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What Would You Do?
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the question is is he happy ? does he feel shy awakward and queiet nd does he see it as a problem?
im just asking because i was quiet shy and dint liek talking to people at that age but i was perfectly happy personally i would not of changed a thing i did not do the "normall" things i was supposed to be doing at that age but to be honest im a better person for it. i spent lots of time alone on my pc. some foundit wierd. i dint.0 -
Its a hard decision, I have been in a similar situation with my DD, i discussed the situation and my feelings calmly with her and said that whilst I respected her choices in friends she had to respect my feelings about them and how they treated her. I told her years ago when she was young that just because she made up with a friend after they had been nasty with her didn't mean i could forgive that easily.......afterall as parents we see things differently to our children. I think we are moving towards a dangerous society when we just accept and smile at awful behaviour because it is becoming the NORM. I would not be able to be nice to so called friends who had treated my child like this, and yes at 22 he is still her child, but then again I am an outspoken Irish woman:rotfl:
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I'd just refuse blank to do a single thing for those friends anymore.
Can.... have a lift? No.
Can... have dinner? No.
Can...............? No.
Why not?
Tell them I use facebook as well. Only I know how to use the security settings.
That sort of stuff loses bands bookings, so they're doing themselves no favours by peeing off the transport and catering department, as anyone wanting to see what they're like (as a friend who is musical director of a club does) and if the viewer happens to be relatively mature - or Jewish - then they're likely to be dropped like a hot turd.
Oh, and once one of them gets a van or a girlfriend with a good enough job to pay for food (or meets someone with those things and better at the instrument he plays) your son is going to be told to f off, anyway. At which point he just forms another band with other people. It's what happens.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll
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Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »I'd just refuse blank to do a single thing for those friends anymore.
Can.... have a lift? No.
Can... have dinner? No.
Can...............? No.
Why not?
Tell them I use facebook as well. Only I know how to use the security settings.
That sort of stuff loses bands bookings, so they're doing themselves no favours by peeing off the transport and catering department, as anyone wanting to see what they're like (as a friend who is musical director of a club does) and if the viewer happens to be relatively mature - or Jewish - then they're likely to be dropped like a hot turd.
Oh, and once one of them gets a van or a girlfriend with a good enough job to pay for food (or meets someone with those things and better at the instrument he plays) your son is going to be told to f off, anyway. At which point he just forms another band with other people. It's what happens.
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thefishdude wrote: »the question is is he happy ? does he feel shy awakward and queiet nd does he see it as a problem?
im just asking because i was quiet shy and dint liek talking to people at that age but i was perfectly happy personally i would not of changed a thing i did not do the "normall" things i was supposed to be doing at that age but to be honest im a better person for it. i spent lots of time alone on my pc. some foundit wierd. i dint.
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At some point though he is going to have to learn to stand up for himself and perhaps he does now over important things.He is quiet but very laid back. He seems happy enough and goes along with what the others want to do.
Some people are just laid back and take the path or least resistance but they all have their limits. Talk to him, ask him if he's happy etc.
The most hurtful behaviour from friends is not the in your face nasty comments i.e. taking the michael because you are short/tall/ginger etc. but exlcusion! Is your son excluded from boys nights out?
~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
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...friends, one of which is here at the moment and I am giving dinner, were saying some horrible things about him, really nasty. Basically they were calling him a retard and a new Jew.I don't know what they mean by that....
If one of them is in the house, and staying for dinner, I would have - apparently randomly - said "So, this business of calling people a "new Jew"... what's that all about? What does it mean anyway? Sounds awful.... But maybe it's not meant that way?"
Then judge from their reactions whether or not there's really an issue.0 -
At some point though he is going to have to learn to stand up for himself and perhaps he does now over important things.
Some people are just laid back and take the path or least resistance but they all have their limits. Talk to him, ask him if he's happy etc.
The most hurtful behaviour from friends is not the in your face nasty comments i.e. taking the michael because you are short/tall/ginger etc. but exlcusion! Is your son excluded from boys nights out?
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urban dictionary is normally a good source of slang! ~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
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Not really. They do seem to stick together apart from the one who said the nastiest things who has separate friends and I think he's a bit arrogant because he's so brilliant musically and he has a beautiful girlfriend. Even so he spends a fair bit of time with them and is classed as a good friend. (up to now at least)
I've always known they teased him a bit but didn't realise it was so unpleasant.
Well if he's not being excluded then they obviously like his company. :T
The F and C word is bandied around and a lot unfortunately and seems to have lost it's meaning to many youngsters.
Teasing amongst close friends is perfectly normal. My DD gets teased for being blonde though she is far from blonde. She knows this, her friends know this but bloody hell, sometimes she has blonde moments:D ~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
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