpless at that, lord knows I dread losing her but it's so difficult watching her suffer in this way, all I can do is be there for her.

Talking of which time to get going, love to all x

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When being there is all you CAN do love it's enough. You're looking out for her interests with the medics and monitoring the pain relief closely and you love her, that's really ALL than matters now isn't it?

monnagran

Lainey, this is the period of just waiting. Time seems endless and you don't know what to hope for. Please take comfort from the fact that your Mum is is a good place and that you are with her as much as possible and the doctors and nurses are actually listening to you.
I can understand that your Mum has had enough and just wants to slip away. When that happens it is quite likely that your overwhelming feeling will be one of relief. The grief comes later.

We are all with you in spirit.

x

pollyanna_26

Lainey as Lyn says all you can do is what you are doing now . You are there with her and managing her needs so you are left to wait out the hours or days ahead . She will be aware she is surrounded by love right to the end . You may find some comfort that she is not fighting to live but ready to rest . There are so many in real life and on here wishing a gentle peaceful passing and I hope that will happen .
Love and strength to you all xxxxx

Floss Good the job seems just your thing . Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs before the prince turns up

Love to all
polly x

fuddle

Floss what job are you going to do now? Good luck with it

My sister and I are on the same wavelength. The email received a response that I had hoped. By the way we email in tough situations because we're fiery when on the phone. It's a fragile relationship that we both want to move forward. I called the EA to ask to move to auction and all of a sudden there are 3 viewings booked in. I am a very cynical being so warily I am trusting it to be true and in agreement with Sis we will leave it on the market till the end of the month. Come February if there's nothing concrete it will go on auction. I can leave that all alone now.

I have also heard that the searches are back and we should have our new house in 2-3 weeks. All systmes go my friends!

And finally I have actually received money from a debt collection agency. You know I'm working hard on mam's estate and had to go through 10 years of unopened post? Well I found that she overpaid a debt by £100 and have been fighting for it back for a few months. Not only that but £20 in gift vouchers for Sis and I as an apology for their mishandling of the situation. My half I think will go to a steamer pan.

I am tired my friends, as you probably realise by my scatty, frantic posting. I'm going to be quiet for a few days, immerse myself in packing and try to get back to my decent frame of mind. I will be reading along though.

Lainey, you are always in my thoughts my friend.

pollyanna_26

That all sounds very positive Fuds - nearly there now . Rest up and look forward with hope . xxxx
polly