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What Would You Do?
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Well if he's not being excluded then they obviously like his company. :T
The F and C word is bandied around and a lot unfortunately and seems to have lost it's meaning to many youngsters.
Teasing amongst close friends is perfectly normal. My DD gets teased for being blonde though she is far from blonde. She knows this, her friends know this but bloody hell, sometimes she has blonde moments:D
.............................................................................................The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
Without seeing the conversation its impossible to say if its jsut banter or bullying. But I cant imagine 22 year olds would waste time with someone they didnt like. So perhps it was just banter?0
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tbh - next time I was 'entertaining' his 'friends' I would wait until son was out of the room and then announce that I had seen what they were saying on facebook about him. and tell them that I thought up until then I thought they were nice people. and I no longer think that. they may think its a great laff to call people retards and new jew - but I dont think its funny. call me old fashioned - but insulting people and then socialising with them is 'two faced'.
I hate bluddy effbook - it must be a major cause of people falling out judging by the amount of people who post on here upset by comments on it!0 -
Not really. They do seem to stick together apart from the one who said the nastiest things who has separate friends and I think he's a bit arrogant because he's so brilliant musically and he has a beautiful girlfriend. Even so he spends a fair bit of time with them and is classed as a good friend. (up to now at least)
I've always known they teased him a bit but didn't realise it was so unpleasant.
Perhaps this is the crux of the matter, remember the most popular kid at school, everyone stayed with them and left out the least popular, or the one with glasses, etc etc. They go along with the most popular one because they are afraid that they may be the one that gets left out, for some obscure reason. Perhaps the top dog is doing the stirring, and the others feel forced into it, but they really like your boy, self preservation maybe. Understandable but sadly misguided, they will grow up learn one day, same as we all do.make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
and we will never, ever return.0 -
Sometimes this is the way younger blokes communicate with each other. You should hear some of the stuff my husband and his brothers call each other! They're allowed to call each other names but if someone else did it to one of them they would gang up and all hell would break loose! I don't just mean mildly offensive stuff either, it's really hardcore insults.:j30/7/10:j
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durham_girl wrote: »Sometimes this is the way younger blokes communicate with each other. You should hear some of the stuff my husband and his brothers call each other! They're allowed to call each other names but if someone else did it to one of them they would gang up and all hell would break loose! I don't just mean mildly offensive stuff either, it's really hardcore insults.
yeah - but thats family stuff - I bet if their friends did it they would gang up on them and beat the carp out of them!0 -
but there is so much bromance going on now. They younger generation are much more loving and everyone is like a brother/sister to them!yeah - but thats family stuff - I bet if their friends did it they would gang up on them and beat the carp out of them!
~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
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Spoke to my husband about this last night. Not about the evil conversation (I haven't revealed the full extent of it). I haven't shown him that because he would be upset and very angry. However, they put a remark on the Facebook bandpage which they know we look at and it was taking the p out of our son to do with his performance. They also take the p out of him on stage about him not being able to get a girlfriend.
He says he doesn't like it either as it goes on all the time and said that he is going to say something to one of them. I then said that he is 22 and that it will be his dad sorting out his problems. He agreed that this is the problem and decided not to say anything. I said they are disrespecting him as a band member in public. He said that I have to remember that if he wasn't with them he would probably be a recluse playing computer games in his bedroom. As it is he has a good social life.
I then said I don't like the nickname they have given him which is a p taking play on his name. He said he doesn't either and he has thought of names for them which are derivations of their names and he is going to start calling them to their face. I was laughing in the kitchen later at the names he has given them and my son asked me why I was laughing so I told him and he thought it was really funny.The forest would be very silent if no birds sang except for the birds that sang the best0 -
Poor man having Mummy fighting battles for him!!
Leave him alone to decide for himself whether he wants these friends or not. You cant do that for him, nor should you.
You are making out that you know more than your son when it comes to his friends and in the end, your son will not thank you for that.
Leave it be. Its not your place to deal with it.0 -
I think you need to grow up. No wonder this is such a dilemma to you. You seem to be acting like a gossipy, mean teen yourself.Spoke to my husband about this last night. Not about the evil conversation (I haven't revealed the full extent of it). I haven't shown him that because he would be upset and very angry. However, they put a remark on the Facebook bandpage which they know we look at and it was taking the p out of our son to do with his performance. They also take the p out of him on stage about him not being able to get a girlfriend.
He says he doesn't like it either as it goes on all the time and said that he is going to say something to one of them. I then said that he is 22 and that it will be his dad sorting out his problems. He agreed that this is the problem and decided not to say anything. I said they are disrespecting him as a band member in public. He said that I have to remember that if he wasn't with them he would probably be a recluse playing computer games in his bedroom. As it is he has a good social life.
I then said I don't like the nickname they have given him which is a p taking play on his name. He said he doesn't either and he has thought of names for them which are derivations of their names and he is going to start calling them to their face. I was laughing in the kitchen later at the names he has given them and my son asked me why I was laughing so I told him and he thought it was really funny.0
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