No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

candlelight_2013

Lainey thank you.

You do need more help now, I think there comes a point where you don't have the medical knowledge to deal with the end stages of an illness, You have all done your utmost to keep Mum at home and to make her as comfortable as possible. Hopefully there will be a place at the Hospice for Mum and they will be able to control her pain more effectively.

Will be thinking of you my friend I am sure the hospice lady will do her utmost for Mum.

Much love

Candlelightx

pollyanna_26

Lainey You will all be in my thoughts . I will light the candles and keep them burning today . Much love and strength to you all .
polly xxx

candlelight_2013

We are back from the heart failure clinic. The professor says Himself is doing well, although the kidneys have improved only very slightly. He has only been on the new tablet regime for 4 weeks so wouldn't expect to see a great deal of change.

He is changing the tablets slightly again so we are with the GP for a new prescription tomorrow. He is very pleased with how the GP and ourselves are managing the illness but is going to refer him to a cardio renal clinic probably in a couple of months.

We must be doing something right thank goodness and I am determined he will be as well as he possibly can be

Candlelightx

candlelight_2013

Lainey, I have been thinking of you and Mum most of the day.
I hope you have managed to have some help from the Hospice lady and she has been able to put something in place to help you all

Much love

Candlelightx

pollyanna_26

Candlelight I'm so pleased the meds seem to be making a difference and hope the change of meds will help matters further . It must be a comfort to know Himself is in such good hands and ease some of the worry you must have . We'll be back at the Drs early tomorrow , hope your visit goes well - Bless these wonderful doctors .
I've had Lainey and her mum and family in my thoughts too and pray the help now needed is being sorted .
Love to all
polly
xx

LaineyT

Oh Candlelight, that is good news to hear, will keep everything crossed that the new meds can improve things even further.
Not long back in, darling Mum has now been admitted to the hospice following our meeting this morning. Think it quickly become apparent that she has deteriorated over the last few days and we simply couldn't cope any longer with providing the level of care she now needs. Thankfully there was a room immediately available and she was all safely moved in by mid-afternoon. It's a lovely place, her room has a big window overlooking the garden when she can see all the birds on feeders etc. By the time I left she had managed a small bowl of jelly &ice-cream and was getting very drowsy.
It's been an extremely hard and emotional day, even though we all know that we have done 100% the right thing for Mum there is still the awful dread that somehow we have let her down by not seeing it through ourselves I know that's probably daft, guess am just tired.
Thank you all for your positive thoughts and love, means a great deal x

pollyanna_26

Lainey I said it in an earlier post . None of you have failed your dear mum in any way . She has been loved and cared for in a way that is quite rare nowadays . She is now warm and safe with instant care at hand and the means to instantly control the pain . I understand your feelings but you have all now selflessly done the most loving thing you can do for her .
Much love
polly x

candlelight_2013

Lainey I am so pleased Mum is in the Hospice they will now be able to manage the pain much better and she will be so more comfortable.

You know what to expect from when your Dad was in a Hospice, and you know you haven't let her down, in fact you have given her the chance for her last few days to be almost pain free. You have done this with all the love in the world for your Mum.

You are tired, exhausted and absolutely drained emotionally. Mum is in very safe hands, be kind to yourself. Have a warm bath or shower, sit in your PJs and cuddle up to Capt S. and have a hot chocolate or something stronger if you like it. Your DB and SIL will hopefully manage some sleep tonight knowing Mum is being well looked after.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF, no guilt, no what ifs, you did everything possible and your Mum knows that.

Night night, sleep tight

Much love

Candlelightx

monnagran

Lainey, just be glad that your dear mother is in the best possible place, for her and for you. Someone else will be doing the hard work and you and your DB and SIL will be able to just be with your DM with no distractions or obligations.

Cuddle up in the warm tonight and I pray for sleep for you all.

x

Nargleblast

Lainey - your Mum was with you all for Christmas, hold on to that thought. Wishing her rest and comfort in her new place, and wishing you all peace and strength for the days ahead.