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  • fuddle
    fuddle Posts: 6,823 Forumite
    Thank you for sharing ladies. To think that mam could have been in peace as her body gave up is comforting. It's so difficult to support you Lainey because you're continually supporting me, even though you don't realise it and even though it's so difficult for you, and that I find very unfair but please know you and your family are in my thoughts daily.

    You continue to write with calm and peace and I hope that is seeing you through these very sad times.

    I too like solstice. My candles will be lit when the house is peaceful this evening. You will all be in my thoughts.
  • Afternoon everyone, a busy day but satisfying to have most of the jobs on the list ticked off and at last 5 minutes to sit and have a cuppa. We went to the farm butchery with my brother this morning but they hadn't any nice brisket so we ended up coming back home and then walking up to the centre to the butcher there who went beyond what I hoped and actually got a big brisket out of the fridge and trimmed it totally lean, rolled it and tied it and then cut the end off so I could have the best of the meat, superb service and lovely lean beef for Christmas day. We went to the farm shop and got everything we needed and I popped home for lunch then walked Cookie which was very pleasant. Nearly there and I'll sleep well tonight.

    LAINEY mum is like a summer rose that has gradually settled into autumn and is now shutting down to go through the winter, bless her, she's fought valiantly and I think she's won the extra time with all of you because of her indomitable spirit and unquenchable courage and now is the season to let her rest, peacefully, graciously and with love in all your hearts until her journey is gently, calmly, tranquilly ended and she can be at peace. You and your family have also been valiantly courageous, have faced each step of this difficult but necessary pathway with dignity and compassion, have supported mum and each other in every way and have carried on living your lives as best you could through all of it. Mum has had the best caring love possible and you have found and given all the help available for her because you love her so. Now her journey is slowing you will find the strength to see it through to the end by supporting each other, you will because you all care about each other and although it will be a great sadness there will also be the knowledge that all was done that could be done, with love and caring and smiles, that's as good an ending as ever I heard of, you'll do my love, you'll do!

    CANDLELIGHT I'm not sure if Zebra is fully au fait with Santa but he knows something good is going to happen in the next few days. He's a happy little lad as a personality and seems to be quite content with whatever comes his way. I think he'll enjoy having us and his other grandparents and aunties down to visit as much if not more than getting all the presents, of course he'll like all the new things but somehow I feel that 20 minutes playing chase in the garden or reading a book is already worth more to him than a whole box full of new toys plus he's a good little trencherman and will LOVE all the Christmas food and fun, and we'll love watching him love Christmas!

    Going to sort out a wardrobe in a minute and take out some too big clothes as I feel like I'm wearing marquees with some of my tops at the moment, which is really lovely BUT flappy!!! Lyn xxx.
  • Floss
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    Lainey, thinking of you, it is hard but easier to let ones remaining parent go to where they will be at peace and together with their beloved again.

    Floss xx
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  • fuddle
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    It's one of those nights again. I can't sleep.

    I managed to slice right through the tip of my left index finger last night so it's strapped up and out of action. It means putting my quilting away for a few days.

    We shopped atSainsbugs last night for our Christmas goodies. It was quite quiet and would have been quite enjoyable but for the two little excitable urchins we had in tow. That said we don't go over board at Christmas, we have our Christmas dinner, ingredients for Buche de Noel and cheeses but we did pick up fancy potted slamon for our starter and pancetta and chestnuts for the brussel sprouts. We bought a fresh turkey crown and some oak smoked bacon to wrap over it. DH and I are very aware of the Christmases past whereby our Christmas food was everyday food so we know how lucky we are to be in a position to splash out on extras and for us it's extras within our meal not extras to indulge in... except for the cheese! I don't think that will ever leave us now and it's a good thing, certainly from an appreciation viewpoint.

    I'm now off to go try find something to do, quietly and without my left index finger. Sleep would be the obvious choice!
  • scottishminnie
    scottishminnie Posts: 3,085 Forumite
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    edited 23 December 2016 at 1:43PM
    Morning all.

    Lainey - sending hugs to you and yours. Savour every moment you have with mum and take comfort from knowing you have done absolutely everything you could and more. I'll be thinking about you.

    Fuddle - I hope your finger is ok. I'm just about to start on hollowing out those oranges to put the sorbet in then freeze them so I'll try to be careful:D

    I'm working from home today however, for once, it's relatively quiet so I'm multi tasking. I hit the gym at 6.15 for the circuit class so was home,washed and dressed before daylight - not that I think it will be daylight at all today. Storm Barbara is making herself felt here and I'm so glad I don't have to go out later.

    Have a hair appointment tomorrow morning (after my last burst of gym activity) then I will drop in to see my neighbour who is in a home temporarily (been 8 months now:() and then to see hubby's aunt who was widowed this time last year. I normally take her flowers when I visit however I think she may have plenty as its Christmas so I have a batch of meringues in the oven and will box them up and take some cream so that she can use them over the coming week or so if she has visitors.

    Have decided to make Delias 3 cheese terrine as a starter for Sunday as my mother isn't terribly keen on prawns etc so will get to that tonight.

    I'd better get back to work so hope everyone is staying warm and safe and not having too many travel woes.
    NO FARMS = NO FOOD
  • :xmastree:Good morning all,

    SM you sound to have everything under control. I hope the weather isn't too violent where you are. I know Scoland is suffering quite a bit.

    It is a gloomy day here. I have stripped the bed, washed and ironed linen. Had to be dried in the TD it certainly wouldn't dry outside. I know it probably sounds mad but I always have to change the linen for Christmas Eve.

    We did the last bits of our shopping yesterday. I have a big piece of silverside in the slow cooker, so that will be in most of the day. I think it will be a jacket potato tonight with cheese and salad. I really don't feel like eating a great deal especially when I am cooking.

    Fuddle I hope the finger is healing. I expect the girls are very excited now.

    Lyn are you with Nell now? Have a lovely time

    Lainey I am thinking of you all, it is difficult to know what to say. You probably already know, but the morphine will affect Mum's breathing. I want to send my love and a comforting hug, and I know capt S will be there for you when it is time.

    Polly hoping for a peaceful Christmas for you all before the medical appointments start again. Himself goes on the 29th to the heart specialist.

    Floss safe journey down south, have a good time

    Elona enjoy yourself with all your family, no doubt the girls will spoil you with pressies.

    Hoglet enjoy Australia and the sun

    To everyone have a good Christmas if you can, thank you all for being my friends and listening and hope we all have a better year.

    Much love to you all

    Candlelightx:):xmassign::xmastree::snow_grin
  • LaineyT
    LaineyT Posts: 5,065 Forumite
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    edited 23 December 2016 at 3:31PM
    Hello my friends,

    Just having a few quiet moments to enjoy a mug of soup, DSIL and niece have gone out to meet a pal for lunch and nephew is upstairs on his game console.
    Both of my uncles came over this morning to see Mum which was lovely but she is worn out now so fast asleep. The nausea and sickness has started up again so we have got a new prescription from the surgery which should help, it's the same drug as the one in her "just in case" bag but that was in injection form so we needed a tablet version. It's a reassuring how quickly things are sorted if we need them.
    Have told my SIL will be here all today so please take time out to relax with friends, I know how much it means just to have a few hours "off" and just be for a while, just simple things like having my hair done yesterday really helps to top up the coping reserves.
    As does all your support my dear friends, it means a tremendous amount to me to know that we are in your thoughts, thank you doesn't seem adequate but it's all I have, bless you all xx
  • Evening all, we have had a really nice day down with Ruthie and Zebra, a pre Christmas family day where we have just enjoyed each others company and played with the boy. Nell got him a VW Camper Van toy which he adores and we had two successes which were a Disney Cars pair of pyjamas and a rucksack with his favourite Cars character Lightning McQueen on it, in fact he insisted on wearing the pyjamas all day bless him. Much laughing, giggling and playing went on along with many cuddles and much jollity. Ruthie is in very good spirits, baby is partly engaged and she is feeling the benefit of being on maternity leave and is much restored and less tired for a week at home. Neils parents and sisters are arriving tomorrow for the holidays so I know they will have a lovely time and Zebra will have lots of extremely willing playmates and heaps of fun. Tired after a super day and sat here warm and cosy with the stove alight and a curled up Pushycat on his sheepskin fast asleep, it's lovey!
  • You know a friend has started to click to your tastes/etc - when they pick just the Christmas present for you that you've been wanting (but didn't want to spend on such a luxury for yourself).

    Cue for a task after Christmas of deciding just where to put a beehouse I've just been given:D.

    Think I shall be doing some wandering around my garden thinking "Maybe here....no maybe here....no maybe....etc....etc" now.

    Is it okay to fix one to the wall of my house? or am I going to find stray bees coming in through any nearby window if I open it? - hence wondering if it would be a bit more sheltered for them underneath the eaves of my house...

    Where have other people put theirs?

    Bearing in mind this is a very rainy, very windy part of the country.....
  • We've just had Goulasch with noodles and German red cabbage for lunch and I had a delicious apple strudel coffee afterwards, very nice way to start Christmas. Watching the rugby on TV Wasps/Bath match and when it gets dark we're off for a wander round the area to see all the community Advent Calendar windows, we've got a map! Nell and I popped to Tesco early this morning for the last few odds and it was empty so not the usual awful experience and then went to the 'Reindeer Shop' nearby and found a stollen to finish the Christmas food, Nell delighted because it is a TIN! (doesn't take a lot). We gave Nells lovely neighbour Cathy some prosecco, chocolates and a nice bunch of white lilys because she goes out of her way to look out for folks here in this friendly little road and always does house duty for lights ad curtains etc. if folk are away, she even without being asked watered Nells veg beds over the fence for the entire 3 weeks she was away in Borneo this year, a good woman, a good neighbour! Later this evening Nell and I are going to the midnight service at the Cathedral which will be very nice and then it will be Christmas ....Merry Christmas everyone! thank you for a year of sharing, a year of support and friendship, a year of comradeship and unity, you all make life richer, better, lighter and collectively make me smile when life gets heavy. Bless each of you, thank you for 2016 and your tolerance in the bad times along with your laughter and understanding in the good times may you all have a wonderful Christmas and may 2017 allow us all to share life here and carry on being ourselves, Lyn xxx.
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