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What Would You Do?
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spidersandsprinkles wrote: »Speak to your son. You sound very concerned. Do not contact anyone about it until you have spoken to him. I'm 23 years old and would be very upset if my mother went behind my back about something like this. I would feel as though my friends would think I needed my mum to stick up for me which could be very upsetting for your son if these men are bullying him. Find out how he feels about it and support him to get to the root of this but please do not take matters into your own hands. He may know that these people are saying nasty things about him and may feel embarrassed, you taking it into your own hands would only make him feel worse.
Thanks for your input. I suppose its all about getting revenge on them on my part but I can see your point of view.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
If you are on friendly terms with the other mother I don't think it would do any harm to ask her about it. She might be able to give another perspective on things. Although, at the age your son is I don't believe you or the other mother should get directly involved unless you believe you son is going to come to any serious harm. It would help you to talk about it and also she can look out for any signs of bullying that you might not have seen.0
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I would not say anything.
There is always going to be banter from male to male. They will probably be on about someone else soon.
If they disliked him that much Im sure they would not keep seeing him.
Do you think he is being used by them in anyway or have they known each other for a long time?0 -
carefullycautious wrote: »I would not say anything.
There is always going to be banter from male to male. They will probably be on about someone else soon.
If they disliked him that much Im sure they would not keep seeing him.
Do you think he is being used by them in anyway or have they known each other for a long time?
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I don't know what some of that means either.
The only thought I have though is that at 22, your son is an adult, just like you. So what would you want to happen in your life in similar circumstances? Would you want to be given a choice about how to deal with a situation which might be upsetting, or would you want one of your parents to intervene without telling you first, possibly misunderstand the dynamics, and perhaps humiliate you publicly or destroy a friendship which you consider to be worth having even if not perfect?
I personally wouldn't act without talking to my son first, and not at all if he didn't want to, however upset I was personally feeling, and however much I personally wanted revenge.0 -
Are you sure it's not banter. People purposely b!tch about friends for fun on facebook. Girls call one another sluts, b!tches etc. and tell them they are ugly, they pretend to b!tch about one of the group as if they can't see it, knowing full well they can. That's the joke. Between friends it seems it's okay and they know they are joking.
Also at 22 he really doesn't need his mother getting involved and telling tales to his friend's mother will make your son a laughing stock.
By all means ask your son about it if you are a facebook friend so could have seen the comments, but owning up to snooping on his facebook (I mean logged in as him) is just not on.
~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
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I was going to say the same thing, I saw a status the other morning that had 126 comments, looking at it it seemed to be a row between people but then by the end of it you could see they were just calling eachother names for the sake of it and having a laugh, I don't get it personally but have noticed it before.Are you sure it's not banter. People purposely b!tch about friends for fun on facebook. Girls call one another sluts, b!tches etc. and tell them they are ugly, they pretend to b!tch about one of the group as if they can't see it, knowing full well they can. That's the joke. Between friends it seems it's okay and they know they are joking.
Also at 22 he really doesn't need his mother getting involved and telling tales to his friend's mother will make your son a laughing stock.
By all means ask your son about it if you are a facebook friend so could have seen the comments, but owning up to snooping on his facebook (I mean logged in as him) is just not on.0 -
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